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2013-04-25 11:53 6653120 Anonymous (m_depression_v2_v_Variation_6.jpg 200x238 9kB)
Femanons, if your partner was a legitimate manic depressive, would you want him to talk to you about it, or would this come across as unattractive?

1 min later 6653129 Anonymous
I wouldn't be dating them. I'm sorry. I want to be a partner, not someone's psychologist. I recommend helping yourself before you go into a relationship.

2 min later 6653148 Anonymous
god no. whats there to talk about.

3 min later 6653170 Serjibro (sad gif.gif 500x286 404kB)
>>6653129 >crazy people don't get love >tfw

4 min later 6653189 Anonymous
>>6653129 But I'm already in one....

5 min later 6653196 Anonymous
this, broke up with my last one (who was quite a looker) because he was dragging me down and wouldn't seek help ultimatums are a red flag, but if you can't handle your own life, how are we going to create one together?

5 min later 6653200 Penis Cock Dick
>>6653148 You could talk about how the world sucks for an infinite amount of reasons and the make sweet loving for 3 hours or so afterwards

5 min later 6653201 Anonymous
>>6653129 >>6653148 >Women in charge of being loving and caring

5 min later 6653208 Anonymous
My chick listens to me when I'm a drunk suicidal mess because she cares about me and wants to be there when I need her Anything less is a waste

6 min later 6653210 Anonymous
>>6653196 >who was quite a looker Slut.

11 min later 6653282 Anonymous
>>6653129 And yet there are plenty of guys who will take care of you if ever you feel depressed.

12 min later 6653292 Anonymous
The guy I like is manic depressive, I try to encourage him to discuss if he wants to but its difficult because you can't really brute force your way through manic depression. Oh the odd occasion he does talk about how he feels I'm glad, it's healthy to talk, even if it's only for a tiny amount.

12 min later 6653298 Anonymous
>>6653120 >if your partner was a legitimate manic depressive, would you want him to talk to you about it All other things equal, yeah but he better be getting proper mental care outside of just our conversations. >or would this come across as unattractive? Not really. I'd be more offended if he was hiding something important like this from me.

13 min later 6653306 Anonymous
real talk guys, why bother being inna relationship if you cant talk to someone you trust and care about? whats the point of a relationship?

14 min later 6653326 Anonymous
>>6653292 You know what helps us more than anything? Be able to use your bodies as a way of dealing with that depression and stress.

15 min later 6653334 Anonymous
>>6653196 My ex leaving me for this reason is why I bury all of my feelings and haven't opened up to anyone since. It drives my current girl nuts because she wants me to talk to her but I'm too afraid to do so

15 min later 6653339 Anonymous
Male anon here. I was with a girl like this for a year. It got really old, really fast, to the point where I don't even feel guilty about breaking off the relationship.

16 min later 6653342 Anonymous
>>6653201 After dealing with suicidal and sad people, being that friend in highschool that always was there for people and talked about their problems, I've learned just how draining and harmful it is to be around someone like that. I choose to be with men who are happy with themselves and their life. I don't need that negativity. Why be with someone if they don't make me happy?

18 min later 6653366 Anonymous
I absolutely would. I have anxiety/depression problems myself that I honestly feel better to be straight forward about, so I only feel that it's right to open the floodgate both ways. >tfw it's also kind of nice to feel needed because you can provide emotional support

24 min later 6653443 Anonymous
>>6653366 Refer to >>6653326 That would help the most.

24 min later 6653446 Anonymous
>>6653366 Yeah I doubt that OP is gay.

25 min later 6653464 Anonymous
>>6653342 >Why be with someone if they don't make me happy? >if they don't make me happy Typical womyn.

26 min later 6653476 Anonymous
>>6653464 I don't get what's bad about wanting to be with someone that makes you happy. Are you saying that I should be with someone that makes me sad? You're dumb.

27 min later 6653484 Anonymous
>>6653282 feel depressed, not have a mental disease

28 min later 6653497 Anonymous
>>6653476 So the guy should be your psychologist (Making you happy) but not vice versa?

29 min later 6653503 Anonymous
>>6653476 Are you saying that your own happiness is more important than the happiness of others?

30 min later 6653513 Anonymous
>>6653497 Have you ever been to a psychologist? Their job isn't to "make you happy" ya dingus.

30 min later 6653514 Anonymous
>>6653497 >>6653503 You should listen to these selfless robots. You don't know how much they have sacrificed for others.

30 min later 6653517 Anonymous
>>6653497 Note that she didn't say nor imply that.

30 min later 6653524 Anonymous
>>6653503 Unfortunately, though you guys are pathetic enough to qualify, you are not charity cases.

31 min later 6653535 Anonymous
>>6653503 >>6653497 No! I'm just saying that I don't want to be with someone that already has so many emotional and psychological problems. I want to be with someone that's a partner, not an emotionally draining burden.

32 min later 6653542 Anonymous
>>6653503 >you should give up all hopes of happiness with a romantic partner to make someone else happy Why is their happiness more important than mine or anyone else's?

32 min later 6653548 Anonymous
>>6653513 People with depressions suffer from lack of happiness. A great gf could help boost their happiness and heal them from depressions. If she was willing to. Which is the rarest of cases. >"Eew boys should be always cheerful and happy and funny. Get the fuck out with your depressions! Hand me over that nigger cock."

33 min later 6653558 Anonymous
>>6653535 i think these guys just want somebody to fix them

34 min later 6653572 Anonymous
unattractive definately bra

34 min later 6653573 Anonymous
>>6653548 I stand by my original assessment of you after reading that post. You're a dingus.

35 min later 6653586 Anonymous
>>6653548 >A great gf could help boost their happiness and heal them from depressions I've suffered from depression before, and here's the truth of the matter: you cannot depend on others for your happiness. They can contribute to it, but you are responsible for it. A great girlfriend is not going to cure your depression. All it does is bring the girlfriend down with emotional baggage, and often results in making her feel helpless and depressed herself. Because you are grown-ass men and she is not mommy, here to hold you and tell you how to fix yourselves. It is not that depression is not a real concern. Plenty of girls date guys who suffer depression to varying degrees, too. But touting a great girlfriend as the cure to depression is the wrong thing to do, both for the guy and the girl.

36 min later 6653592 Anonymous
I wouldn't date a guy with a mental problem, it only causes problems and I don't know how to deal with it. Getting emotionally involved with a person with a mental problem drains you of everything until you finally give up. >>6653170 They can get love from other crazies.

38 min later 6653628 Anonymous
>>6653586 Okay I've put it the wrong way. Of course the only person who can really help himself is the guy who is depressive. I didn't mean cure but just help to cure. Like being supportive and helpful and shit, I don't know. Most guys hide it anyway so it's not really an issue.

39 min later 6653635 Anonymous
>>6653548 It's not, you're just coming off as selfish and immature despite your claims of being "that person" and wanting to project an image that you've already learned that lesson in "high school" (lmao btw) A lot of people of this generation are depressive and the bottom line is that they are still people, and the only thing you're doing with your typical self interested female rhetoric of >I date to ENHANCE my OWN LIFE is spreading more of the negativity you supposedly dislike and disregarding others because of an issue they have that a bit of empathy and a small amount of understanding could potentially cure. Instead, we get passive receptacles, like you, who are scared senseless of other human beings and refuse to do anything to help ANYONE because you want a "partner," ie someone who will bend over backwards to do shit for you, but not the other way around. I'm willing to bet you're not all sunshine and rainbows either, dear. Take a moment to become self aware and examine yourself before acting like you have anything above people who suffer from depression. I'm not saying you're obligated to do anything. I just think you're an awful, awful cunt. >>6653542 In agreement.

39 min later 6653636 Anonymous
>>6653628 it is when they dont hide it

41 min later 6653651 Anonymous
> tfw no manic depressive bipolar bf to cuddle in bed and cynically joke about suicide with

41 min later 6653660 Anonymous
>>6653635 Why the hell are you posting to me? I totally agree with you.

41 min later 6653661 Anonymous
>>6653635 Got the quoted posts the wrong way around

45 min later 6653707 Anonymous
>>6653628 >Like being supportive and helpful and shit, I don't know. You don't need a girlfriend for that. You need friends and oftentimes, a doctor/psychologist/psychiatrist. Have you ever been depressed? When you're depressed, the last thing you do is think of other people. You're wrapped up in yourself. When you're in a relationship, you have both yourself and someone else to think about. When you're depressed, you're tired, anxious, exhausted, unmotivated, and feel like the world's most pathetic thing ever spawned. You are not really in the mood, nor do you usually have the energy, to really *be* with someone. Example: They'll try to get you out of bed, and you'll only feel even more pathetic or get irritated at them. They can't get a grown man out of bed, cloth him, feed him, and get him to go for a walk and take care of himself. The only reason I could do that with my brother is because my entire family teamed up against him and took turns in doing stuff to get him moving again. What you're asking for is a fantasy that doesn't exist, and when it does, it doesn't exist for long, nor is it usually healthy for both participants.

45 min later 6653708 Anonymous
>>6653635 You really don't understand my point of view? You really think that it's selfish and entitled of me to not want to date a guy that's clinically depressed? I'm sorry, but not everyone is going to want to deal with that shit. I think that I'm allowed to be selfish when it comes to partner selection; that's why I'm not dating Mr. 400lb Neckbeard Depressive Amputee. It's becuase I want someone physically and emotionally healthy. You can take that burden all that you like and date someone with a mental illness, but honestly, I don't want to date a goddamned eeyore. There is a difference between helping your partner with their emotional problems, through the bad times, and dealing with someone CLINICALLY DEPRESSED.

47 min later 6653730 Anonymous
>>6653708 >but honestly, I don't want to date a goddamned eeyore. Preach it, anon.

48 min later 6653741 Anonymous
>>6653636 So the logic is basically: It's okay if they can hide it but not if not? Well, okay. It's an opinion I guess. I'm not really depressive but sometimes have downs which I can bypass with sports or music. But a gf who couldn't deal with it wouldn't be really gf - just another fuckbuddy. I don't expect much, really not. Still would never touch a girl which would expect me to wear a smile like a clown the entire day. Life is serious shit and not all laughter.

49 min later 6653748 Anonymous
>>6653741 ITT: Men not understanding the difference between depression and occasional sadness.

51 min later 6653773 Anonymous
>>6653741 >I'm not really depressive but sometimes have downs which I can bypass with sports or music. Anon, I'm happy to inform you that you are not depressed. You are simply like every other ordinary human being who occasionally gets sad or blue for no real reason. That is NORMAL. That is something normal people have to deal with, every single day. You would be right to expect a girlfriend to see that you're down and to try and comfort you or improve your day in some way-- and she would expect the same of you on similar occasions. But that is not depression. You are not depressed.

51 min later 6653774 Anonymous
>>6653707 depressed fem anon here. diagnosed, on medication, in intensive therapy this is not totally true. being depressed does make me get caught up in my head, i'm not always attentive to my partner's needs, but i still take a lot of joy out of their company and try to fight my worst impulses to be an okay person to be with i can think of my partner + comfort my partner on a bad day, try to cook dinner (even if i'm super apathetic about cooking for myself, i love my partner and sometimes that love is enough to get by) tired, anxious, exhausted, unmotivated? yes. but that's what the therapy and drugs are for. i'm probably not as good of a partner now as i was before, but i want to work on it because our relationship was really good before, is still reasonably good now, and we want a future together when my partner tries to get me out of bed or tries to get me out or tries to get me to do my homework, i'm grateful later, even if i'm initially frustrated. i don't ask that my partner support me in everything, but the support of being there/loving me/calling me often/visiting me helps

52 min later 6653783 Anonymous
>>6653586 yeh exactly its 'depression' like actual chemical imbalance not teen angst or a few bad weeks because your dog died these people need real help not self help cliches

52 min later 6653788 Anonymous
Dated a guy that was depressed and on antidepressants. He was only 19 and could barely get/keep erections. Ended up dumping him because I couldn't deal.

53 min later 6653804 Anonymous
>>6653788 Well, in his defense those anti-depressants really do kill the male sex drive.

54 min later 6653819 mystery.jpg
i have mental issues so i would prefer my partner didn't because i need a caretaker (however no one like this exists so i'm fucked)

55 min later 6653823 Anonymous
>>6653708 this. if you've been married for 20 years, you stick it out 3 months and they zone out / go cold and admit they have an untreated mental health disorder and have no intention of seeking help? time to cut your losses and move on

55 min later 6653825 Anonymous
I'd want him to talk about it. Being around people who hide themselves is awkward and uncomfortable.

56 min later 6653843 Anonymous
>>6653120 My ex dumped me over my depression because I "couldn't see the good things in my life". Funny, since she took the only good thing I had.

56 min later 6653853 Anonymous
>>6653774 >tired, anxious, exhausted, unmotivated? yes. but that's what the therapy and drugs are for. Yes, you're taking charge of your own happiness and trying to fix the problem. When I was depressed, it was difficult for me to consider other people. Even if I could, I was often too apathetic to, and when I expressed awareness that there were things that needed to be done, it was mechanical. I'm sorry if I projected my own experiences on everyone else. I shouldn't have. But that's a pretty widespread deal, I think. > i'm grateful later Yeah. So was my brother, though he was an ungrateful git about it and didn't say thank you until weeks later. I was the exact same way. It was pretty taxing on our parents and the respective sibling that wasn't depressed at the time to deal with the sibling that was. >but the support of being there/loving me/calling me often/visiting me helps That's great, and I totally understand that. But unlike the guys in this thread, you're not asking your partner to fix you. You ask that they be there, supportive, and understanding. But the robots in this thread seem to be asking for the kind of care you'd expect from, say, a nurse.

56 min later 6653854 Anonymous
>>6653774 yeh but you're a different case, you're actively seeking help and not dumping your emotional health in someone elses lap you deserve someone great

57 min later 6653868 Anonymous
>>6653788 And they say that women don't care about sex as much as men. What happened to all the nice femanons who were on here earlier? Incidentally, I think this is a case where it comes down to how good looking the guy is, you can bet your bottom dollar these girls would try to fix a guy with md if he were hot as fuck. Women lead v. easy lives.

57 min later 6653870 Anonymous
>>6653804 Antidepressants kill human sex drive, period.

58 min later 6653879 天下
>>6653819 Evening Mystery.

58 min later 6653883 Anonymous
>>6653868 You'd really want to date a girl that never wanted sex?

59 min later 6653896 mystery.jpg
>>6653879 Evening whoever you are! but I agree with whoever said that 3 months in and they apparently have a mental issue isn't the same thing as 20 years of marriage blah blah. cut your losses and move on

59 min later 6653906 Anonymous
>>6653883 I think it's easier for a girl with no sex drive to lie back and think of england. With a guy, they need drive to get an erection, and when you're depressed or on antidepressants, that's... difficult.

1 hours later 6653922 Anonymous
>>6653883 Well, I'd be happy to wait until marriage if she was worth it. This is why I don't believe you girls when you say you don't want 10 inch dicks. You do. You want that and gang rape.

1 hours later 6653928 Anonymous
>>6653922 >This is why I don't believe you girls when you say you don't want 10 inch dicks. You do. You want that and gang rape. I can't tell if you're trolling, really believe this and are projecting mightily, or are just sick of the discussion and giving half-assed answers now.

1 hours later 6653931 Anonymous
>>6653922 No, it's called wanting a healthy sex life with a healthy person.

1 hours later 6653942 Anonymous
>>6653922 I hope you're just a really unsubtle troll and not some kid that has taken /rwhinek/ to heart.

1 hours later 6653947 天下
>>6653896 >she doesn't even remember Did I really mean that little to you Mystery? After all those nights together?

1 hours later 6653950 Anonymous
>>6653853 reading your post here + rest of thread i agree with you there's a difference between being in a relationship with someone depressed and being in a relationship with someone depressed who is overly reliant on you my problems were serious enough (contemplating suicide on the reg, crazy mood swings, becoming nearly nonfunctional at school/work) that i needed professional help, it's not fair to ask a bf/gf to do that for you and in many cases they don't know how to talk someone down off the edge well. i'm doing much better now (it's been about 2 months since i started getting treatment), and looking back on it i was unable to do a lot of shit. forgot valentine's day...i know it's a bs holiday but not taking the opportunity to show someone you care is a big deal. p.s. anon, hope you're doing better, and your brother too >>6653854 thanks robot my partner is great. a big motivation for me to get better. we want to get married, have kids, the whole deal. i could see us growing old together, wiser but probably still silly and foolish and in love

1 hours later 6653958 mystery.jpg
>>6653947 wh-who are you?

1 hours later 6653964 Anonymous
>>6653931 So you couldn't say, wait a year to have sex with him?

1 hours later 6653973 天下
>>6653958 Follow the trip

1 hours later 6653976 mystery.jpg
>>6653964 why would she wait a year to have sex with some random guy she only dated for a little bit of time...

1 hours later 6653978 Anonymous
>>6653964 I don't understand what you're talking about, since his depression wouldn't go away. He'd still have that problem. I don't go into a relationship with a man assuming he will change.

1 hours later 6653984 Anonymous
>>6653129 >I want to be taken care of and dont contribute anything to the relationship whatsoever Heh. Guess why you're on /r9k/, stupid whore. By the way, you can't 'cure' bipolar disorder. You can only manage it.

1 hours later 6653990 mystery.jpg
>>6653973 OH HEY YOU oh gosh :3 how embarrassing

1 hours later 6653993 Anonymous
>>6653976 maybe it's harder for women to understand this, but there are things in this world other than sex.

1 hours later 6654000 Anonymous
>>6653984 Oh look, it's a dependent little baby that thinks any girl that doesn't want to babysit you and your emotional problems is a bitch! Awww, aren't you cute? It's called wanting someone that's fucking healthy, something you wouldn't understand, being mentally disabled.

1 hours later 6654001 Anonymous
>>6653334 Do not fucking do it. Get a therapist who you can talk to just so you have an outlet. Do not fucking tell her. Every goddamn time my new girlfriends encourage me to open up and tell them what's exactly going on with me because they can sense I'm holding back. Then I finally do and they dump the shit out of me shortly after.

1 hours later 6654006 mystery.jpg
>>6653993 my point is, why would you work on a relationship that is already doomed from the start? he's not gonna change...

1 hours later 6654008 Anonymous
>>6653210 yes, being attracted to someones appearance makes them a slut. I hope this was trolling because I'm rustled.

1 hours later 6654009 Anonymous
>>6653993 Sex is a part of being human. Get over it.

1 hours later 6654016 Anonymous
>>6653950 >there's a difference between being in a relationship with someone depressed and being in a relationship with someone depressed who is overly reliant on you Exactly. Most people just aren't equipped to handle it constantly. And you see the difference. And like I said, you're taking charge of your own happiness, you're getting treatment, and-- most importantly-- you're trying. Part of curing depression is your attitude about likelihood of success at curing it. It sounds like things are getting a lot better for you, and I think you'll be fine, anon. >..i know it's a bs holiday but not taking the opportunity to show someone you care is a big deal. I know what you mean. I forgot Mother's Day. I ended up doing a triple Happy Father-Mother's-Stepfather's day thingy to make up for it. My brother and I are a lot better now. We occasionally suffer depressive episodes-- aka the blues-- but we're not stuck in bed day in and day out anymore. We're good! >i could see us growing old together, wiser but probably still silly and foolish and in love That is so... so... sweet. D'awww.

1 hours later 6654023 Anonymous
I'm a manic depressive and I had a female friend who told me that no matter what, she would be there for me. She eventually replaces me with another guy and completely stops talking to me. Women are shitty friends.

1 hours later 6654024 天下
>>6653990 We should catch up at some point Mys.

1 hours later 6654042 mystery.jpg
>>6654024 idk what happened to our little e-mail thing but i stopped signing in for a while do you mean to say that all this time IT'S BEEN YOU? you told me to calm down in another thread D: i remember

1 hours later 6654049 Anonymous
>>6654000 So you're evidently not actually a woman and just a neckbeard sitting behind his computer being angry at the world. Do you grasp just how pathetic you are right now? You can tell yourself: 'lelel im just trawlin' but shit nigger. I cant even wake up before 5 PM and even I feel sad for you.

1 hours later 6654054 Anonymous
My understanding was always that women are sort of caring and maternal, it's sad that they care so little. I'm not a whiner, I barely open up more than once a year to someone, I'm not looking for sympathy, just for a frank conversation and a tiny little bit of intimacy.

1 hours later 6654084 天下
>>6654042 Yeah, email or whatever. I'm not too fussed, you were a fun person to chat to though. I'd like to get back in touch. >do you mean to say that all this time IT'S BEEN YOU? you told me to calm down in another thread D: i remember Haha yeah, I think I mentioned that, but to be fair you let this board wind you up, it's not good for you, or anyone for that matter. Only the rusemen win in the long run, and even then, they're the loneliest of them all.

1 hours later 6654116 mystery.jpg
>>6654084 oh right, i tend to derail every thread into my own personal blog lately... it must be really annoying because i hated it whenever swami or eeyore did it... i should probably shut up but oh well. but yeah

1 hours later 6654119 Anonymous
>>6654000 >"It's called wanting someone that's fucking healthy, something you wouldn't understand, being mentally disabled." >being this cruel Yeah no, people with depressions are not cognitive or physical impaired whatsoever. It is rather common in our culture and it's something that can happen to anybody. What you do is you mock them for something they didn't choose. Even worse you deny them the possibility that they can fix themselves. Let's call it what it is. It is laziness and indifference. If the person could hide it for 3 months it means it is not as severe like being incurable.

1 hours later 6654144 Anonymous
>>6654119 >call someone a stupid whore >they respond with appropriate nastiness >get butthurt Are you serious?

1 hours later 6654156 Anonymous
>>6654054 Frank conversation and intimacy is part of a normal relationship. The discussion in this thread is about clinical depression, which is a whole nother ballgame entirely.

1 hours later 6654173 Anonymous
>>6654119 >people with depressions are not cognitive or physical impaired whatsoever. I definitely was both when I was clinically depressed.

1 hours later 6654187 Anonymous
>>6653819 Mystery, I'll take care of you. Let's skype sometime and we'll see how compatible we are.

1 hours later 6654202 Anonymous
>>6654119 >people with depression are not cognitively or physically impaired whatsoever Uh, yeah, you're wrong. Also, you cannot fault someone for not wanting to date someone because of their mental disability. Nobody is required to take on such a burden. With millions of other people in the world, why be with a guy that is clinically depressed from the getgo? No thanks, but I'd rather not deal with that.

1 hours later 6654206 Anonymous
>>6654119 >anon recommends try helping yourself before getting into a relationship >"Even worse you deny them the possibility that they can fix themselves." Uh. I'm getting the opposite message here.

1 hours later 6654227 Anonymous
>>6654119 uh kinda confused by what you are saying but depression can def. cognitively and physically fuck you up, that was my experience. the good thing is that it's curable and doesn't have to be a permanent scenario depression is not laziness depression is not indifference you can hide depression easy for 3 months as it gets worse and worse

1 hours later 6654233 Anonymous
>>6654144 I wasn't the anon who called you a whore. It was just my 2 cents to this matter. Somehow the meme is prevalent that depressive = weak. It can hit everybody: Doctors, lawyers, professors. It has nothing to do with weakness. Some people (boys and girls) just need a little push in the right direction and you gain the best, most loyal companion ever who will help you till the heat death of the universe. >"Hurr Durr depressive people are retarted and reliant. They can't change." Like I said, just my 2 cents.

1 hours later 6654237 天下
>>6654116 Gah, yeah, Eeyore is way too heavy on the bitching. Its in every thread too. And yeah, I guessed you were pretty upset about that whole, um, thing you mentioned. Sorry to hear that.

1 hours later 6654241 Anonymous
>>6654202 Because you like them, you fucking tard? They're not subhuman just because of their circumstance. You are such a boring, polarizing, black and white thinking fucking faggot, thank god you're such a cunt so none of us ever have to meet you.

1 hours later 6654282 Anonymous
>>6654233 Like I said depressions are periods of crisis. Most people remember it like veterans remember being in the war zone. People who were in these hellish, god forsaken zones knows FOREVER who helped them and who fucking didn't. And once they finally win the struggle they will emerge stronger than ever, because such crises shape the personality. A gf could have benefited greatly from that. Instead she wanted a fuckbuddy and not a soulmate.

1 hours later 6654285 Anonymous
>>6654241 >because you like them But why would I like someone who is clinically depressed? I tried to date a guy like that when I was around 17, and I got sick of it after only a few weeks. I'm not a stupid teenager anymore, so why would I knowingly involve myself with a clinically depressed person? I'm not saying that they are subhuman, just that I do not want to date someone with that mental disability. How can you not understand that? That doesn't make me a bad person, just a girl that knows what she wants.

1 hours later 6654301 Anonymous
>>6654233 >Somehow the meme is prevalent that depressive = weak. Well, seeing as how I'm the ex-depressive with the ex-depressive anon, I certainly know it's not a sign of weakness. But I don't think the anon from earlier (who wasn't me, also my .02) who is >>6653129 made a perfectly okay statement regarding the subject. And she never said they were retarded or that they couldn't change. They were addressing an individual who got butthurt and took her statement the completely wrong way. ...and then it devolved into this.

1 hours later 6654314 Anonymous
>>6654282 You're romanticizing it, dude. Take off the rose-colored glasses.

1 hours later 6654318 Anonymous (234.jpg 356x303 29kB)
Just a nice quote.

1 hours later 6654337 Anonymous
>>6654202 >mental disability >disability =/= illness

1 hours later 6654339 Anonymous
>>6654233 >Some people (boys and girls) just need a little push in the right direction and you gain the best, most loyal companion ever who will help you till the heat death of the universe. And now I would like to bring you back to planet earth, where you must remember the Self-Serving Bias and Fundamental Attribution Theory. Plenty of people get over their depression and go on as normal. The people who stuck it out for them don't always get their just acknowledgement.

1 hours later 6654343 Anonymous
>>6654285 How do you know someone is depressed?

1 hours later 6654363 Anonymous
>>6654343 >no energy >down >conveys depressive feelings >unenthusiastic >doesn't enjoy things >generally symptoms of depression that everyone knows

1 hours later 6654367 Anonymous
>>6654301 >And she never said they were retarded >called depressed people 'mentally disabled' two times now

1 hours later 6654376 Anonymous
>>6654318 So, basically, the male version of "If you can't handle me during my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"? Vapid.

1 hours later 6654378 Anonymous
>>6654367 My mistake, I confused "illness" with "disability". You knew what I meant.

1 hours later 6654389 Anonymous
>>6654363 Except that I'm depressed and I dont show any of those things. It was about bipolar people in the first place, anyway. Those are incredibly energetic and 'up' in their state of mania.

1 hours later 6654401 Anonymous
>>6654378 Nope. You were just trying to get a rise out of depressed people and now you're backpedalling because you want to be in the right. So fuck off and die, basically.

1 hours later 6654407 Anonymous
>>6654367 >>called depressed people 'mentally disabled' two times now Well, yeah, there's that too. At that point, I don't think she knew what she's talking about. People mistake mental disability with mental illness all the time. I didn't get the sense she was trying to call them retarded.

1 hours later 6654413 Anonymous
>>6654401 >mfw I actually wasn't and you're just demonizing me to make yourself feel like the hero Not everyone is out to get you. I just confused the words.

1 hours later 6654427 Anonymous
>>6654407 >she didnt call people retarded >except for when she did, but then again it's a woman so she probably didnt know what she was talking about because women are special delicate sunflowers who dont know what they are doing half the time and in need of protection k

1 hours later 6654428 Anonymous
>>6654389 >Those are incredibly energetic and 'up' in their state of mania. Yeah, that's quite different. You have a lot of highs and lows, depending on your particular condition. And they're often characterized by severe carb cravings-- I knew a manic-depressive who ate a pint of Ben and Jerry's every day at her high, which only made her... higher. Before she crashed.

1 hours later 6654436 Anonymous
>>6654413 When I called you a 'stupid whore' I actually meant 'heavily misinformed, but the pinnacle of the human race', by the way.

1 hours later 6654438 Anonymous
>>6654427 >but then again it's a woman It's not about being a woman. It's about the fact that I've dealt with a lot of people before. When people mean to call someone retarded, they call them retarded. When they're mixing shit up, they usually mix up those two words, which usually results in me correcting them on the fucking difference.

1 hours later 6654444 Anonymous
>>6654436 The difference between that and my mistake was that mine actually makes sense.

1 hours later 6654451 Anonymous
>>6654314 What's wrong with romanticizing? You live only once. You can get fucks on every street corner and every bar. A real soul mate who see the world with your eyes and vice versa is fucking hard to find. In whose eyes you see your own struggle, who see in your eyes their struggle. When you have a similar approach to how master life and move forwards to your goals etc... yeah maybe I'm romantic, I don't care. Where would great visionary men and women be without strong partners to support them morally? Well maybe my views are outdated, lel. Maybe they don't fit in this time of degeneracy, I don't know. >>6654339 Yeah those people are called scumbags. But I don't just assume that everybody is a scumbag. A person is need is a person in need. I wouldn't hold his hand but a few words in the right time could be just enough.

1 hours later 6654453 Anonymous
>>6654436 >"mentally disabled" and "mentally ill" are easily mixed up words because they both begin with "mentally" and imply there's something not right with the person at the time. Simple enough mistake. >decide to equate that with confusing "stupid whore" with "pinnace of the human race"

1 hours later 6654465 Anonymous
>>6654444 How do you know? You might have negative connotations to the word 'whore', but I might not have the same view.

1 hours later 6654466 Anonymous
damn gurl id you want sum fuk

1 hours later 6654491 Anonymous
>>6654451 >What's wrong with romanticizing? You live only once. The problem with romanticizing it is that it's a fantastical and often wrong view of the way the world works. >implying it has anything to do with degeneracy You know what? I'm to tired for this, so let's do this properly. Someone get me a time machine.

1 hours later 6654501 Anonymous
>>6654438 Yeah, you see, I didnt mean to call Kobe a nigger, I meant black guy. But come on, honest mistake. It's quite obviously about being a woman. You see a damsel in distress and must come to the rescue for she evidently cant even say the words you are convinced she 'actually means'.

1 hours later 6654506 Anonymous
>>6654465 >You might have negative connotations to the word 'whore', but I might not have the same view. Show me a single culture that has a positive connotation for the word "whore", and I might be able to stop laughing myself to pieces.

1 hours later 6654523 Anonymous
ITT: If you don't want to date someone clinically depressed you're a bitch.

1 hours later 6654526 Anonymous
I have enough depression for both of us. I know it's selfish, but I really don't think two fucked up people can make a future together. Sure, it sounds nice on paper, help each other out... but, in reality, it's the opposite.

1 hours later 6654547 Anonymous
>>6654501 >It's quite obviously about being a woman. No, it's not. It's about the fact that it's a fucking simple mistake to make. It's also about the fact that you guys see the world as being out to get you, and everything is viewed as a slight against you. See, as an ex-depressive, I don't appreciate being called retarded for it either. But unfortunately, "mentally disabled" is very easy to mix up with "mentally ill". And if you can't see why... well, I'm not sure which category you'd fall under, in that case.

1 hours later 6654554 Anonymous
>>6654506 >Show me a single culture that has a positive connotation for the word "whore" America. Also >letting society dictate what you think about things >1003+(500*2)+10

1 hours later 6654564 Anonymous
>>6654491 Proof for your claims? Well I got proofs for you. 90% of all divorces initiated by women. Wouldn't happen if people learned to look after each other and be honest about their problems.

1 hours later 6654573 Anonymous
>>6654547 >well, I'm not sure which category you'd fall under, in that case. Not the category which thinks that 'mentally disabled' is the same as 'mentally ill', that's for sure.

1 hours later 6654597 Anonymous
>>6654451 > What's wrong with romanticizing? You live only once. You can get fucks on every street corner and every bar. A real soul mate who see the world with your eyes and vice versa is fucking hard to find. In whose eyes you see your own struggle, who see in your eyes their struggle. When you have a similar approach to how master life and move forwards to your goals etc... yeah maybe I'm romantic, I don't care. i agree with you, robot p.s. i'm >>6653950 however not everyone is up to and capable of being with someone who is depressed and i understand that. it is a beautiful thing to push through struggles with someone and if you can keep it all together then the two of you will be really close however, if someone can't deal with it, they can't deal with it. and it's hard to be with someone who doesn't want to help themselves first and even i (as someone who is depressed) don't think i could be with someone who refused to try therapy, meds, treatment, whatever... better to not be in a relationship than be in a relationship with someone who resents your struggles, ya know?

1 hours later 6654602 Anonymous
>>6654554 >America. [citation needed] Also >that level of edginess 9 19,8,9,7,7,25 4,9,7,7,25

1 hours later 6654645 Anonymous
>>6654602 >[citation needed] Can you into logical deduction? Only one thing to say about this. Snooki.

1 hours later 6654669 Anonymous
>>6654645 >Can you into logical deduction? It's not logical when there's a very clear negative connotation concerning the word "whore"-- it is used as an insult, on here by Americans and in the real world by Americans. As is almost every other word used to describe a woman who is sexually promiscuous and/or takes payment for sex.

2 hours later 6654691 Anonymous
>>6654597 I guess it comes all down to if the person is worth it. If you know that the person would do the same, you might give it a shot. If the relationship is still young and you are not sure and if he is really not trying to do anything about it, then a break up might be the best. Too much r9k for today. I'm out.

2 hours later 6654698 Anonymous
>>6654691 >Too much r9k for today. I'm out. Good call. I have stuff to do, too.

2 hours later 6654702 Anonymous
>>6654669 But I personally think that a whore is a great thing. So yes, I actually did mean 'pinnacle of the human race'. Prove me wrong.

2 hours later 6654730 Anonymous
>>6654702 >So yes, I actually did mean 'pinnacle of the human race'. It has never been used that way before, with any degree of seriousness, in recorded history. Additionally, you were saying it as a clear snarky response to an otherwise innocent mix-up. The sarcastic intent is there.

2 hours later 6654777 Anonymous
>>6654730 >It has never been used that way before, with any degree of seriousness, in recorded history You have knowledge of every book, every letter and every internet page ever to exist since the existence of written language? >Additionally, you were saying it as a clear snarky response to an otherwise innocent mix-up. The sarcastic intent is there. That's just the meaning you gave to my response. Try again.

2 hours later 6654787 Anonymous
>>6654777 >googles "'whore' means 'pinnacle of the human race'" and several variants >no relevant results We're done here.

2 hours later 6654797 Anonymous
Dearest femanons, it makes it hard to actually explain to anons you're not bitches and whores when you act so selfish as you do in this thread. There are things in this world other than casual sex you know.

2 hours later 6654804 Anonymous
>>6654787 >google results equal the truth Man, you would make a shit judge.

2 hours later 6654884 Anonymous
>>6654797 There's more than sex to a relationship. It's not selfish to not enter a relationship with someone who has problems that they are either not taking proper steps to fix, or that you simply cannot handle.

2 hours later 6654894 Anonymous
I'd rather he talk to me about it. If there were any way I could make him feel better, it would make me happier.

2 hours later 6654965 Anonymous
>>6654884 Then explain all these white girls dating "future rap stars."

2 hours later 6655222 Anonymous
>mfw I'm depressed >mfw I'm dating a girl >mfw when this thread I've been depressed forever, but I've been hiding it very well. Every once and awhile she'll look over at at me and ask me whats wrong, and will even insist that I tell her for sometime, but I don't. This thread pretty much spells out why. Its funny how the Femanons are acting like a depressed guy is useless. I've helped my GF through her own problems, and I always wanted the best for her. I mean, there are times when I'm dying on the inside, but I'm willing to endure it and put a smile on her face, because at the end of the day that is all I want. Yet, I know that if I let her in on my depression, our relationship will end. Its always been that way with every girlfriend ever. It sucks even more, because I wouldn't depend on her like Femanons in this thread think would happen, but I would want to talk to her about it and be comforted if she knew. Yet, the cunts in this thread are acting like just that is too much. Some of you have a point, another person can't fix someone. But, really, just being there makes a big difference. While I'm depressed, just knowing that my gf finds value in me makes me feel better. Thats it. Its not a cure, and I don't think any Brobots think it is either, but it helps. You're acting like a depressed person can't look out for and love another person, that they are self-centered. You're wrong.

2 hours later 6655259 Anonymous
>mfw some of the femanons ITT saying they wouldn't want to date a guy with mental problems in the first place probably has or had mental problems of their own at some point (or currently do) yet they expect men to love and cherish them and deal with their psychodrama. oh it's hilarious. It's just hilarious. The double standard.

2 hours later 6655371 Anonymous
>>6655259 >had Yes, I "had" it. I wasn't in a relationship then. It wasn't a good time to be in a relationship, either.

2 hours later 6655392 Anonymous
>>6655222 >Yet, the cunts in this thread are acting like just that is too much. No. There's a difference between confiding in someone and being comforted, and dumping your emotion welfare into someone's lap. Which was the source of most of the argument from earlier, because there was a guy arguing that a "great gf" could "cure" depression.

2 hours later 6655459 Anonymous
>>6653120 I would let him talk to me about it and I already do. I like making my partner feel really good and I don't mind letting him let it all out with me, he's my life long partner and best friend

2 hours later 6655537 Anonymous
>>6655371 Well, you're damaged goods now. What if your future boyfriend (or current) found out about your past and dumped you over it?

3 hours later 6655675 Anonymous
I'd definitely want him to talk to me about it. I'd love him enough to not let anything silly like that make him less attractive.

4 hours later 6656591 Anonymous
>>6654564 >Among college-educated couples approximately 90% of all divorces are initiated by women. fix'd because you are too dumb to not use statistics out of context.

4 hours later 6656708 Anonymous
> female is depressed. gets a man anyway since it doesnt matter what conidtion you are as a woman aslong as you arent fat. depression gone. has a happy life upon obtaining bf for happiness > man is depressed lol loser. he should help himself. he should be happy being alone and have nobody to experience intimacy with.

4 hours later 6656828 Anonymous
>>6656708 or how about >adult is depressed needs to get an appropriate level of support from family, friends and mental health professionals but understands their wellness is ultimately their own responsibility or they're setting themselves up for failure.

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