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2013-05-19 11:48 6975206 Anonymous (1362848314001.jpg 633x758 131kB)
What are your options to get a social life if you've been ostracised in town since school years due to various reason and now everybody your age immediately avoids you? For the sake of argument let's assume I don't have the money or the capability to leave. ( P.S I'm aware thread will be flooded by attempts to troll, you should save your efforts because I'm completely apathetic )

2 min later 6975219 Anonymous
No options, the only friends you're ever going to have are e-friends. And the only girl you can fuck is a prostitute.

3 min later 6975226 Anonymous
Have hope. That's the only advice I am qualified to give and I hope you take it. We are all going to make it.

3 min later 6975227 Anonymous
>Just go outside and make friends

4 min later 6975232 Anonymous
>>6975226 Hope for what? Maybe a quick painless death.

5 min later 6975234 Anonymous
0. Get job (if you don't have one already). 1. Be as frugal as possible until you have a few grand saved up. 2. Move.

5 min later 6975238 Anonymous
1. Church. Any decent church is big on second chances and won't turn you away. Spend enough time there doing work or whatever and you may encounter people who willing to look past whatever reasons you were otherwise ostracized. I know nowadays religion gets a lot of flack, but churches as social organizations can be really good. 2. Get money, then leave.

6 min later 6975242 Anonymous
>>6975219 This. I mean, unless you get your shit together and leave town. I'm somewhat in the same situation. I find my town incredibly unstimulating and depressing. I have a handful of friends but that's it. They all have lives. I can't really into girls because I'm really socially stunted. So I'm going to try and get a job, and save up to move across the country, for a fresh start. It's probably way more difficult than I imagine it is (haha, I can't even drive yet) but shit man, if I don't try, I'll spend the rest of my life kicking myself for ending up like my parents.

9 min later 6975256 Anonymous
>>6975242 >>6975234 With my luck, someone from my social circle in the new town would remember my name from some "funny story" told to him by someone from my town, and all my money and effort and will go to waste.

10 min later 6975263 Anonymous
>>6975238 >Church Not everybody lives in a Christian country..

15 min later 6975287 Anonymous
>>6975256 That's why you move as far away as possible. You're just a pussy who is afraid of happiness if you stay in the comfort of your home area and probably don't really want to leave to begin with, so don't do that.

17 min later 6975293 Anonymous
>>6975263 More Christians out there than anything else, statistically speaking it wasn't bad advice.

19 min later 6975305 Anonymous
>>6975287 Ignoring the accusations which I told you I'm apathetic to, the problem is I live in a tiny country. The entire population is about 5 million, and it's only like 400km across.

22 min later 6975316 Anonymous
>>6975305 I didn't mean to come off as a troll. But yeah, that sucks. Move to another country? I have no clue, man. Sorry.

23 min later 6975322 Anonymous
>>6975305 Singapore?

27 min later 6975337 Anonymous
>>6975316 Well that's what I wanted to know, if there are chances or not. Didn't really believe there's any worthy advice, but maybe there are support groups for people in the same situation or something, I don't know.

39 min later 6975388 Anonymous
tfw no hope

40 min later 6975396 Anonymous
>>6975337 >Didn't really believe there's any worthy advice >worthy advice Oh fuck off, OP. We're not here to blow smoke up your ass. You're clearly not willing to do shit for yourself. Don't blame that on us.

43 min later 6975411 Anonymous
>>6975322 singapore is like 40 mi/65 km across max dummy

48 min later 6975429 Anonymous
>>6975396 >You're clearly not willing to do shit for yourself. What do you want me to do? Tell me what options I have that don't only exist in fantasy books and I'll do it.

49 min later 6975433 Anonymous
>>6975206 >ostracised in town since school years due to various reason What were the reasons? > options to get a social life Answer Question #1 first. There's a huge difference between > ew that guy's creepy lol and > ew that guy touches children > entire population is about 5 million, and it's only like 400km across I live in a city of about 3 million and obviously it's much smaller than that. Despite the close proximity, I've moved across town and never seen many people again. Hell my brother lives just outside the city limits and I haven't seen him in 10 years (we don't get along, but it's not like we're actively avoiding each other by not going to certain places).

50 min later 6975436 Anonymous
>>6975411 I figured he meant squared area (though apparently that's like 700km). Chile's under 300km across, but it's long as fuck.

53 min later 6975449 Anonymous
>>6975293 Wouldn't there be the expectation of all of the Christian girls not having sex before marriage...or at least believing in marriage? blah, kinda puts a damper on it.

54 min later 6975454 Anonymous
>>6975433 >I live in a city of about 3 million and obviously it's much smaller than that. You've read it wrong. my entire COUNTRY has 5 million people in it. >What were the reasons? Severe anxiety, behavior problems in school.......was assigned an adult "assistant" to be nearby me.

55 min later 6975455 Anonymous
>>6975429 Stop putting the expectations on us to solve your life issues. It's fine to ask for advice and we can make suggestions, but you're acting like it's up to us to figure this shit out for you.

58 min later 6975469 Anonymous (damn that ass is phat.jpg 944x712 98kB)
>>6975227 >just go outside and make friends >go outside >make friends

58 min later 6975471 Anonymous
>>6975455 You must've gotten me wrong though, I only said that I was trying to see if there's a chance or not, but I was pretty sure the answer I'll get is no chance, which is basically what the guy I was talking with said. ( Unless I move a country, which is obviously unrealistic )

1 hours later 6975478 Anonymous
>>6975469 trolld hard bro !! xD (blox)

1 hours later 6975490 Anonymous
I have virtually no disposable income. I need money to be social. I just can't do it with no fucking money. When I do get a job there's no way I'm spending that shit on alcohol and bullshit clothes for the sake of socialising. I'll try to find a young (under 16yo) girlfriend who will be happy with the amount I will spend on her.

1 hours later 6975501 Anonymous
>>6975490 how old are you? i'd like a young teeny, myself. not sure how i'd meet one now that i'm out of school, though.

1 hours later 6975505 Anonymous
>>6975490 At least you have a relatively easy way to become social, I have none.

1 hours later 6975509 Anonymous
>>6975478 /v/ called, they want your post back.

1 hours later 6975516 Anonymous
>>6975433 So you asked me, I replied in >>6975454 I take it you aren't responding because my situation is doomed?

1 hours later 6975571 Anonymous
Honestly, moving wont help. The reason why you have never had a social life is because you have a personality deficit. I thought it would get better after I left highschool, but it was just as bad at uni. And now its just as bad at my fulltime job. The problem is with you, and until you fundamentally change who you are as a person, nothing will help. Unless ofcourse you would be content with befriending other social outcasts, like furries and anime obsessed whales.

1 hours later 6975632 Anonymous
>>6975571 You're judging without even thinking about what you're saying. I don't have any personality deficit. I have never even *talked* with another human during most of my school years. Due to my extreme anxiety ( not social anxiety, generalized anxiety ) , and behavior problems , and the fact I had an adult "caretaker" watching me during school breaks, I was never even approached by anyone. I have no idea how my personality is like or what I can change, because I've never been in contact with another human my age.

1 hours later 6975641 Anonymous
>>6975206 Protip: best social training you can get at this stage is in situations where people are forced to interact with you, such as.. wait for it.. SUPPORT GROUPS!

1 hours later 6975655 Anonymous
>>6975454 I think you read it wrong. I've moved around in a city of 3 million people -- I almost never see people I'm trying to avoid, and I've managed to move through at least a couple of different social groups. I was born and raised here. Again: > city smaller than your country > yet I've accomplished what you claim is impossible It's not hard. Just change your social habits and patterns of behavior. Since you're a robot you probably don't have any to change. So adopt new ones.

1 hours later 6975671 Anonymous
>>6975655 Yeah except that I'll have to move a city, and on the off-chance that during the years somebody there will hear mention of my name, all my money and effort go down the trash. But yeah, that's the only slim chance I have, and I don't even know how to get the money to move in the first place. Thanks for the suggestion anyway. >Since you're a robot you probably don't have any to change. I don't, I have never been approached by someone who had any intention other than speak a few words to me.

1 hours later 6975683 Anonymous
>>6975632 "anxiety and behaviour problems" is something most people would/will attribute to your personality. >Personality >Noun >The combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character. The time you spend with friends in highschool and early adult life is time spent developing social skills, learning the intricacies of these relationships and social situations. Understanding what is acceptable and how to act etc You missed all that.

1 hours later 6975707 Anonymous
>>6975632 >never talked to anyone >I dont have a personality defect! Why did you have a caretaker watch over you anyway?

1 hours later 6975712 Hades
>>6975206 You should start with reading books about personal-development. Read atleast 20 pages a day. In a few months, you are a different person.

1 hours later 6975720 Anonymous
>>6975683 Both problems didn't have to do with my "personality", I'll give you the specifics >anxiety Fear of noises, jumping at noises, pacing in class, fear of being harmed by another human >Behavior problems Humming in class, problems with teachers, difficulty to sit at one place, etc.. >You missed all that. That's correct, Even If I have the worst personality possible, that was never the problem and I don't have any way of knowing that, simply because I've spent my entire childhood with adults, and only ever spoke to or had contact with adults.

1 hours later 6975744 Anonymous
>>6975707 >never talked to anyone >I dont have a personality defect! You think kids are going to talk with someone who they think is crazy and has an adult looming near him at all times? I have news for you. >Why did you have a caretaker watch over you anyway? Because I had severe anxiety, was completely shunned and started leaving classes and was often bullied. School manager suggest an assistant, my parents agreed , and no I didn't have a say in the matter.

1 hours later 6975750 Anonymous
It's possible. I hope you don't feel as though your resolve to achieve what you want is effortless. Dig deep and back down a few barriers that are in your way. Do not subscribe to the method that you must decide what you want to do, learn how to do it, then allow that to define who you are able to become. Allow your next move to propel you forward to, better positioned, for your next obstacle. In fact, reverse the order for how things have gone and take that step back long enough to where you can properly define exactly what it is that you hope to gain. Next, set out to learn the actions to get it. Whether you find a mentor for advice personally, through a book, or audio recording, the brilliance of our time is how accessible information has become. Use it. Next, don't make yourself feel like a coward and go do it.

1 hours later 6975754 Anonymous
>>6975720 >>6975744 If you didnt have one then, you sure as fuck have one now. Denying it is the online equivalent of putting your fingers in your ears and yelling LALALALALALA You started this thread with "I'm aware thread will be flooded by attempts to troll" All you're doing is setting yourself up with a safety net if someone says something you dont agree with. "OH, they're just trolling." You started this thread to reenforce pre-held beliefs.

1 hours later 6975755 Anonymous
>>6975744 >You think kids are going to talk with someone who they think is crazy and has an adult looming near him at all times? I have news for you. Yes? I did at least. >School manager suggest an assistant, my parents agreed , and no I didn't have a say in the matter. And your assistant didn't assist you? Sounds like you need a refund ie sue them and move away

1 hours later 6975765 Anonymous
>>6975755 >Yes? I did at least. Well you're the only one who does. >And your assistant didn't assist you? He assisted me in whatever I wanted to talk about with him or have him help me with. Forcing kids to interact with me wasn't part of his job.

1 hours later 6975768 Anonymous
>>6975754 Of course I do, But that's not the problem, I think you should scroll back to the OP and re-read what IS the problem.

1 hours later 6975776 Anonymous
>>6975768 Tell us what country you live in at least, that might lead to some productive advise

2 hours later 6975788 Anonymous
>>6975305 Dude, get money. Get a driving license, sell your shit. Get a motorbike and just ride. Cheap on fuel and easy to cross terrain. Everybody wins. Happiness generally isn't handed to you on a silver platter, it's something you have to work for.

2 hours later 6975853 Anonymous
OP did you kill yourself? rip in piece bro ;_;7

2 hours later 6975907 Anonymous
>>6975501 Oops, forgot this thread. I'm 20. Internet is probably best way to meet them. Outside they're typically in groups. >>6975505 I have other problems, it's just that money is the main issue and I like to think that when I have some I'll be all set.

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