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2012-12-12 12:10 14007608 Anonymous (katy-perry-i-kissed-a-girl.jpg 488x318 13kB)
Hear me out /soc/, I have a fucked up story to tell. Two years ago I met this girl who I got fucked up in loved with. Eventually I confessed (over call) and she said "she had never thought of me like that.". I felt smashed after that for a year and a half. Now I'm mostly over her, although sadly our friendship was fairly broken. Then we start talking at a party. She says she had never thought of me like that before that call, and that she would love to meet my next girlfriend because we were so much alike and we could be great friends. I agreed, being mostly over her. Eventually walking together to another party, we talked some more and she said she would kiss me and see if we could work together. Ended up with a no. After that she kissed me again. Said the same thing. What the fuck? How does that even work... I've asked her out and she said yes to some beers. We're gonna have a casual date. Does she want me even though she said we could never work together, and ended up kissing me, only to reject me based on my kisses? Also she was very friendly at work the next day. Maybe she considers our friendship repaired, or she's gotten some interest in me?

6 min later 14007693 Anonymous
Help me out /soc/ Don't make me go to /b/ with this...

10 min later 14007747 Anonymous
>>14007608 On the surface it looks like she's a mental case and you're beta as fuck. I'm inclined to help you, but I'll need more backstory. How long were you dating before you confessed that you loved her? Did you actually use the words "I love you"? Who asked who for the kiss while walking to the party? Who rejected who after said kiss? How friendly is friendly? Finally, what kind of job do you share? Do you already have a gf?

11 min later 14007768 Anonymous
I'm also assuming you have a dick, not a vagina, because the pic you posted is misleading.

15 min later 14007816 Anonymous
>>14007747 We weren't dating. We were just good friends because our personalities are alike and we think the same. I eventually fell in love with that likeness and comfort and told her the following; I've started liking you recently, and I was wondering if you'd go out for a coffee" She asked me for the kiss, said she now knew why we couldn't be together, something I completely agreed with (same as the part that we couldn't be together because we were too much alike), and then she just kissed me again, and said the same thing once more, with me agreeing once more... She walked up to me and started talking friendly friendly at work later onwards. We work at a mid-class job. Not inclined to tell more unless necessary. Also, yeah I'm fairly beta when it comes to girls on that aspect, especially when it comes to the only woman I've ever loved (and first real kiss now :D). but I'm liked by most girls otherwise. Fuck I've got several who want to sex me, and others who've asked me out.

22 min later 14007912 Anonymous
>>14007816 >I eventually fell in love with that likeness and comfort and told her the following; I've started liking you recently, and I was wondering if you'd go out for a coffee" Also she rejected me by saying she'd never thought of me like that, although she was pretty shocked. We said we'd talk later but never did.

37 min later 14008072 Anonymous
>>14007816 So wait... you AGREE that you shouldn't be together because of too many similarities? Or was that the beta in you trying to appease her? If that was your first kiss how old are you? The job only matters in generality, as in are you a server at a restaurant, or a cashier at a quick stop, or a cubicle drone? It helps to understand the dynamic of your friendship and as to whether or not she takes time out of her work day to come over and be nice to you. Still waiting to hear back about the m/f thing. If you're a girl, this makes MUCH more sense.

42 min later 14008109 Anonymous
>>14008072 I agreed at the party yes. I thought she was talking with me as a friendly chat about what happened two years ago. It was when she kissed me that I started wondering if she liked me or not, because she was giving away mixed messages like mad. Also I'm male.

46 min later 14008149 Anonymous
>>14008109 Yeah, my initial assessment may just be right. She's got issues and wants to flirt with you, but only remain friends. You need to grow a set and move on. Go get your dick wet with one of those other girls that asked you out or wants to sex you.

51 min later 14008201 Anonymous
>>14008149 Thanks for the tip. I will take that into account at our next encounters. My current plan is basically to remain friendly but not give her too much attention. I'll flirt occasionally to see how she responds to it, and if positively, then maybe I'll increase it if I start liking her more, because like I said, only woman I've ever actually loved. I'll figure out if she wants to remain friends or not. Also I think you're right on that aspect. She casually asked me out for a date back at the party. Said I could go that day. Day after I messaged her and asked if she wanted to go out the next week, which she said yes t.

3 hours later 14010057 Anonymous
Definitely Beta as fuck. Man up and do something else.

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