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2014-07-20 08:21 3021009 Anonymous (1351190245440.jpg 500x400 22kB)
How do you know if you are bisexual? I have mixed feelings about this question. I have been with my fiance for almost 7 years now and I feel like I am attracted to the opposite sex, however, I am still in love with her? I have no idea what to do.

15 min later 3021044 Anonymous
Shiiiiit don't come here for that kind of advice.

17 min later 3021047 Anonymous
>>3021044 I thought this was a board about this type of shit.

24 min later 3021070 Anonymous
>>3021009 are you sure you still love her? because that seems to be the real question here, and no one else can answer that for you.

35 min later 3021088 Anonymous
>>3021070 I do love her. I just don't know if its possible to be bi and still love her

38 min later 3021095 Anonymous
If you have a female fiancee who you plan on marrying, what does it matter if you could possibly be bisexual and attracted to men as well? Why should this change anything? When you're married, you're going to find plenty of other people attractive who are not your spouse. But the whole fucking point is that you're committed to your spouse and not them. So what you should do is not be fucking slut and throw away a good thing to go "explore your sexuality". The grass might look greener on the other side, but if you're happy with your own damn grass, it won't matter.

40 min later 3021098 Anonymous
>>3021095 Thank you

48 min later 3021110 Anonymous (Ziya.Tong1_-682x1024.jpg 682x1024 139kB)
>>3021088 It amazes me how people don't understand bisexuality. The real question here is have you been lying to yourself all your life? If not, it is probable that you are bisexual to some extent. I have a gf of 3 years but I still consider myself bisexual, if people ask. It's just attraction you know. I have to put words on it and the definition for what I'm attracted to is bisexuality even though it is not a label I especially liek to use. They told you all your life that there was black and white. It's not true at all. In fact, I know bi people that don't even know for themselves. Just like you m8

52 min later 3021116 Anonymous
also >I just don't know if its possible to be bi and still love her Implying it's impossible to love if you're bi. Thank you very much! This is pretty insulting

52 min later 3021117 Anonymous
>>3021110 I just feel all confused and I feel bad for having such thoughts but I desire and enjoy thinking about it

1 hours later 3021136 Anonymous
>>3021117 If you really love her and she cares for you she shouldn't freak out about it. I mean, I don't know you social background and stuff, but if you think she would let you down for being attracted to a few guys she might just not be the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. If she's ok with it, you can always ask for a threesome and see if you like it or not... Bisexuality is pretty different from person to person. You can't think it as a 50/50 thing. Yes it's all very confusing....even more if you get it late. I mean, I've always loved girls and been attracted to some guys, but I only understood that I was bi when I fell in love with a guy for the first time when I was 16 (didn't turned out very well)

1 hours later 3021139 Anonymous
>>3021136 I'm glad I'm no the only one has gone through this its really stressful.

1 hours later 3021141 Anonymous
>>3021139 Are you male or female?

1 hours later 3021152 Anonymous
>>3021141 Male

1 hours later 3021153 Anonymous
>>3021136 >ask for a threesome Do you realize this is nightmare fuel material for the majority of engaged or married people? The majority of people are monogamous and there's little chance of experimenting with others once you've made an engagement. Especially if the OP is female and her partner is a lesbian, in that case that would be the most disrespectful, disgusting, and devastating things to ask from her.

1 hours later 3021168 Anonymous
>>3021139 >>3021139 Yeah the later you get it the harder it is to swallow. When (and if) you embrace yourself as a bisexual person you'll feel good....like somebody just gave you a magic gift that you keep forgetting you have. A fun, strange, exciting gift that opens a whole lot of possibilities. But surely you were attracted to the same sex in the past?

1 hours later 3021193 Anonymous
>>3021009 >How do you know if you are bisexual? Well ... >I have mixed feelings *boom* Question answered yourself. Sleep tight.

1 hours later 3021195 Anonymous
>>3021168 I...I was but my father would have kicked me out of the house if he found out I was a "maricon" and disowned me. But then I found a wonderful woman that "fixed" all that.

1 hours later 3021210 Anonymous
>>3021153 It depends on the kind of relationship. You can see for yourself, but not from the internet lel. Stop seeing sex from you standards there are actually different types of people and relationships in the world!!

1 hours later 3021228 Anonymous
>>3021195 ok...now it sounds more like suppressed homosexuality but I'm not you I'll never be able to know. You have clearly been raised in an environment where homosexuality is extremely bad. THIS is why your feeling bad about your feelings. Now tell me if you told yourself all your life that you're supposed to be attracted to females or if you actually are attracted to females but also to some males.

1 hours later 3021244 Anonymous
>>3021228 attracted to females and also males. I don't know how to feel tho. Having these feelings feels good but I feel a rush like when you are about to steal something from a store. I want to talk to my fiance about it but I dont want to push her away.

1 hours later 3021254 Anonymous
>>3021009 Are you sexually attracted to both men and women? Yes? You're bi.

1 hours later 3021282 Anonymous
>>3021244 so I guess you're scared of being gay because of this rush feeling? Well, if you never tried something and you want it, it surely is exciting as hell ey?^^ I'll tell you right now (even though I'm speaking like you don't have a fiance) it is exactly like kissing a girl for the first time...the first date..the first fuck..or just even flirting seems suddenly a whole new thing. It's all very familiar except it's totally different. I'm not very clear but you get the point. The point is, it's new, it's stressful, it's exciting, therefore it's suddenly a very big deal in your life. It will eventually drive you mad if you never do anything about it.

2 hours later 3021352 Anonymous
>>3021009 step 1) pull up Internet step 2) pull up gay porn step 3) boner =bi

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