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2019-02-07 07:54 50840514 Anonymous (Screenshot_20190206-212747__01.jpg 1069x790 87kB)
Just got diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. What am I in for? Should I be scared?

1 min later 50840527 Anonymous
Of r9k? Yes.

2 min later 50840533 Anonymous
You're gonna be hated by all doctors, therapists, boyfriends/girlfriends, and family. You are a plague to society and your only hope is to learn how to be alone and like it. I dated a BPD person before and they were considered well managed and it was still the worst two years of my life.

4 min later 50840560 Anonymous
>>50840514 >What am I in for? you just try your best, anon.

5 min later 50840578 Anonymous
It's a legit bitch man. You just gotta try your best to get well but you can pretty much say goodbye to 90% of all relationships you'll have until you can manage it.

12 min later 50840634 Anonymous
>>50840514 My friend was BPD, my uncle was BPD, I'm just gonna say no one deserves to be around those people, my advice find a decent mental clinic to spend most of your time in.

14 min later 50840650 Anonymous
>>50840634 Is it really that bad being around those people?

16 min later 50840671 Anonymous (question.png 741x568 30kB)
>>50840514 What is BPD like? Explain it to me?

25 min later 50840749 Anonymous
>>50840650 Yes. >>50840671 It's a personality disorder so they are all pretty similar. They are very manipulative and usually mirror their victims. When you start any type of relationship with them they fucking try to find out all your interests and pretend to be into it as well. I once was in a relationship with a BPD girl and she was a hardcore atheist left wing liberal. Like hated straight white men despite being white kind of leftist. I lean right and don't like hardcore atheists and all of a sudden she was a moderate who isn't a hardcore atheist. She was also not really into games besides WoW, but all of a sudden was interested in a shooter I use to be into. They start to lovebomb you once you become their favorite person and you think they are actually into you. But they aren't. They are incapable of actually loving another person. You have something they want and they will do whatever it takes to keep getting it from you. As the relationship goes along it is very emotionally intense and you feel so loved just to have them start the games. They will distant themselves and then come back. They get super angry if you don't reply fast. They make you feel horrible and then pretend they never did whatever it was that was wrong. It is absolute fucking hell. The best thing to do is to abandon them and ignore them bombing your phone and coming to your house threatening to kill themselves or harming you. They might stalk you for a long time as well. If you're afraid of that and it's too far to abandon safely then you must do what I did. I waited for two years for her to finally see me broken down so much that she got all she believed she could get out of me and she abandoned me. I was so happy when that happy. So please... Don't start a relationship with one or else you're gonna have to learn to get them to leave you.

27 min later 50840762 Anonymous
>>50840514 got a hookup on that unoriginal link?

27 min later 50840763 Anonymous (facepalm.png 546x566 7kB)
>>50840749 That sounds like Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Sometimes they overlap, but those traits are narcissistic, not borderline

29 min later 50840777 Anonymous (absolutes.jpg 1069x790 80kB)
>>50840514 I have "normal thinking" but it pisses me off a lot of the time. I really hate having mixed feelings about everything, but at the same time I realize how shitty it'd be if everything seemed to be completely one way or the other.

31 min later 50840796 Anonymous
>>50840763 She is also a narcissist, but is a verified BPD person. There is much more she did in those years, but I don't feel like revisiting those memories. She is a horrible person. She used to cut, binge eat, steal, use drugs, and was very impulsive. Didn't know how to keep any sort of cash. She will be arrested soon for tax evasion cause of her impulsive spending habits and how she use to make her income. She is also being sued by a former boss for stealing. She steals from most of her workplaces.

32 min later 50840804 Anonymous
Sometimes I worry that I have this disorder. I'm very emotional, and have an intense fear of being abandoned.

33 min later 50840813 Anonymous
>>50840796 There's the BPD parts. You only listed the NPD parts on your first post. I don't care for what makes someone BPD though. I was asking OP how it "feels."

34 min later 50840820 Anonymous
>>50840813 >I was asking OP how it "feels." You ever chew 5 gum?

34 min later 50840826 Anonymous (1547113027085.png 599x858 716kB)
>>50840763 No, its BPD. t. dealt with a BPD chick for 2 years The final straw was when she rang me up so I could hear her attempt suicide. It was probably fake, but I cared about her, and hearing her scream like she was dying fucked me up so badly. To this day I absolutely despise every woman that isnt my mother. It ruined me, it destroyed me. You may think she is different, if you find a BPD chick, but she is not. She's evil. She will fuck you up. Don't.

35 min later 50840831 Anonymous
>>50840804 Most people with BPD get diagnosed as bipolar first and then get the BPD diagnosis once they have a big string of hospital visits. That is how most get the DX. If you been in and out of the mental ward for suicide attempts then you might be BPD.

35 min later 50840838 Anonymous
>>50840777 >that image Other way around though

38 min later 50840858 Anonymous (nervous_red.jpg 231x218 6kB)
>>50840831 I'm worried I might be bipolar? How does one tell? I can't tell if I'm having "an episode" or that's just normal human behavior. Some days I'm motivated as all hell when I wake up and by the end I've lost most of my motivation. Other days vice-versa. Also I can get angry pretty easily.

40 min later 50840873 Anonymous (1549288905150.png 960x696 685kB)
>>50840671 Fellow Bpd anon here, when i had a gf i use to commonly self-harm to get pity so i could feel better about myself, id get angry if she wasnt basically always giving me attention, and i have really big mood swings from being super anger one moment for no reason to being so depressed i cant motivate myself to get out of bed for a few days, also have really bad sepparation anxiety and id threaten and say id kill myself if she left me. theres a lot more that has happened, i just dont feel like explaining it

40 min later 50840876 Anonymous
If you actually want help theres a book called I hate you dont leave me. Explains a lot

40 min later 50840877 Anonymous
>>50840838 OnIy a sith deaIs in absolutes.

40 min later 50840878 Anonymous
>>50840858 Go to a doctor. We can't DX you here.

42 min later 50840891 Anonymous
>>50840826 This image is beyond ridiculous

42 min later 50840893 Anonymous (reee.jpg 474x474 14kB)
>>50840873 bpd and bipolar are really different bpd have emotional extremes and will threaten suicide bipolar people aren't defined by having a fear of abandonment. If they're killing themselves, they're probably doing it for real due to their emotional state. Bipolar people have "episodes" where their mood changes for no reason. There's a huge difference. Don't mix them up.

44 min later 50840905 Anonymous (happymerchant.jpg 501x504 73kB)
>>50840878 I don't want to go to a doctor and sound like an edgefag by saying "doctor i might be bipolar" if it turns out im not I also don't trust the doctor or his pills. What if he's just fucking me and he wants me to buy those pills because the pharmaceutical companies want to make money?

49 min later 50840939 Anonymous (1474447234505.jpg 760x800 129kB)
Most BPD people are absolutely horrid nightmares, some are genuinely very sweet and devoted, though any small thing could send them into a depressive/angry spiral, quiet borderlines are nicer than the extroverted types. t. bpd male

55 min later 50840992 Anonymous (1549440666546.jpg 470x334 47kB)
>>50840893 Most people with borderline personality disorder experience random mood swings and symptoms vary from person to person, faggot

59 min later 50841035 Anonymous (gay.jpg 437x333 44kB)
>>50840992 Bipolar people don't threaten suicide for attention though. That trait is strictly BPD

1 hours later 50841064 Anonymous
whats the super cool definitive test to prove one way or another if you have bpd, aside from getting locked up or having to see a psych and having this blemish your record forever

1 hours later 50841076 Anonymous
>>50841064 If you find one will you tell us?

1 hours later 50841113 Anonymous
Are you doomed to eternal misery if you have bpd?

1 hours later 50841150 Anonymous
>>50841113 Yes you are. You could always kill yourself.

1 hours later 50841163 Anonymous
>>50840514 just say you're bipolar, it's better for your social status. also no one here actually knows anything about bpd and most learned of and about it via other uninformed robots so just try not to take this thread too seriously.

1 hours later 50841179 Anonymous
>>50841163 >just say you're bipolar, it's better for your social status. never tell anyone about your health problems.

1 hours later 50841180 Anonymous
>>50841035 if they're doing it for attention then why do so many of them end up dead?

1 hours later 50841192 Anonymous
>>50840777 If only the Sith see in absolutes then why do the Jedi see themselves as "Jedi vs Sith" and "Light vs Dark"

1 hours later 50841230 Anonymous
>>50841180 I never said BPD never actually kill themselves. It's just that THREATENING suicide is not a bipolar thing. Suicide threats are something that BPD is known for.

1 hours later 50841358 Anonymous
>>50841230 Bullshit, anyone that legitimately wants to kill themself is going to threaten suicide. People don't just quietly want to kill themself every day and never tell someone they're gonna kill themself. And bipolar people want to die very often.

1 hours later 50841386 Anonymous
>>50841358 There's a difference between informing someone that you're thinking of suicide, and spitefully threatening it to control their behaviour.

1 hours later 50841397 Anonymous
>>50841386 >and spitefully threatening it to control their behaviour. its not on purpose, believe it or not.

1 hours later 50841437 Anonymous
>>50841386 I can see what you mean, but even people with no mood disorders have committed suicide after losing their lover so I don't wanna say borderline people are as much being manipulative when they essentially say "I'm going to kill myself if you leave me" moreso as they actually feel they will kill themselves because of how strong their love is. And if saying "I'm going to kill myself" in order to see how people react / if anyone cares counts as threatening, it is also something either of BPD or bipolar would do, or suicidal people in general.

3 hours later 50842349 Anonymous
>>50840514 >should i be scared >implying most of r9k isnt bpd Nigga this place should be named BPD9K.Let me get you through the 'symptoms' and how you see them in here daily. >idealizing a potential partner as soon as you see them just to think the worst of them after they do 1 minor thing Remember that qt girl you saw on the street yesterday?Remember how you imagined how perfect your life would be after you marry her and have children and grandchildren?Oh but she met her chad bf like a minute after so now she's a disgusting whore isnt she?What about your waifu?You idolize hat bitch daily,cuz she's perfect right? >self harming habits such as reckless driving,self-cutting,binge eating,substance abuse Should I even get into this shit?Just look at all the self-harm/drug/drinking threads. >constant feelings of emptiness and questioning everything around him and thinking that everyone is out to get you I mean this is like the core idea of this fucking board.BPD is common as shit,and it's just a product of our fucking disgusting society,the ideals are because of the media we are being fed,the self harming habits are because we need escapism to cope with the emptiness and constant anxiety/anger.How common do you think BPD was among boomers?And also yes,threatening suicide is not in any way acceptable but what can you expect from a person with 0 self-worth?You think they could just move ovn after a break-up like nothing happened?They could just get another partner in the next day?

3 hours later 50842409 Anonymous
>>50842349 r9k is actually introvert narcissist board.

3 hours later 50842479 Anonymous (1547461206767.jpg 634x555 48kB)
>>50840514 I had it too. I'm a male and got diagnosed when I was 19. Aside from the fact that it's a mainly female disorder, looking back at all the shitty and insane behavior I put people through makes me feel ashamed to this day. It even manifested as recently as several months ago when I basically stalked this girl who wanted nothing to do with me and it almost ended with me getting a restraining order against me. To be honest, I'm 29 now and have mostly "grown out of it". Except when I drink and the terrible batshit insane traits come to the surface. I drank heavily for most of my twenties acting like a complete nutjob. And the funny thing is if you're anything like me you aren't even aware of how you are truly acting until you look back. But after that last debacle I quit drinking, quit smoking, started exercising and lifting and am focusing on self improvement. I still struggle with some of the traits like fear of abandonment etc., but I've gained a really good sense of self awareness and as long as I'm not drunk I can start to realize when I'm being delusional and take steps to nip it in the bud. Especially when it comes to girls. BPD makes you're likelihood of succumbing to oneitis really high so you should be aware of that. Also, get yourself into see a psychotherapist and start treatment now. Because wasting 10 years of your life "growing out of it" being miserable and causing others to be miserable should be avoided. I wish I had gotten treatment and stuck with it. Good luck man.

3 hours later 50842483 Anonymous
>>50842409 Bpd is pretty much based on narcissism.Why do you tuhink they idealize their partners?Because they think they only deserve the best.Why do you think they get mad and lose all respect for their partner after finding even the smallest thing they don't like about them?That ideal is lost,and they can't stand the idea that they're not dating something perfect.But eventually they start emotionally manipulating and suicide threatening because they think they are entitled to their partner and they(the BPD sufferer) are the BEST option for them(the partner).

3 hours later 50842501 Anonymous
>>50842479 >treatment What even is the 'treatment' for BPD?Any magic self-esteem boosting pills?

3 hours later 50842514 Anonymous
>>50842483 >>50842483 >Bpd is pretty much based on narcissism then why two diagnoses exist if its the same shit.

3 hours later 50842538 Anonymous
>>50841358 >People don't just quietly want to kill themself every day and never tell someone they're gonna kill themself. Wrong

3 hours later 50842551 Anonymous
>>50842514 It's not the same shit,it's some form of derivative from narcissism.But I don't think you can have BPD without also being at least a little narcissist.

4 hours later 50842596 Anonymous
>>50842551 >But I don't think you can have BPD without also being at least a little narcissist. If they are different things like you said, how come I have to necessarily have both? They are different or they arent

4 hours later 50842631 Anonymous
>>50842596 >But I don't think you can have BPD without also being at least a little narcissist. Read again.I didn't also say that you CAN'T be a narcissist without having BPD.Look at psychopaths for example,they sure as hell don't have BPD but they sure as hell are narcissists.

4 hours later 50842636 Anonymous
>>50842501 I'm gonna be honest here. I never followed through with it so i don't know much about it. But it's called Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It's said to be really affective. It teaches you to associate emotions differently based on words or some shit I dunno. It's similar to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy I believe that they use for antisocial personality disordered people in prison. BPD and APD have a lot of overlap and stem from similar circumstances except women tend to get bpd and men tend to get apd. I'm mostly talking out of my ass here but im mostly in the ballpark. Without treatment from my personal experience and from what doctors have told me most people will get less severe symptoms as they get older but I think it's worth it to get the treatment. As far as pills SSRI's can help with the depression that comes along with it but pills can't treat a personality disorder itself.

4 hours later 50842638 Anonymous
>>50840514 Well I encounter fags like that multiple times every day regardless of board so you'll always have a home here.

4 hours later 50842689 Anonymous
>>50842551 People with bpd tend to have extremely low self esteem and very poor self image. Them idealizing people has nothing to do with narcissism because they do it to everyone not just romantic partners. It's because they have a hard tine integrating emotions together to create a nuanced picture. Things/people/concepts are either all bad or all good and it can change on a dime for trivial reasons.

4 hours later 50842704 Anonymous
>>50842479 >have mostly "grown out of it" do you still deal with mood swings over the most trivial and small stuff?

4 hours later 50842717 Anonymous
I had a friend whom I believe has BPD, but that's just my armchair degree in Psychology, right? Anyway one thing I noticed of her was that she would just lie. Constantly. Usually the things she would say were basically the opposite of true but how you could imagine she would like things to be. Or possibly how she imagined I would like her to be.

4 hours later 50842811 Anonymous
>>50842704 Yes. All the time in fact. But the difference is I keep it contained and don't explode over it. At least not externally. I feel extreme mental anguish often times but I've developed coping mechanisms that help me deal with it. And they didn't come from any kind of treatment my brain just happened to find thought processes that helped. So if some random thing upsets me I just think about the fact that it is what it is and it's out of my control so worrying about it is pointless. Or I think ahout how I'm going to die and so is everyone else so it's all ultimately meaningless. It may sound morbid but it's more like a way to put things in perspective. Or I think about how that small interaction that upset is an absolutely meaningless occurence compared to the scope of the universe and the sum of all human interactions. Shit like that. If I was the religious sort I imagine prayer would help a lot and I'd actually recommend that if you are able to.

4 hours later 50842897 Anonymous
gents, I have BD AND BPD. 19 male INTP.

4 hours later 50842923 Anonymous
>>50842897 Bpd and infp here. There's a well known correlation between those personality types and bpd it's pretty interesting.

4 hours later 50842965 Anonymous (1549082725014.png 1032x1547 145kB)
>>50842923 yeah ik. here's a read.

4 hours later 50843043 Anonymous
>>50842689 >extremely low self esteem and very poor self image so do people narcissistic people

5 hours later 50843086 Anonymous
>>50843043 Narcissistic people have inflated self esteem and delusions of grandeur. They do not have poor self image I don't know why you would think that. They're self esteem and opinion of themselves are so high in fact that they will even turn criticisms into compliments in their heads. It's worth pointing out that narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder are not the same thing.

5 hours later 50843528 Anonymous
>>50842538 the only time this is true is when the suicidal person has no one they deem trustworthy enough to tell

5 hours later 50843541 Anonymous
I had a 2 year relationship with a BPD girl. At first she acted like I was the most amazing man to ever walk the Earth, then 2 months into the relationship she saw pornhub in my browser history and absolutely exploded. Things were never the same after that and essentially any argument would always come full circle to "you watched porn and made me feel worthless". She had all the other symptoms mentioned here, suicide threats, 1 attempt (slashed wrist), constantly leaving browser tabs open on the iPad with searches like "lethal dose of <some painkiller she was on>" etc, beyond terrible with money and would constantly lie about income, and just generally incredibly manipulative and could never admit fault - everything bad she did was "because of how I made her feel by watching porn (once)". The strange thing is I loved her anyway, and still have feelings for her 5 years later, but I had to end it for my own sanity. I truly hope she sorts herself out one day but I would be very surprised.

6 hours later 50843702 Anonymous
>>50843528 Which is more frequent than not in this day and age. You're less likely to be suicidal if you have people that close to you

6 hours later 50843782 Anonymous
>>50840514 this disorder is fucking stupid, people with this shit are actually fucking retarded, chill the fuck out you crazy bitch

6 hours later 50843805 Anonymous
Personality disorders are a meme. You can get diagnosed with any random made up thing and therapists are diagnostic-happy.

6 hours later 50843840 Anonymous (Screenshot_20181107-195900~01.png 720x705 854kB)
>>50840514 I'll pray for u anonkun

6 hours later 50843875 Anonymous
BPD undiagnosed until i was 25 here, im on my way out from all the self destructive behaviors, it's been a miserable fucking ride

6 hours later 50843887 Anonymous
>>50843782 haha yeah just get rid of that traumatic childhood while you're at it too lmao

6 hours later 50843913 Anonymous
>>50843875 Tell a summary of your story

6 hours later 50843943 Anonymous
>>50843913 parents never gave a fuck, beat the shit out of me, never felt safe in school or at home, spent most of my life being told i'm completely worthless, dropped out of hs, NEET for a while bc too dysfunctional to leave my room 99% of the time, horrible binge eating habits, severe dehydration, now i have stomach ulcers and a bunch of other shit wrong with me. probably not gonna make it to 30 but that's cool because life sucks

6 hours later 50843983 Anonymous
>>50843943 Yikes that sucks man. Is that what the doctors told you?

6 hours later 50844005 Anonymous
>>50843983 if i keep going down the path i'm on. which i probably will. because i can't cope with my feelings lol

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