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2012-10-07 05:24 4006007 Anonymous (do you like chicken.jpg 587x450 45kB)
Question robots. Let's say during high school you were really awkward, shy, and never went out to parties. But now you're /fit/, new everything, and people from your high school haven't seen you in over 6 months.When they see you, they treat you like a new person. You start actually flirting with girls, going out more often, etc. Now here's the question. Would you be mad? Now that you're good looking people accept you but if you never changed they wouldn't even remember you. Would you just accept it or would you call those people out on their hypocrisy? Extra question. If you're "friends" never text you first (for me over 6 months), should you move on?

1 min later 4006011 Anonymous
Better question is why the fuck would I be hanging around with the losers I knew in high school? Those sad fuckers still live in the exact same town and haven't done anything or gone anywhere their whole lives, why on earth would I care?

2 min later 4006019 Anonymous
my high school isolation was due more to my own faults than anybody else, even the people that actively tormented might have matured as well, I know one guy who did during the course of school

3 min later 4006028 Anonymous
>>4006011 It's only freshman year of college for me and I go to community college. Majority of people are at universities and I only have one friend I still occasionally hang with. When everyone returns around November, I want to be prepared for this.

5 min later 4006039 Anonymous
>Would you just accept it or would you call those people out on their hypocrisy? Nope. Wouldn't call them out on it for the sake of not starting shit, but I sure as hell wouldn't be very friendly towards them. >If you're "friends" never text you first (for me over 6 months), should you move on? Half a year without them wanting to talk/spend time with you? Yes, they are not your friends. At most that means they just put up with you.

7 min later 4006050 Anonymous
>>4006039 Well that's the harsh truth I needed to hear, and is exactly what I had in plan. Thanks a lot for that.

8 min later 4006057 Anonymous
>>4006007 Reminds of me of 2 weeks ago. I was in a club in a big city and I came across this one girl with HUUUUUGE tits that I used to go to high school with. She approached me and talked to me as if I was the greatest person alive. She said it was so great that she saw someone familiar. In high school she wouldnt give me the time of day. She was in my classes and I tried to add her on my Facebook(well it was my native country's variation of Facebook) and she never accepted me. I didnt think anything of it at the time, but I realize it now. I was a bit of a nerd, but I hung with cool people anyway, but some 'popular' people simply didnt like me because I hung with complete asspies aswell as social butterflies. I didnt tell her off, I just acted arrogant and cocky and shrugged her off.

9 min later 4006066 Anonymous
>>4006039 >Half a year without them wanting to talk/spend time with you? Yes, they are not your friends. At most that means they just put up with you. I dont agree. I have a couple of friends in a nearby city and they ALWAYS text me first. I never text them first because I assume they will text me somewhere along the way. I like them a lot.

14 min later 4006107 Anonymous
>>4006066 Do you even know how to read? Readblox

18 min later 4006151 Anonymous
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22 min later 4006176 Anonymous
>>4006057 And by being "arrogant and cocky" she saw you as hot. Hmmm

26 min later 4006205 Anonymous
>hypocrisy Why is it hypocrisy? Back then, you were a dumpass, and were treated as such. Now that you're not, you're welcomed with open arms. Not to mention that YEARS AND YEARS would have passed, and both parties are gonna be fairly different people by then.

28 min later 4006218 Anonymous
>>4006205 See that's what I am asking. I want to see the different viewpoints of this scenario.

35 min later 4006271 Anonymous
>>4006205 He said only 6 months.

35 min later 4006272 Anonymous
>>4006039 It depends on your expectations. I hang out an old friend from high school once or twice a year at most and that's fine with me. Our friendship isn't what it used to be, our hobbies are completely incompatible now and we don't have similar tastes in most things. I haven't had any close friends for about 4 years now and I've pretty much adapted to this lifestyle.

37 min later 4006296 Anonymous
>>4006271 Even then, my point still stands: >Back then, you were a dumpass, and were treated as such. Now that you're not, you're welcomed with open arms. How is it hypocrisy? The other party is basically telling you what they want and they aren't exactly lying about it. It's straight up "Oh, you're not a fat neckbear anymore and are actually able to talk to people without getting buttflustered and running away with your arms fully extended outward? Kewl. Come sit with us"

42 min later 4006338 Anonymous
>>4006176 Possibly, but I really just wanted her to fuck off. As I have with more and more people nowadays. I used to enjoy catching up with people, nowadays it's so fucking repetitive. >what you studying now >do you like it? >tell me something about it. >where do you live? >is it nice there >yeah I wanna live somewhere around the area aswell blablablbalbalbalablablabalalbal

44 min later 4006366 Anonymous
Given the fact that I'm significantly prettier now since I last lived in this town, 2 years ago, and I keep losing weight slowly but surely, I know that when I leave overseas and come back in two years I'll look like a totally different person and I know people will probably treat me different and yes, I will be furious. My biggest uncertainty about weight loss was I didn't like the idea that people were undoubtedly going to treat me different by the end of it as if being not fat suddenly improves my personality, when chances are I might just get egotistical about it.

46 min later 4006392 Anonymous
>>4006366 being not fat is indicative of a positive shift in your personality, since you went from not respecting your body to taking proper care of yourself your personality HAS changed, anon

49 min later 4006417 Anonymous
>>4006007 Don't carry the anger around. Be the bigger man, forgive them for shit they did in high school (everyone is stupid at that age) As hard as it may seem, you have to look past all that if you ever want to really be happy and free of issues. Don't be like some of the people here on r9k clearly still carrying issues from high school and letting it ruin their lives forever whereas the people who committed the acts in question have probably long forgotten and gone on to lead normal lives.

50 min later 4006421 Anonymous
>>4006392 People don't think "oh, they lost weight, they took proper care of themselves, I'm going to talk to them" they think "wow they're hot now I'm going to go talk to them" and besides the whole taking care of yourself, your personality doesn't change that much. you may be a bit more confident, but that's about it.

51 min later 4006430 Anonymous
>>4006366 But - no trollin' - being not fat DOES improve your personality. I used to be quite a fatty, and I know your feel. However, your weight implies a whole range of non-physical attributes, like determination, self-control, initiative and a desire to self-improve. Being fat is the only type of 'ugly' which actually makes a comment on your inner value as well. Treating you different for being less fat is no different to treating you differently because you've proven your honesty or developed a difficult skill.

52 min later 4006441 Anonymous
>>4006392 No, it really hasn't. Because I'm fat now, but I work out, people act like being fat changes overnight if you have enough willpower, my personality isn't any different now then it's going to be after having lost 30 pounds. Someone who EXERCISES indicates a positive shift in personality, someone who LOSES WEIGHT, does not. For all anyone knows I could have had surgery. On top of that, it's only one personality aspect: how much motivation you have. I may have had "mediocre" motivation and then suddenly "amazing" motivation, however that doesn't change what I'm interested in, my intelligence level, my sense of humor, my level of kindness to others. The only personality shift that happens when one begins to exercise is being not lazy anymore, and I say it only changes if they're working out or not, whether I'm fat or skinny doesn't determine how motivated or lazy I am, what I go out and do during the day determines that. Because by that logic, everyone who is slim works SO HARD and is SO MOTIVATED just because their parents didn't feed them too much as kids. Fatness and weight loss isn't a black and white thing. It's people like you that make it harder to want to go to the gym because "HAHAHA FAT PERSON WORKING OUT."

52 min later 4006442 Anonymous
>>4006417 But what if they bring it up? >You used to be so awkward in high school and now you're cool! What happened?

55 min later 4006469 Anonymous
>>4006430 You say determination, initiative and desire to self-improve as if they're not pretty much all the same thing. Aside from those descriptive words you mentioned, the only personality shift in weight loss MIGHT be confidence or outgoingness. I don't lack in either of those. Literally the only thing that has changed is my motivation. And like I said, your weight doesn't PROVE lacking in those traits, you used the word IMPLY, that's important, because people don't lose weight overnight. Just because I'm fat, doesn't mean I'm more lazy then a thin person for certain, I could go run out and jog a couple of miles a day while some thin person sits inside and plays vidya. But somehow being fat makes me "less motivated" or "less interesting in self-improvement." All fatness is is an IMPLICATION, not a DEFINITE proof, just like people assume people with tons of tattoos are delinquents. They aren't always just because they look like they could be. Also, see >>4006441 for more.

57 min later 4006477 Anonymous
being mad that they accept you more now is immature. you changed physically but not emotionally or mentally... what's really different if you still feel like the kid who sat by himself in the cafeteria? you decided to change for a reason, right? taking better care of yourself, getting hot, etc. whatever. yeah, people were shallow then and are now, so what? don't act like a girl who dresses up nice and gets mad when guys stare at her bum. act responsible.

57 min later 4006482 Anonymous
>>4006441 Get the shuddering fuck over yourself. I was on your side before but I just realised that you're that fat chick that walks into the gym, does 5 pushups, and then leaves for a donut and a triple moccafloccafrappe with extra sugar. It's easy to "work out" and stay fat. The binary exercising/not exercising distinction does not display a full-spectrum range of dedication or self-control, only one tiny part. To put that another way - working out is an activity, weight loss is a proof of a holistic lifestyle choice. Only the latter is worth applauding.

1 hours later 4006516 Anonymous
>>4006421 >"wow they're hot now I'm going to go talk to them" exactly, you have managed to make yourself hot so clearly you must be doing SOMETHING right in your life and be worth talking to >>4006430 >However, your weight implies a whole range of non-physical attributes, like determination, self-control, initiative and a desire to self-improve. >Being fat is the only type of 'ugly' which actually makes a comment on your inner value as well. p much these, if you're just ugly you're just ugly but if you're fat, you have no self control, you have a bad diet, you don't respect your body (or others, if you're a smelly fat guy too) etc etc

1 hours later 4006521 Anonymous
>>4006482 You clearly missed my point and you're implying I'm putting myself high on a pedestal instead of pointing out your inability to think like a fucking logical person. I don't need to sit here and tell you my whole regime to get my point across, my point is EXTREMELY valid. Fatness only IMPLIES personality traits, it does not CONFIRM them, it's that simple. Aside from that, nobody cares about the personality "traits" that fatness implies, they only care that it looks bad. I see drug and smoking and alcoholism support everywhere, nobody rags on them for self-control. Why? Because they look perfectly fine. Maybe you should stop lying to the internet, nobody cares about the "health" aspect of weight loss or the "personality" aspect of it, it's all about the physical-ness of it. Also, OH NO, I NEGLECTED TO TELL YOU ABOUT MY WHOLE LIFE AND WHAT I DO DESPITE THE FACT THAT I WAS SIMPLY PRESENTING YOU WITH A HYPOTHETICAL, THAT MUST MEAN I EAT LIKE A PIG AND THINK EXERCISING WILL FIX IT -- BECAUSE MY HYPOTHETICAL IMPLIED IT. Fucking retard.

1 hours later 4006557 Anonymous
>>4006442 If they're blunt enough to ask shit like that, just say you don't know, you just stopped being that way. I would hope they wouldn't be that stupid though.

1 hours later 4006558 Anonymous
>>4006516 No, if you're fat and don't exercise and eat well you have these traits. Did you ever consider it takes people a year or more to lose weight? Does that mean that I could eat 1500 good, healthy calories a day and go run for 5k every night, but still be all of those things because I'm fat? No, it doesn't. Does nobody get the concept of weight loss and how it works? That it takes a long period of time to accomplish? And therefor you're really just making personality assumptions? I'm not even saying fat people aren't lazy or weren't at some point, but not ALL fat people are those things. And what about skinny people? Does that mean just because they're skinny, they can't be without self-control, bad diet, and bodily respect? Jesus Christ you guys are all dumb.

1 hours later 4006585 Anonymous
>>4006516 no, it's all superficial to people. people like having something pretty to look at. it's a sensory thing. they don't think that you're worth talking to because you've been doing something right in your life (well, i shouldn't say everyone. some people will think this, but most won't); they think you're worth talking to because you look good, and they enjoy being around people who look good. it's as simple as that. kind of like how you won't talk to a smelly person. they smell bad. but if they started smelling good, people would talk to them because they like others who smell good.

1 hours later 4006592 Anonymous
>>4006442 >I became a baller is what happened. WU TANG SECRETS alternatively >I found jesus

1 hours later 4006603 Anonymous
>>4006442 I had people asking me this. They are totally cool people, though, but they genuinly wondered what happened to me. They didnt really know me in high school, though, they just passed me in the hallways once in a while. I'm not much different from the person I was in high school, I just cleaned up my act and started caring more about how I look.

1 hours later 4006609 Anonymous
>>4006558 >>4006585 you guys realize that fat doesn't automatically count against you right it's like being a virgin -- you aren't being shamed BECAUSE of it, you're shamed for WHY you are it

1 hours later 4006621 Anonymous
>>4006585 >how do i into subconscious Really, man, think before you say something.

1 hours later 4006645 Anonymous
i knew they were two faced the first moment i saw them and i was 16, i didn't need 6 or 7 year's of self process to know that. i have improved alot since high-school but i still don't talk to girl's because they are still uninteresting and premature the exact same amount as they were on high-school. girls grow up about 27-29 when they start to look at thing's differently, ill wait. for your extra question is yes, friend's exist to leech on you when your strong but they run when your weak, sorry to inform you bro.

1 hours later 4006654 Anonymous
>>4006609 yes it does. people who have high speed metabolisms that eat all they want and never gain weight aren't shamed for eating all they want. whereas a person with a normal or low metabolism starts to overeat, starts gaining weight, and is then shamed for it. you all like to think society shames fat people for gluttony and greed. when really, it's because they just disgusted with how they look.

1 hours later 4006658 Anonymous
>>4006645 Thanks for that. To be honest, I wanted to stop being friends with them for so long but if I did I'd have no friends. Both ways I ended up friendless.

1 hours later 4006678 Anonymous
>>4006609 So let me get this straight. Fat people get shamed for "allegedly" having no self-control. And virgins get shamed for having self-control? No, it's not the why, it's the BECAUSE.

1 hours later 4006689 Anonymous
>>4006654 you look bad because you're a glutton those people with fast metabolisms are actually spending all those calories. you ain't. put down the fork if you want people to stop calling you fat or you could head on down to tumblr where you can hang out with trannies and otherkin and complain about "thin cis white human-identifying privilege"

1 hours later 4006694 Anonymous
>>4006654 Thanks for being the only person in my life who has ever agreed. I mean -- I'm totally fine if people I try to date aren't attracted to me because I'm fat. But people who say it has anything to do with appearances are just convincing themselves that's what it is. People would be more likely to scold me for eating something unhealthy then they would scold my friend sitting beside me chain smoking, despite the fact that both can be considered "gluttonous" and "lacking in self-control"

1 hours later 4006700 Anonymous
>>4006678 >And virgins get shamed for having self-control? No, that is actually an incorrect statement virgins get shamed for being undesirable people who no one wants to see naked in their room, let alone fuck it has nothing to do with "self-control", it has to do with being a shit-tier person like yourself

1 hours later 4006712 Anonymous
>>4006689 not the guy you replied to, but its known that certain people have slow metabolism, that's why fat people who workout can lose alot of progress of 2-3 days of doing nothing, their body need's to be in constant movement to lose weight.

1 hours later 4006719 Anonymous
>>4006689 They're only spending those calories because they metabolism is fast dumbass, you missed the whole point of the other guy's post. There are some people who can eat all they want all day every day and not go outside and still come out of it skinny. But they're skinny, right? So they CAN'T BE GLUTTONOUS BECAUSE THEY'RE SKINNY. I could go anorexic and still be fatter then someone who eats all day every day for 3 months. But I'm fat so I'm still gluttonous somehow no matter what my eating/exercise habits are? Do you even know what gluttony is?

1 hours later 4006758 Anonymous
>>4006689 yeah, they're spending all those calories living the same lifestyle as a fat person. i've known people who have told me "last night i had 4 extra helpings of X, and i still can't gain weight" if they wanted to gain weight, would you think that they'd be out exercising? no, they'd be inside watching a movie hoping that they put on some pounds. >>4006694 man, i hate people who fat shame, yet smoke and see nothing hypocritical in what they're doing. fist bump nigga.

1 hours later 4006779 Anonymous
>>4006007 I was really awkward in high school, bad skin, unpopular, all that. Since then, I'm in great shape, dress well, nice hair (all around handsome) and have a respectable job and interesting life. I still come home often and run into old friends, and they, especially the girls, treat me 100% differently. I'm upset about it sometimes, but it's more that I'm upset at myself (who I used to be) than at the person for possibly being shallow.

1 hours later 4006784 Anonymous
>>4006758 >>4006719 if you weigh like 300 pounds, that's more than a "slow metabolism" also have you considered that maybe if you're so terribly fat and god has deemed you unfit to be skinny, you should try to work on other things that can make you a person worth being around for so many complaints about others being so shallow, it's not like you guys are giving me any reason to believe you have any worth outside of your physical attractiveness

1 hours later 4006823 Anonymous
>>4006784 So should I what, sit here and tell you my life story so that a stranger on the internet can decide something as mere as an opinion on what kind of person I am? And then have him most likely twist anything I say into some weird deluded assumption? Also, in case you haven't noticed, people on /r9k/ consider 160 pounds to be severely overweight, which can easily be something as simple as a "slow metabolism"

1 hours later 4006843 Anonymous
>>4006784 i'm not talking about 300 pound fat. i'm talking slightly overweight, but still not chubby, if you know what i mean. also, the whole point of my post was that society shames these types of people because of how they look, not that their greedy and gluttonous. i never said "HURR I JUST HAVE A SLOW METABOLISM, NO EXERCISE FOR ME 3K CAL A DAY NO FUCKS GIVEN"; i was just pointing out that society does shame the slightly overweight for being disgusting to look at, not for their "gluttonous" habits. also >implying that we need to be aesthetically pleasing to you to be of worth i don't need to be your fucking eye candy.

1 hours later 4006854 Anonymous
implying i didnt already know that everybody only cares about furthering themselves.

1 hours later 4007039 Anonymous
Yeah, I had this happen too. I'd gone way way up in the world, bumped into old high school acquaintances, I politely got to talking, you slip in your situation, very subtly rub in how much better off you are than them and how superior you are. The best feeling.

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