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2012-11-14 02:36 4435068 Anonymous (1347691647522.gif 500x281 883kB)
Women of /r9k/: You have two choices for a sexual partner. Assume they're equally good looking. Option 1: >likes you to make the first move >likes to be told what to do in and out of bed >likes you to humiliate and abuse him >likes to treat you like a goddess Option 2: >strong, violent >throws you around a lot >isn't afraid to slap you or force you to do something >calls you a bitch/whore/etc Which do you choose?

1 min later 4435078 Anonymous
option 1 >extreme beta faggot option 2 >mashocistic abusive asshole how about neither?

2 min later 4435091 Anonymous
>>4435078 >i don't understand what masochistic means

2 min later 4435094 Anonymous
>>4435068 Option 1. I love submissive guys. They're cute to me.

2 min later 4435095 Anonymous
You're doing this to try to "prove" that women like being abused. Which they do not. However, I would much rather be abused then date a whiny little fucking faggot who can't stand his own ground and lets me push his faggot whiny ass around.

2 min later 4435100 Anonymous
I'd choose to be alone, but realistically, I'd have dozens of other choices that probably share more interests, make more money, and look better than both.

3 min later 4435103 Anonymous
>>4435068 >Women of /r9k/: bahahahh

3 min later 4435104 Anonymous
>>4435078 you mean sadistic. Masochistic people love self-inflicted pain. Get an education.

3 min later 4435114 Anonymous
>>4435095 Not so much abused as dominated.

4 min later 4435127 Anonymous
You know it's option 2 but they won't admit it. Instead they'll lie and say option 1.

4 min later 4435130 Anonymous
You could have just used google to find out that the sub/dom ratio in women is like 1:50. Though hopefully there are women out there who, regardless of their sexuality, don't want to be treated like shit or treat someone like shit in a relationship.

5 min later 4435138 Anonymous
>>4435068 I'll remain single. >Likes you to humiliate and abuse him. That's never going to happen and would actually make me cry if i had to do that. >Isn't afraid to slap you or force you to do something >calls you a bitch whore etc. why are these my only options? jesus i'll just get an extra cat then and a tarzan vibrator

5 min later 4435141 Anonymous (pics (5).jpg 420x280 55kB)
>Women of /r9k/: Am I the only one who thinks this is a goddamn problem? I come here to talk with bros, even fucking neckbearded ones, and half the threads want to talk to whores. actually, you know what? THIS IS NOW A MISOGYNY THREAD "Be the change you want to see in the world" -Muhatma Ghandi

5 min later 4435143 Anonymous
Didn't even read option two. I'll take option one pls. >tfw no slave to dom the shit out of

5 min later 4435145 Anonymous
>>4435130 You mean 50:1, right?

5 min later 4435146 Anonymous (download (3).jpg 420x255 30kB)
>>4435141 dealwithitblox

6 min later 4435149 Anonymous
I choose option 3: >respects himself >thinks of you as a person, and therefore does not worship you >enjoys fun sex where both parties are happy

6 min later 4435155 Anonymous
>>4435068 >Force bf to let me suck his cock >Blackmail him to fuck me >He cums twice as hard every time On the flip side with another guy i dated >Have bf hold me down >Have him choke me >He is disgusted with me and hates himself >Doesn't even cum I don't think men like doing the work either. I don't think anybody does.

6 min later 4435157 Anonymous
What OP means by making this comparison: I'm a beta, insecure faggot, so if I compare myself in a really biased way with a sadistic jerk, maybe girls will like me instead of him.

6 min later 4435158 Anonymous (download (5).jpg 400x400 53kB)
>>4435146 beachesandshoresblox

7 min later 4435169 Anonymous
Geez. Isn't there some kind of middle ground here?

7 min later 4435172 Anonymous (sticker,375x360.png 375x360 117kB)
>>4435158 I AM A STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN WHO DONT NEED NO MAN

7 min later 4435180 Anonymous
>>4435169 No, that's the point. Go off what sort of guy you would find more attractive, and nothing more. Note, this is also about sex. Not relationships.

8 min later 4435188 Anonymous
You have two choices for a sexual partner. Assume they're equally good looking. Option 1 has less red flags ideally we'd be equals and sometimes switch around with "dominant" and "submissive" roles (extremely extremely *extremely* vanilla/ mild versions of that) Option 1: >likes you to make the first move Ok whatever, I don't mind making the first move, but things are going to move pretty slow, he has to be ok with that. >likes to be told what to do in and out of bed ehhhhhhhh >likes you to humiliate and abuse him RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG >likes to treat you like a goddess aw <3 Option 2: >strong, violent strong = good violent = RED FLAG RED FLAG >throws you around a lot RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG >isn't afraid to slap you or force you to do something RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG >calls you a bitch/whore/etc RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG

8 min later 4435195 Anonymous
>>4435114 >isn't afraid to slap you or force you to do something >calls you a bitch/whore/etc >Throws you around a lot >Violent That's abuse, I love being dominated but they usually don't slap me or force me to do things except in bed only under the protection of a safe-word. As for the violence, I am only attracted to men who are violent in bed, not violent in real-life.

9 min later 4435204 Anonymous (pics (3).jpg 275x224 22kB)
>>4435172 dwnjfeqibfqbg

9 min later 4435209 Anonymous
>>4435141 This thread isn't called "For neckbearded men only to complain about no gf"

10 min later 4435212 Anonymous (1350807160768.png 3432x2008 1254kB)
>>4435204 njiwenfeiouvbnw

10 min later 4435216 Anonymous
Mannn that second option makes me mad. And it made my pussy shrivel. Option one, no doubt.

10 min later 4435217 Anonymous
>>4435195 >As for the violence, I am only attracted to men who are violent in bed, not violent in real-life. Again, that's the point of this thread. It's not about whether the guy would be a dangerous boyfriend, it's about who you find more attractive. A safeword is a given.

11 min later 4435227 Anonymous
>>4435157 All this. Exactly this. Men think that any guy who isn't beta and insecure is an asshole. Alpha or confident doesn't mean asshole.

11 min later 4435229 Anonymous (Untitled.png 667x531 375kB)
>>4435212 >this is what women actually believe youknowitblox

13 min later 4435251 Anonymous
Hi OP-from-the-last-thread. I'm the girl who compared you to Michael from Burn Notice. This was a bad thread. I'm sorry. You really did this wrong. No girl in her right mind is going to pick Option 2 unless she has serious emotional problems. I like a guy with a mixed quality of both. The qualities in Option 1, I would take in a heartbeat, and I actually find it extremely attractive. But I also like a guy who isn't afraid to ask for what he wants (even if he does it submissively, he can still communicate his needs), and who isn't afraid to be demonstrative. Maybe he likes to be dominant sometimes, too-- but it's not a rough kind of dominance, it's an in-charge kind of dominance, like taking charge of the direction of the sexual encounter/saying "Hey, I made plans for us to go hiking/ice skating/to a game". Personally, I have a thing for submissive men, but there's a difference between being submissive and having almost no real drive. You know what I mean?

13 min later 4435255 Anonymous
>>4435229 Being a straight white male is probably the easiest, but it's no means as easy as women think. They think being male is like a free pass to do whatever you want. It's not. We mostly have as many troubles as women.

13 min later 4435259 Anonymous
>>4435217 But the guy as described in OP's photo is portrayed to be a violent dangerous jerk while the beta one is portrayed as a saint. You can be a nice guy and still be dominant in bed.

13 min later 4435260 Anonymous
>>4435091 means they like to bring pain to themselves he misused the word

14 min later 4435267 Anonymous
>>4435259 >Photo I mean post. Derp.

14 min later 4435268 Anonymous
>Women of /r9k/... Are extremely fucking strange and so few and far between there's no point asking them anything and taking anything from it other than what women of /r9k/ want. /soc/ is the only busy place on this website that's brimming full of girls and they're not so much interested in discussion as getting someone to rate their body parts out of ten and call other girls fat anonymously. It's fucking cancer for a reason. If you want to talk to real adult women try /ck/ for example. This is not a sexist jibe. There's a ton of them and you won't notice the difference between the girls and the boys because nobody ever mentions it until it sometimes specifically comes out for whatever reason. Never involving tits alas.

15 min later 4435279 Anonymous
>>4435094 if you love submissive guys then you cant wait for them to come to you.

15 min later 4435281 Anonymous
>>4435095 They just wont admit it. Silly.

16 min later 4435289 Anonymous
>>4435260 No, a masochist is someone that likes to be hurt. A sadist is someone that likes to hurt people. Option B would be a sadist, not a masochist.

16 min later 4435291 Anonymous
>>4435255 Not sure about non-straight and non-white, but you only have to look at homeless rates, suicide rates and amount of men working horrible jobs as opposed to women to show that being a man is much more of a "hard mode" than being a woman. This is if we're going by video game logic and hard mode is has more potential to fuck up and to also achieve a high level.

16 min later 4435293 Anonymous (35kbin.jpg 400x600 82kB)
>>4435255 Are you retarded? http://www.avoiceformen.com/misandry/chivalry/from-woman-to-man-to-red-pill/ >female transgender >becomes man >societal pressure from being a man is so great that she becomes institutionalized >renounces the concept of "male privilege" being a woman confirmed for easymode

17 min later 4435302 Anonymous
>>4435281 There's a difference between liking abuse and liking dominance. Nobody in the world seems to see this anymore though.

17 min later 4435306 Anonymous
>>4435291 It's more "hard mode" to be a man depending on what kind of game you're playing.

18 min later 4435311 Anonymous
>>4435188 >RED FLAG RED FLAG RED LAG RED FLAG RED SAG RED FAG BED FLAG SAID FLAG RED MAG DEAD FLAG DEAD FAG

19 min later 4435323 Anonymous (tumblr_mde913RcKI1rtcur5o1_500.jpg 500x375 24kB)
>>4435293 dnwjodnwfui

19 min later 4435328 Anonymous
>likes you to humiliate and abuse him I automatically said "hell yeah" out loud when I read that, so Option 1.

20 min later 4435339 Anonymous
>>4435323 >implying you can't simply dress as something else other than those things >Implying cosplay doesn't exist Wouldn't you love to punch her in the face?

21 min later 4435345 Anonymous
>>4435311 red swag

21 min later 4435348 swami
both of awful choices nopenopenope

21 min later 4435356 Anonymous
>>4435323 A slutty PILOT? That's like the least sexual uniform related job out there.

22 min later 4435358 Anonymous
>>4435323 mikowf

22 min later 4435361 Anonymous
>>4435348 Don't imply you wouldn't do both of them simply because they have a dick swami

22 min later 4435362 Anonymous
>>4435348 post your feet again swami.

22 min later 4435369 Anonymous (tumblr_mcjfa13YtH1rtcur5o1_500.jpg 500x529 31kB)
>>4435323 dwbhwiduo

23 min later 4435373 Anonymous
>>4435293 Yeah I'm sure a tranny is very objective, mentally well and experiencing what it really means to be a man.

23 min later 4435378 Anonymous
>>4435369 >dat syntax

24 min later 4435382 Anonymous
1 I am a sadist after all.

24 min later 4435392 Anonymous
>>4435369 LOL Has anyone even been so far as to see what equality do look like?

25 min later 4435394 Anonymous (tumblr_m9jh6oE4aB1rnyewg.jpg 480x360 36kB)
>>4435369 fewfewfe

25 min later 4435399 Anonymous (gnx.jpg 490x395 52kB)
>>4435392 Why does this news post exist?

26 min later 4435406 Anonymous (i-need-feminism-because1.jpg 640x480 90kB)
>>4435394 nfiofpqnefp

27 min later 4435412 Anonymous
>>4435392 Dammit, fuck you! I laughed more that I should have.

27 min later 4435414 Anonymous
Date #1 so I can get him to pay for everything and cheat on him with #2 so I can get him to intimidate people for me.

27 min later 4435423 Anonymous
>>4435323 I've seen that photo a million times, but there's so much wrong there I can't help but say this. If I could just sit her down for ten minutes and explain everything that was factually incorrect and logically ridiculous with that stupid fucking sign, and enjoy the brief gobsmacked look on her uneducated face my life would be so much better. She just doesn't understand feminism, halloween or know anything about history between 1948 and 1995. Although I would end the conversation with "tits or gtfo".

27 min later 4435431 Anonymous
>>4435068 Always, always, option 2. option 1 is boring and probably won't fondle me while I sleep.

28 min later 4435434 Anonymous
>>4435406 Stupid girl, you can't greentext on paper!

28 min later 4435437 Anonymous (tumblr_m2bucl4kuv1rtcur5o1_1280.jpg 1023x685 224kB)
>>4435406 fenjufiqohbf

28 min later 4435440 Anonymous
>>4435406 Damn, man. This shit is creating a society of waifish, effeminate twinks. The niggers really are going to breed us out. Too bad the Nazis didn't win.

29 min later 4435450 Anonymous
>>4435423 What retarded wrong stupid point would you try and tell her, that she has it much better now a days than "back then"? That halloween is about making your own costume and not 100% capitalism?

29 min later 4435452 Anonymous
>>4435431 you are boring for expecting me to do everything.

30 min later 4435460 Anonymous
>>4435440 thats a girl lmao

30 min later 4435465 Anonymous (604153_241316889330264_201197137_n.jpg 403x403 36kB)
>>4435437 >men make up 75% of the homeless

31 min later 4435474 Anonymous
>>4435465 >Poverty rates are highest for families wat waaaat

31 min later 4435477 Anonymous
>>4435460 The text. Anti-masculinity.

31 min later 4435478 Anonymous
>>4435406 >masculinity hurts men Dafuq is dat bitch sayin'?

31 min later 4435479 Anonymous
>>4435406 1: That's fine. 2: Sorry, you're expecting us to disagree with this girl? She seems alright. 3: WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT YOU STUPID FUCKING CUNT!!!? Alright, I'm off to /s/ to fap like crazy and remind myself that few girls actually believe this.

32 min later 4435481 Anonymous
>>4435345 Said Swag (is for faggots)

32 min later 4435486 Anonymous
>>4435452 If I'm your gf, then take it. I'd take it from you. I'm not saying I would never, I just don't don't want someone who is terrified to attempt.

33 min later 4435489 Anonymous (287456388686569161_jGgYyDd7_b.jpg 192x149 13kB)
>>4435465 rfwqefcac

35 min later 4435515 Anonymous (170633_Why I need feminism.jpg 960x640 45kB)
>>4435489 ecasedb until

35 min later 4435518 Anonymous
>>4435095 >I like being abused.

35 min later 4435522 Anonymous
>>4435515 She right with her second point.

36 min later 4435532 Anonymous
>>4435515 >feminists >take liberal arts classes to be more "culturally aware" >complain there aren't any women in science classes why

37 min later 4435539 Anonymous
>>4435515 Well, at least she's admitting that men are better at science, though what feminism has to do with it I don't know.

37 min later 4435540 Anonymous (hp0OL.jpg 1272x848 154kB)
>>4435515 rfqeafeee

37 min later 4435543 Anonymous
>>4435095 >she doesnt like pushing whiny faggots around! Why are you even on /r9k/ then?

38 min later 4435552 Anonymous
>dat transparent attempt at using women as survey-answering objects to reinforce a preexisting ideology hehe, /r9k/, you so creepy autist funny

38 min later 4435557 Anonymous
>>4435540 Is this honestly meant to get me angry? How dare she not want to get sexually assaulted! Slut! I mean, uh, f-friendzoner or something!

38 min later 4435559 Anonymous (2572652765.gif 200x293 1833kB)
>>4435540 >till I give in

39 min later 4435563 Anonymous
>>4435540 Wait what? I'm not raging, I'm genuinely concerned for this girl. She doesn't need feminism, she needs to talk to the fucking police and stop letting bastards treat her like shit.

39 min later 4435564 Anonymous
>>4435369 I had to read that 3 times to even as to not but comprehend.

39 min later 4435567 Anonymous
>>4435515 you're damn right it isn't random: VERY FEW WOMEN WANT TO TAKE THOSE COURSES. as many women are probably demotivated by the fact that it's male dominated, the female drive for hypoagency is likely to attract tons more for that very reason.

40 min later 4435578 Anonymous
>>4435567 Or maybe women are just inherently less interested in science? Holy shit, this isn't difficult.

42 min later 4435590 Anonymous (tumblr_m9ohhyJQjH1r2c5geo1_500.jpg 480x640 106kB)
>>4435540 wrerwerw

42 min later 4435601 Anonymous (science is bad mmkay.png 807x717 129kB)
>>4435578 except that's what i said you double dingus. i added the bit at the end because so many feminists say "hurr but they don't like science because of how misogynist it is" >pic related

42 min later 4435602 Anonymous
>>4435559 "Give in" could mean 'submit'. Doesn't necessarily mean 'consent'. I could be mugged by some piece of shit on a poorly lit street and fight him off for as long as he kept trying to punch the shit out of me and get my money. He might then produce a weapon at which point I'd "give in". Does that mean it wasn't a crime in your eyes?

42 min later 4435604 Anonymous
>>4435259 That's me. My ex went around telling her best friends I was a god in bed because I was so dominant. After we broke up several of her friends started flirting with me after a little while. (I didn't bother with any of them.) After our first time together my ex also told me that I surprised her a whole lot. I'm an extremely quiet and reserved guy, with extremely stoic mannerisms (but not shy) but I'm also really confident and I had no trouble doing what I wanted in bed (but not too rough).

42 min later 4435606 Anonymous
>likes you to make the first move >likes to be told what to do in and out of bed >likes to treat you like a goddess It's just like my american turn based strategies.jpg I will have him dress up as a lowly gunman while I am the strict but benevolent general, who orders him to fight and die for the good of his country. Although I never show it, he still knows that I care deeply for every soldier under my command and when I return to my office to sign paperwork after the skirmish I mourn the loss of the good men I sent to die. >mfw no male subs nearby, can't participate in war reenactments, can't go to war on the front lines.

43 min later 4435617 Anonymous (tumblr_m923fwlaDY1qjk0pqo1_500.jpg 500x375 36kB)
>>4435590 qdnquwirjwng

43 min later 4435619 Anonymous
>>4435515 >how many more boys there are How the fuck was she able to enter a science class anyway?

44 min later 4435627 Anonymous
>>4435602 getting stabbed or killed vs a guy getting pouting or angry, and nothing happening.

44 min later 4435634 Anonymous
>>4435437 this one is truly retarded. of course you're going to be at least slightly biased against women, as you can never fully understand what they go through, and vice versa. everyone empathizes more with their own gender, and that's the way it should remain

45 min later 4435648 Anonymous
>>4435601 I read somewhere about how this female sociologist criticized E=mc^2 (and other set in stone facts) for being too 'sexed', because it put too much emphasis on the speed of light while ignoring other equally important factors.

45 min later 4435649 Anonymous
>>4435602 How hard is it to say no? Even if it was a terrible situation, I don't see how feminism would help. Seems more like a police issue.

46 min later 4435655 Anonymous (tumblr_m7n79hwr0i1rw8cr8o1_1280.jpg 922x720 72kB)
>>4435617 mwicopnwdnwd

46 min later 4435661 Anonymous
>>4435634 except women show a very strong in-group preference for women they've never met...and men favour women they've never met more than men too

46 min later 4435662 Anonymous
Option 2, soooo much. Why do you ask, anon?

47 min later 4435672 Anonymous
>>4435627 The context is so vague that just doesn't cut it for me. Could be far more than that. There is such a thing as sexual abuse. Right, bed. Captcha: LANDMARK BLOCK ID OPENING flogicat

48 min later 4435675 Anonymous (oh wow.png 1801x927 272kB)
>>4435672 >There is such a thing as sexual abuse. let's not trust feminists to make the definition, shall we?

48 min later 4435680 Anonymous
Option 2 Please.

49 min later 4435690 Anonymous
>>4435675 Obligatory: >Having sex with her when she doesn't want it >Denying her sex

50 min later 4435694 Anonymous
>>4435655 Coincidentally, I can't tell if that's a man or a woman. Or Thurston Moore.

50 min later 4435700 Anonymous
>>4435655 Smiling girl. Cheesy way of saying "I need feminism because men and women are equal". She's one of the only nice girls out the lot. I'd take her for lentils and pita bread and garlic wine or whatever these fucking hippies do then let her braid my pubic hair.

51 min later 4435714 Anonymous
>>4435675 >Refusing to have sex with her >Abuse Wait what

51 min later 4435717 Anonymous
>>4435675 There's a few stupid ones on that list but it's mostly fine. Before you say "mad" pick up a dictionary. The only really fucking rage-worthy thing is "him refusing you sex" or something equally idiotic.

52 min later 4435723 mystery.jpg
Neither, I'll have a real dominant man, OP. #2 seems like an immature little shit who wouldn't be able to handle this.

52 min later 4435726 Anonymous
>>4435675 >Telling her she's mad/ugly/useless What? Please give men the same rights, I'd get fucking rich.

54 min later 4435740 Anonymous
>>4435601 Dear lord, ecofeminism. If you guys hate feminism, you will despise ecofeminism. I love feminism but I can't take it seriously.

54 min later 4435743 Anonymous
>>4435726 >Implying you can verbally abuse a man

54 min later 4435745 Anonymous
I loved it when my last gf would quickly stick her hand down my pants and jerk me off as hard as she could. If I tried to get away she'd just move with me and keep going even faster. Of course I'd only playfully resist but she slap me a few times and tell me 'no' forcefully, and to be a good boy. God I miss that.

54 min later 4435747 Anonymous
>>4435675 >Murder WHY IS THAT EVEN ON THE LIST?

56 min later 4435762 Anonymous
>>4435743 Don't care, it's still free money. I too want some equality.

57 min later 4435775 Anonymous
>>4435675 and most of these things women do just as much, if not more yet apparently that's ok

58 min later 4435776 Anonymous
>>4435740 After a really hard day at work and it being 2am I honestly read about half of that without understanding a word of it. If I was still at university I'd maybe rage but none of these words mean anything in the real world, you just look at it and think "what a load of crap" and get bored.

58 min later 4435782 Anonymous
>>4435740 I actually think ecofeminism makes a not-terrible argument. I think the feminism part is stupid (i.e. 'the MEN have polluted the world and ruined everything!') but I think it makes some decent points.

1 hours later 4435814 Anonymous (58803_1205169373826_full.jpg 400x293 18kB)
Women just like being told what to do Anything else is a just whip cream There are exceptions for less girly chicks though know what I mean?

1 hours later 4435832 Anonymous
>>4435814 Kinda. Post more on /lit/. You might remove some of the cancer.

1 hours later 4435863 Anonymous
>>4435782 Like what? "Women are associated with nature vs Men with science, so because animals are nature and the persecution of women is wrong, the persecution of animals is wrong?" That's a massive crock of shit. I get binaries are used to seperate abd codify things so they can be painted black and white, but how are women associated with nature? And if they are, why is the next logical step to say "Hey, nature should have rights, too!" And not "Fuck no, we aren't animals!"? I mean, generally speaking, when women are compared to cattle or breeding sows, it's not to bring attention to the plight of livestock.

1 hours later 4435866 Anonymous
>>4435717 >it's mostly fine most of it is "doing something that upsets her, no matter how inconsequential that thing is". men are held accountable for the emotional state of women. that is misogyny at its finest.

1 hours later 4435967 Anonymous
>>4435866 Umm, those are inconsequential? I see two that are, two that are dibiously worded, among that whole list. Are you joking or just a psychopath?

1 hours later 4436075 Anonymous
>>4435229 >Macbook >Playing Doom >Not a dusty yellow-brown Pentium II running MSDOS with a CRT monitor

1 hours later 4436083 Anonymous
>>4435967 >telling her she is mad >telling her her reactions are irrational >not giving her enough attention >threatening to report her to the authorities >denying that abuse took place (lel wot) >criticizing her abilities >criticizing her sexual performance >swearing at her (oh teh noes) if most of them weren't variations on physical sexual abuse, the ones that are supposed to describe emotional abuse are extremely subjective and highly dependent on the situation at BEST. hell, even some of the physical/sexual abuse stuff sounds more kinky than abusive.

1 hours later 4436171 Anonymous
>>4436083 It's generally assumed that a woman who is in a healthy but kinky relationship will go see this pist and go OMG WAIT THAT'S ABUSE? The list is for women is abusive relationships to recognise a PATTERN of abusive behavior. Don't tell me you don't think swearing, denial of wrongdoing, gaslighting, constant and relentless criticism, can be abusive?

1 hours later 4436196 Anonymous
>>4436171 Pardon my spelling, *post *will not

1 hours later 4436239 Anonymous
>>4436171 they can be abusive, they can also be harmless. this is why we don't let feminists define abuse. >aw honey, work today was a complete fucking shit show. >OMG SWEARING >what are you freaking out about? i left the toilet seat up, there's nothing stopping you from putting it back down >OMG DENIAL OF WRONGDOING >you know honey, that's the fiftieth time i've seen you struggle to turn on the gas stove. you can lift the pan up, the rush of air will... >OMG CONSTANT CRITICISM >are you sure it happened that way? i could've sworn i turned the radio off when i heard you... >OMG GASLIGHTING subjective and situational.

1 hours later 4436289 Anonymous
If you're using this for any advice OP I'll tell you my 2 cents. Make her make the first move. Make so many opportunities for the move to be made? and fall short. This will allow you to know concretely what she wants. hung out with girl I've been flirting with, we drink and she leaves... text >it was really hard not to kiss you tonight -yea I know it happens >you don't feel the same way? -of course I do get your ass back here. from there on no talking about what she's into or what she likes. learn it like a roadmap, pay attention to her breathing and when she arches her back. this is how you find her erogenous zones and in turn, turn her on. Hips seem to be a big one.

1 hours later 4436308 Anonymous
>>4436289 sorry to add... my ex liked to be tied up, how'd I find that out. holding her arms down while I went down on her. she liked to be just as aggressive leaving me with bite marks. not hickeys, literal you could see the outline of teeth bruise bitemark. I didn't care, she's hot.

2 hours later 4436391 Anonymous
>>4436239 That was the point of my post, though. Nobody who is not already afraid in their own home or looking for support is going to look at that and see ABUSE! Think about it this way: if a woman was presented with these and is afraid of her husband, and thinks he's abusive, why hasn't the hisband left HER? Who would put up with being feared and loathed by their significant other, why wouldn't they stop if it was clearly making his partner afraid? Nobody is going to argue for abuse in the situations you listed.

2 hours later 4436452 Anonymous
>>4436391 >Nobody who is not already afraid in their own home or looking for support is going to look at that and see ABUSE! some people will. some people are so obsessed with being the victim that they will see minor transgressions as abusive. only problem with this is that many accusations of abuse come out in civil court and not criminal--and civil courts have the tendency to unfairly prosecute men given any excuse. >Who would put up with being feared and loathed by their significant other, why wouldn't they stop if it was clearly making his partner afraid? same reason victims of abuse stay with their abusers: love, an addiction with the potential to be extremely dangerous.

2 hours later 4436765 Anonymous
>>4435437 dat glorious neckbeard

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