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2012-12-21 07:49 4906098 Anonymous (thomyork8-crop.jpg 243x328 27kB)
Hi /r9k/ femanon here Friendzone is a word used to vilify a woman who says no. Slut is a word used to vilify a woman who says yes. Make up your mind guys, do you want us to be easy or picky? Ugh if some of you had any idea of the sort of emotional trauma you put us through you wouldn't be so quick to judge.

1 min later 4906109 Anonymous
you complain about hitler then you complain about mao, if you knew how hard it was to run a country you wouldn't complain at all

1 min later 4906114 Anonymous
as long as you don't expect us to commit to you being a slut is fine. now post some tits

1 min later 4906115 Anonymous
>>4906098 >any idea of the sort of emotional trauma you put us through uh, no we don't elaborate

2 min later 4906132 OP
>>4906115 I was referring specifically to the slut/friendzone paradox. We can't win

3 min later 4906137 Anonymous
Some guys like sluts. Some guys are romantics. The end.

3 min later 4906141 OP
>>4906114 what does that even mean? And no to the tits

4 min later 4906145 Anonymous
Okay, first of all, not all guys who are looking for a relationship are interested solely in sex. I'm looking for a wife and still get pissed at girls who friendzone me. Second, get it into your head that different men are saying those things. Some men are degenerates and want girls to be easy lays. Some men are civilized and want girls to be feminine, classy, and traditional. The former hate "prudes," the latter hate sluts. It's not a "damned if you do, damned if you don't scenario," as women are wont to portray it--your behavior will never please everyone, so just try to please the better group of men and ignore the degenerates.

4 min later 4906153 Anonymous
Troll thread. Sage, hide, ignore.

5 min later 4906155 Anonymous
>Friendzone is a word used to vilify a woman who says no. Guys friendzone girls just as often. I've even done it myself and dealt with the same complaints. If I say yes to every girl who asks me to get with her, or even just get with lots of women, I'm a player, which has the same connotations for women as slut does for men. >>4906137 This. Acting like all men are a single homogeneous group with only one will or desire is stupid and makes you look like an idiot. >some guys want one thing >some guys want another >GRRR I'm sorry you're so upset. Have a nice day though.

5 min later 4906162 Anonymous
In reality, its really not like everyone is having sex regularly That, however, is what the media trains sheep to believe

5 min later 4906164 Anonymous
>>4906098 Friendzone is a word used to describe what happens when someone leads another person on into thinking that there is mutual romantic interest, then makes it clear that there isn't any after reaping the benefits of a near-relationship (which could be anything from ego-stroking to financial gain or whatever.) Slut is a word used to describe a girl who has a lot of casual sex. Also, relationship=/=sex also 1/10 I replied.

6 min later 4906171 OP
>>4906145 You're missing my point, if you were to try it on with me and I wasn't interested you'd go bitch to all my friends that I was friendzoning you. And if your friends heard I started getting with you I'd be the local slut.

8 min later 4906182 Anonymous
8/10 false dichotomy. friendzone is self imposed by men, sure. fantastic. but please don't try to reclaim the word 'slut' it just makes you look foolish. also, guys are a not a hivemind.

8 min later 4906186 OP
>>4906164 No, If I am friends with a guy already and he asks me out and I say "no I only like you as a friend" he runs off going "fucking friendzoning bitch". Err no I didn't put you in the friendzone, I thought we were already friends and you were just trying to get in my pants

9 min later 4906189 Anonymous
>>4906171 >you'd go bitch to all my friends that I was friendzoning you. No I wouldn't. I would just stop associating with you and move on to a different girl.

9 min later 4906191 eeyore the Red-Eyed Knight of Boletaria
Wow a woman making shit troll threads. Gain some intelli-- oh wait.

9 min later 4906192 Anonymous
>>4906171 The problem is that you say >getting with as opposed to >having a relationship with why does media portray men as pigs when women are fucking disgusting.

10 min later 4906202 OP
>>4906182 Not trying to reclaim the word slut, I'm saying it's an unpleasant thing to be called so why should someone I don't even know call me it just because I happen to want to sleep with someone else.

11 min later 4906205 Anonymous
>>4906098 No. Friendzoning starts by you feigning interest in a man, flirting, etc. Then you tell him you just want to be friends. It is possible to not feed a man's advances by making your intentions clear from the start rather than leading them on. And sluts are sluts. We all know what a slut is

11 min later 4906210 This One Robot Dude ...
>>4906171 Well, good. That is what you get for expecting us to: >spend thousands of dollars on you >totally wait on you hand and foot >support you >put up with your bullshit All this and we still come home one day to find you sucking some other guy's dick. Enjoy the pain, bitch.

11 min later 4906211 OP
>>4906192 Why is it disgusting for two consenting adults to have sexual relations on the terms that they both agree on. Stop trying to get society to conform to your perfect ideal of what sex should be

12 min later 4906212 Anonymous
OP, friendzone is for betas. You should not feel bad for freindzoning a guy because he's the asshole for befriending you in hopes for something more. Directly deceiving you. And I'm your typical misogynistic foveralone kissless virgin NEET, so inb4 normalfag / white knight

13 min later 4906221 Anonymous
>>4906186 >he asks you out >as in he asks you to go on a date with him >or even better, asks you to be in a relationship with him >OMG PIG YOU JUST WANT TO GET IN MY PANTS again, relationship=/=sex. Maybe you should stop hanging out with retards if you don't like your friends doing that sort of stuff.

13 min later 4906228 Anonymous
>>4906155 The PROBLEM are some guys are sluts, and shame girls for friendzoning them And some en are romantics and shame girls for fucking. Take the shame out, and it's perfectly fine. I friendzone and have been friendzoned. I don't hold bitter feelings towards the guys who have done it, nor should I

14 min later 4906230 Anonymous
>>4906211 Because the more men a woman has sex with, the less marriageable she becomes.

14 min later 4906235 OP
>>4906210 Wow you don't get out of your mom's basement much huh? >spend thousands of dollars on you Umm no thanks I can take care of myself >wait on you hand on foot What you mean like how you expect me to do your cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing etc >support you see point 1 >sucking some other guy's dick Implying that either gender is worse at cheating

15 min later 4906240 Anonymous
>>4906164 No, people describe the friendzone as a guy who is friends with a girl, who he then asks out, then shames and freaks out on when she says no, she doesn't like him that way. Making him a really big baby, yet people support the guy and never think the girl had every right to say no.

15 min later 4906241 Anonymous
Because every man on this board is the exact same person who has used both of those words extensively, and likewise we should all be held responsible for your emotional trauma? Get real. Guys who sleep around everywhere may be respected around their frat boy peers, but they're still shunned by respectable females. It's not like any double standards are really happening here.

15 min later 4906245 Anonymous
I guess the same way "men are all assholes" is a good way to generalize an entire sex because you have misplaced aggression. The reality is that we're all horrible people who have to live with each and it's best to just get over yourself and move on. This goes for everyone.

16 min later 4906247 Anonymous
>>4906212 >scheming_beta.png Surely people become friends when they get to know each other? Why wouldn't you get to know someone you are attracted to? And don't many people become attracted to someone after getting to know them?

16 min later 4906250 OP
>>4906221 I already have a relationship with him, It's called a friendship. By 'asking me out' I was referring to the proposition of a romantic relationship which usually involves a degree of sex

16 min later 4906251 Anonymous
>>4906211 Says the slut that will trick some sadsack loser into being a cuckold for her. >stop trying to get society to conform Oh, the irony.

18 min later 4906262 Anonymous
>>4906098 Actually I call girls sluts when they have sex with anyone but me. We want you to not say no, ever.

18 min later 4906263 OP
>>4906230 Enjoy never meeting a real girl until you resort to breaking the age of consent law

18 min later 4906267 Anonymous
Hey, OP. Where exactly is the conflict? The person who has false pretenses of friendship who calls you a slut is an asshole. And they are one in the same. The problem AFTER that is going to be YOU generalizing and applying your substandard reasoning to relationships.

19 min later 4906270 Anonymous
>>4906247 You can get to know someone and make your intions clear from the start. You deserve to be friendzoned if you befriend a woman in hopes to get something more out of it. You befriend women if you want to be their friend. If you want a relationship you try to get to know them, flirt with them and make your intentions known.

20 min later 4906282 Anonymous
Friendzone exists regardless of what the guy thinks or does or whatever, it's the woman's(or the man's) choice and it simply means "I can be friends with this guy but I'm not dating him" I've friendzoned some girls too.

20 min later 4906286 OP
>>4906251 >cuckhold Wut, where did that come from

21 min later 4906290 Anonymous
easy for me and hard for everyone else

22 min later 4906301 Anonymous
>>4906286 YOU KNOW WHERE IT CAME FROM YOU HYPERGAMOUS SLUT

22 min later 4906302 Anonymous (Shut Up, Cunt.jpg 126x87 2kB)
>>4906098 I don't give a fuck. I just want them to act like decent goddamn human beings and speak to me politely. But nooooo. Instead it's all, "EEEEEEK!!," or, "Oh my god, what's wrong with your face," or, "I don't know you! Stay away from me, rapist!" Don't consider the fact that I might be asking if you've seen my recently stolen car. Don't give so much as a fucking thought to the fact that I'm aware I'm ugly. No, just assume I'm some perverted old man trying to get into your pants and screech and insult me. Fuck you, you're worse.

23 min later 4906311 OP
>>4906301 Woah take it easy man, I never said anything about getting a guy to watch me having sex with another guy and video it. So no, I don't know where it's coming from

24 min later 4906323 Anonymous
>>4906311 That's NTR, not cuckolding. Cuckolding is basically cheating, except other people are aware of it (but you aren't). NTR is when your partner is fucking someone else right in front of you.

25 min later 4906326 Anonymous
So why wouldn't you date him?

25 min later 4906328 OP
>>4906302 >implying you know me at all you fucking autist

26 min later 4906333 This One Robot Dude ...
>>4906235 >Umm no thanks I can take care of myself Haha, let's see if you say THAT if I take you out on dates that don't cost anything, like going for a walk or something. Let's see how long I can do that before you dump me. >What you mean like how you expect me to do your cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing etc >implying I was expecting you to be able to even perform those tasks at all You want something done right, you got to do it yourself. >support you >see point 1 >implying you would date a guy without a job You're not fooling anyone, you stupid cunt. >Implying that either gender is worse at cheating >not denying you wouldn't I don't even know you and I hate you. Get raped.

26 min later 4906335 OP
>>4906323 Oh ok, well yeah. Never cheated so don't see the relevance

26 min later 4906339 Anonymous (>men.png 872x258 136kB)
>>4906137 >>4906145 >>4906155 >say that all men aren't the same and start nitpicking >don't say anything when other men generalize all women as being the same Nah cunt. Nah.

27 min later 4906344 Anonymous
>>4906186 I never understood the idea of friends to get in your pants. What if you were friends and he just acquired romantic feelings for you? That's also a situation. Some people get sad when they're rejected by someone they like or love and some people get better. Being expected to carry on a friendship when you want it to be so much more is dumb.

28 min later 4906358 OP
>>4906333 You obviously have a lot of issues, I have my own career I don't need to be supported and I have no intention of supporting a fucking Neet waste of space like yourself. >get raped Wow, you're a real piece of shit, get over yourself

29 min later 4906366 Anonymous
>>4906328 >"I just want them to act like decent goddamn human beings and speak to me politely" >respond with insults And people wonder why insults are the only way I know of to communicate with women.

30 min later 4906371 Anonymous
I don't even care to read this, just pooping in to say >emotional trauma fucking lol'd. pooping

31 min later 4906376 OP
>>4906344 It's not even like I specifically say "no I will not be your girlfriend but you must stay friends with me" If poor old Jimmy can't take the fact I don't want to suck his dick he is free to not be my friend and never speak to me again.

32 min later 4906396 Anonymous
OP, did you ever consider that maybe friendzone isn't used to vilify but is more so used as a way to give a word to the feeling of liking someone a lot when they don't want anything more to do with you other than being friends.

33 min later 4906408 OP
>>4906366 >You: shut up cunt >Me: fucking autist >hurr durr how dare women insult me they can't be communicated with

33 min later 4906412 Anonymous
>>4906376 >If poor old Jimmy can't take the fact I don't want to suck his dick he is free to not be my friend and never speak to me again. Then you're alright in my book. I can't stand women who get self-righteous and mad when men don't want to remain "just friends", especially if they also get mad if those men find girlfriends elsewhere. If you're fine with just ending everything then you're alright, son.

34 min later 4906419 OP
>>4906396 That would be fine if it wasn't used so frequently used aggressively towards women

35 min later 4906436 Anonymous
>>4906419 I gotta say, I've never actually seen it as a way of insulting women. I've seen men bitch about it, sure. But the negative effects it has on women? Not so much, if at all. Not saying it doesn't exist but do you have like a story or something related to this thread that made you make this?

37 min later 4906451 Anonymous
>>4906419 I haven't seen one instance of the word "friendzone" being used aggressively. I HAVE seen it used as a WOMYN EMPOWERMENT word though. Even if you think the use is "aggresive" you have to realize it's a two edged sword, and using the word to complain implies that you were not desireable enough to the female in question. In other words, it's far more insulting to the male party.

38 min later 4906457 Anonymous
>making us choose between two extremes

38 min later 4906460 OP
>>4906436 Maybe I should have phrased it "Used agressively about women"

39 min later 4906473 Anonymous
If you don't actively flirt with and use the guys you 'friendzone' this wouldn't be a problem. If you don't then they're misusing the term friend zone.

40 min later 4906483 This One Robot Dude ...
>>4906358 If you're so spectacular, they won't don't you have a boyfriend? Oh, that's right, because every interested male you turn down. And if your career is so great, then why are you on /r9k/ with the rest of us. Because your "career" is probably some shit job and you live in a shit apartment. Viva Life

41 min later 4906498 OP
>>4906473 I don't flirt with them but of course different people interpret things differently and friendliness can be misinterpreted as flirting by some eager guys

41 min later 4906502 Anonymous
>>4906141 > And no to the tits Then your incoherent rambling is no use to us. Be gone foul broad!

42 min later 4906513 Anonymous
Niggas please like i haven't heard you all say you think EVERY woman deep down is a lying cheating whore

43 min later 4906519 Anonymous
>>4906460 So you mean men you it in a way to express bitter feelings toward women?

43 min later 4906525 Anonymous
>>4906519 use*

43 min later 4906526 Anonymous
>>4906339 Because /r9k/ is one big hivemind with absolutely no differing opinions, right? Also >Assuming one poster for the other on an Anonymous imageboard.

44 min later 4906536 OP
>>4906483 What makes you think I even need a boyfriend right now? /r9k/ requires an internet connection and nothing else. And I never said my career was "great" just that I can be self sufficient and don't expect support from whatever guy comes my way

45 min later 4906540 Anonymous
Also i'm not op but "friendzone" can be used aggressively by making women feel guilty for NOT wanting your advances simply because we don't. I don't lead guys on. I'm nice and polite to them, and i've had quite a few think that means i'm totally dtf when i'm not. interested that way and show it and all i hear is wow that bitch friendzoned me friendzoned forever wah wah

45 min later 4906546 OP
>>4906519 Not just bitterness, but a sense of entitlement, as if the woman had no right to turn them down and that they are owed a relationship

47 min later 4906567 Anonymous (1328373084532.jpg 420x560 22kB)
There is more then black and white! Here as always, there are always idiots that spurt out words they got from the internet, but you are also part of the problem, if you only want a friend and know he's not that good with girls (should be quiet obvious) don't fucking flirt with him, how is he supposed to know what you mean if he's not good at reading sogns, like me, just say it out loud for fucks sage I can ahndle it.

50 min later 4906593 Anonymous
OP, I know you're pissed that it seems that women are either "easy sluts" or "prude bitches", but really, you can't expect all men and all women to be the same. There are a fuckton of slutty, manipulative, heartbreaking bitches, but there are also a lot of douchey, manipulative manwhores out there as well. I completely understand why lots of guys on /r9k/ hate women (and why fembots hate the men here), and it's for mostly valid reasons. But you need to understand that there really are nice people out there, who aren't sluts or manwhores, and just want a nice, stable, and loving relationship. People's hearts have been broken before, and that sadness manifests anger, like the kind you see here. Girls are bitches, guys are douchebags, but we're not all the same.

50 min later 4906597 Anonymous
>>4906546 Exactly this. I'll get into a relationship with you if i like you, not because you do nice things for me. It's sweet and i'm not a stuck up bitch who will use you, but it gets creepy if we're not interested. And if we turn you down it's never seemed to be "i guess she didn't like me that way" it's "wow i pulled out all the stops for that bitch and she still didn't put out". Again this is my personal experience, and i realize not all men are the same.

50 min later 4906601 Anonymous
>>4906546 You're just looking for excuses now.

54 min later 4906643 Anonymous
>>4906567 *than, dammit...

56 min later 4906649 Anonymous
>>4906597 like flies to shit, never a more apt analogy.

56 min later 4906650 Anonymous
>>4906546 I'm not really following. I don't believe many men think they're entitled to not get rejected. I think it's more that they're better because it happened. Entitlement is not the word I would use because it refers to some kind of right, and I don't think anyone believes they have a right towards women. That being said, I'm aware that there are people out there like this who feel like they should never be rejected ever. But I'm still a little iffy on the "entitlement"aspect.

57 min later 4906659 Anonymous
>>4906593 >and why fembots hate the men here lol why do these women even come here if they know they're just going to get mad and end up being insulted? This seems like a recurring theme with many similar websites. Do they just get together and raid? I've noticed this happening more and more with /r9k/ as well.

58 min later 4906663 Anonymous
I know a girl who won a bet that she could have sex with 50 different people in February this year. Regardless of gender, that's fucking disgusting.

58 min later 4906665 Anonymous
Taking offence over something that isnt really insulting you. It just sucks to be put into the friendzone when you love someone and they don't love you back. Much like people bitch when a girl or guy rejects them in just about every situation from long friendships to hitting on someone at a bar. Nothing about entitlement ( theres that stupid word again) Just being sad that you love someone a lot and get rejected

1 hours later 4906690 Anonymous
>>4906665 I agree with you. I think that it can be misconstrued but I believe that it's not entitlement, it's sadness. At least iin my experiences.

1 hours later 4906696 Anonymous
>>4906339 >Implying that's a man >Implying nearly that were in that thread didn't say OP was a piece of shit.

1 hours later 4906708 Anonymous
>>4906696 *nearly all the people that were in that thread*

1 hours later 4906743 Anonymous
>>4906659 I think it's mostly because some women feel like they need to defend their gender. When they see someone posting about how "all women are sluts and whores" they feel insulted, but instead of ignoring it, some feel the need to tell them that they are indeed insulted and they end up making women look bad by acting like a whiny bitch. But make no mistake, there are indeed normal, rational women here that don't comment on those threads, because they're not bothered by them. This is the internet. People state their opinions. It's not up to you or me to tell them why their beliefs are wrong. It's quite unfortunate that the only women who present themselves here are stupid ignorant cunts who feel the need to state that they are in fact women, and they must be treated with respect that they do not deserve. The world's full of black and white, but there's a shit ton of gray in the middle.

1 hours later 4906750 sage (facepalm.png 546x566 7kB)
>>4906098 >Browsing the front page >this thread comes up >such an obvious troll its not even funny >thread has 77 replies Why /r9k/? Why must you be so easily trolled?

1 hours later 4906762 sage sage
>>4906750 Shit, wrong field. Ill just sage them all to be safe.

1 hours later 4906793 Anonymous (opie.png 404x250 133kB)
>>4906205 i concur, Marvelously put my dear robot.

1 hours later 4906817 Anonymous (1347374866529.jpg 400x400 57kB)
>>4906098 >Friendzone is a word used to vilify a woman who says no. >Slut is a word used to vilify a woman who says yes. OP, I think I understand the point you're trying to make, but the words you use just don't work. "Friendzoning" is something that men do, too; particularly men like me, who only have eyes for one woman at at time. I cringe when my 20/20 hindsight focuses on girls that had eyes for me, but I discounted, because I'm not capable of "multitasking". I was thinking about one named Audra, a girl I worked with. Sweet girl, and cute, too. I made the poor girl cry at Christmas time. I was in a salty mood because her friend, the girl I was after, had rejected me. If I hadn't been so blind, I woulda asked Audra out, rather than wasting my time trying to get the time of day from her friend. She was such a sweet girl. Moral of the story... DON'T FOLLOW YOUR BONER! YOUR DICK DON'T KNOW SHIT!!

1 hours later 4906938 Anonymous
>>4906817 Is that her? She look like Hillary Swank

1 hours later 4906946 Anonymous
>>4906132 >BAWWW Shut up, you cunt.

2 hours later 4907691 Anonymous
>Friendzone is a word used to vilify a woman who says no. Friendzone is a word used to describe the situation a beta male finds himself in when he doesn't express his sexual interest in a female quickly enough. It's an insult to the man as much as it is the woman. >Slut is a word used to vilify a woman who says yes. Slut is a word used to vilify promiscuous women, of which there are several different kinds, but none of which are marriage material (the term is often used by women to slander other women, or by men who are not interested in casual sex and who see the overabundance of sluts as an affront to their goals of finding the rare non-promiscuous woman) >femanon here Leave it to a woman to attempt to oversimplify things to the point where they don't even retain their original meanings.

2 hours later 4907721 Anonymous
>>4907691 >Friendzone is a word used to describe the situation a beta male finds himself in when he doesn't express his sexual interest in a female quickly enough. Actually it doesn't matter, if she's not attracted to him it doesn't matter if he said anything after the first minute or waited for years.

3 hours later 4908261 Anonymous
>>4907721 It does matter, though. Women turn down men they don't know all the time and don't bat an eyelash at the idea of never seeing that man again. When you stop wanting to hang out with them after they turn you down because you've been "friends" for awhile, on the other hand, they get all uppity and drag your name through the mud because obviously all you ever wanted was pussy and now that you don't get it you're throwing her away like she was only ever a piece of meat.

3 hours later 4908288 Anonymous
Easy: They want you to pick them, and say no to everyone else. Also bonus points if you can cause others envy and make them appear like a super hero in front of the others. Extra Bonus Points for being sensitive enough to "need" him even though he's going to feel vastly inferior to you since most of this bullshit is in his head.

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