4chan archive /r9k/ (index)
similar threads
2012-09-10 03:01 3725738 Anonymous ****STUDY***UGLY women get approached as much/more than top tier men (1294111567382.jpg 600x800 83kB)
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/06/29/results-from-an-online-dating-experiment/ >Worse, the ugliest woman got nearly as many messages as the best looking man! (Or second best looking man depending on your judgment of photos) The second ugliest woman - a piddling 3 or 4 by most men's standards - receives as many massages as the two hottest men received. Read it bros. Don't ever expect to get approached by a female. Even guys better looking than you never have it happen even online where it takes ZERO balls A 3/10 got as many messages in 4 months as two 8/10 men combined.. Women hate putting forth any form of effort or initiative and are completely pathetic in this area. If they're this bad online where they can hide behind a screen, imagine how bad they are in person. You will die alone if you don't learn to approach women. Women have it 100x easier. It's objective.

4 min later 3725758 Anonymous
heh. damn. i never knew online dating was that fucking hopeless. well seeing as im never going to try IRL. I may as well resign to fucking prostitutes and shooting up dope.

9 min later 3725786 Anonymous
>women are so spoiled and privileged and entitled! DAMN IT! Yeah, because men made them that way. Fucking morons, put the blame where it belongs: on men who are obsequious to women and create in them the behavior patterns that we see today.

9 min later 3725791 Anonymous
Depressing as fuck. I'm not very outgoing so the whole dating game is just like pulling teeth and forcing myself to do something I absolutely hate just to fulfill a biological urge. As the above guy said, I think I'll look into prostitutes.

10 min later 3725796 Anonymous
>>3725786 >women can never be blamed, ALWAYS FIND A WAY TO BLAME MEN Never change, whiteknights/femsluts.

12 min later 3725808 Anonymous
>online dating Well there's you're problem. Do the same test IRL.

16 min later 3725830 Anonymous
I was looking for a comic some girl made, about the messages she has recieved on okcupid. It was sleazy and depressing. I'm not surprised they get more messages than men. Some men will fuck anything.

16 min later 3725833 Anonymous
>>3725808 I've never seen a girl approach an attractive man out of the blue. Ever. EVER. Infact I've never seen a woman approach a man at all. Except when they want something are trying to use him.

19 min later 3725850 Anonymous (tumblr_m9xe8qOHKI1r3r0x4o1_500.png 442x750 308kB)
>>3725830 here it is oh fuck jesus, fuck your robot, robot is hitler

24 min later 3725873 Anonymous
>mfw I was approached by 5 girls throughout elementary school >mfw I said no to all of them Probably not going to happen again.

24 min later 3725875 Anonymous
>>3725738 lol, like it was a suprise....

30 min later 3725895 Anonymous
>>3725830 To be fair that'd be a reflection of her personality evidently that's all it's capable of attracting.

34 min later 3725917 no homo (427164_10151050368961848_1366414317_n.jpg 500x458 25kB)
this is wat i realised when at 22 i was still a kissless virgin. thank god my friend helped me get my pua game up... facebook or online dating never really worked for me. pity coz u could pick and choose very easily

37 min later 3725941 Anonymous
Three girls have approached me as a joke, and only one was serious, but she was literally mentally ill and from super-poor household.

39 min later 3725952 no homo
>>3725941 me in 4 years no one approcahed me even tho i look like the cool smoker from pineapple express

42 min later 3725959 Anonymous
>>3725895 Whatever helps you sleep at night.

48 min later 3725982 Anonymous
I'm not really sure what the problem is here. As a man, it's your job to take the initiative and go after what you want. There's nothing wrong with women doing it too, but you can't sit back and wait for a woman to court you and legitimately expect women to be attracted to you. Women are biologically wired to seek men who are ambitious, confident, and successful. Why would you even want 200+ messages a day on a dating site? When I was on okcupid I had 1-2 new girls contacting me every day, and I got a response from most girls I messaged. Having a profile that makes them laugh and gives them something to comment on is key.

49 min later 3725983 Anonymous
>>3725738 Uh, everyone knew that already for years, why is this news?

49 min later 3725988 Anonymous
>>3725850 Note how they're all depicted as ugly.

51 min later 3725994 Anonymous (I never message other people.png 275x85 3kB)
Does this mean I'm good looking?

53 min later 3726006 Anonymous
>>3725988 Not all of them. "Cum on tattoos" guy and "Love slave" man could be attractive. If not for the fundamentally unattractive nature of their messages.

6 hours later 3727453 Anonymous
yep. im about an 8.5/10 and girls never approach me at school. ever. but i have a fwb who used to be a stripper.

6 hours later 3727479 Anonymous
It's because women don't fucking approach men you aspie fucking idiots.

6 hours later 3727494 Anonymous
>>3727479 There are some cultures in which they do. I hear Japanese women are forward as fuck.

6 hours later 3727501 Anonymous
>>3727494 You don't live in Japan.

6 hours later 3727502 Anonymous
>>3725982 cis privilege brainwashing in full effect, I see

6 hours later 3727507 Anonymous
>>3727501 My post was directed at your "It's because women don't fucking approach men" post, as though it's the law of the land.

6 hours later 3727509 Anonymous
>>3725873 >females become sexually functional before boys >young girls aggressively seek boys their age for procreation >they get rejected because boys their age still think girls are gross >men must always make the first move later in life Girls should start school a year earlier than boys. It would fix this entire fucking problem.

6 hours later 3727510 Anonymous
>>3725982 Then all women everywhere should treat me as the dominant gender since it's my biological duty. Why don't they do this?

6 hours later 3727519 Anonymous
>>3727507 You're right, its cultural. The problem is American culture invariably describes girls under a certain age as as "gross."

6 hours later 3727526 Anonymous
>>3727510 Because you're clearly a massive pussy.

6 hours later 3727585 Anonymous
>>3727526 Who cares? My gender role is dominant man so women should acknowledge this whether I act like it or not. Sounds to me like you women want the positives of gender roles with none of the negatives

6 hours later 3727600 Anonymous
>>3727585 If you clearly aren't capable of stepping into your gender role, then it doesn't matter if you are of the required gender.

6 hours later 3727601 Anonymous
Does anyone notice the sheer amount of people eating alone in their uni cafeteria? I've seen 7/10,8/10,9/10 girls eating alone and I have no idea why. Does anyone have experience with this phenomenon? It looks so fucking easy to just sit down and start a conversation? What happens if I do this? I feel like it's a trap.

6 hours later 3727614 Anonymous
>>3727601 They're waiting for the friends and don't want to talk to you.

6 hours later 3727615 Anonymous
Thanks for the info OP. This actually helps me out. I always assumed if a girl found me attractive they would approach me. I suppose that's wrong. Now I know I need to make the move first every time.

6 hours later 3727627 Anonymous
>>3727614 This isn't true, I see them go a full thirty minutes alone. Nobody approaches. I've reached the conclusion that you really are invisible unless you make the effort to talk to people.

6 hours later 3727633 Anonymous
Wish I'd known that back when I was a worthless wallflower, desperately hitting the clubs in the hope of finding love but never approaching a single girl Least I got lucky and found a gf in the end

6 hours later 3727639 Anonymous
>>3727601 They think they are better than everyone else. You approach her and she will give you negative feedback.

6 hours later 3727644 Anonymous
>>3727627 sometimes people like to be alone. eat alone. think alone. recharge alone.

6 hours later 3727651 Anonymous
>>3727644 Nothing is more horrifying to a woman than being alone/

6 hours later 3727660 Anonymous
>>3727644 >>3727639 So attempting to talk to them is a bad idea? I mean, at this point I really have nothing to lose, so I don't see what it could hurt.

6 hours later 3727666 Anonymous
More women would be willing to fuck the top tier men than men would be willing to fuck the lowest tier women. The moral of this story is DON'T BE A PUSSY. GET OUT THERE AND MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS KNOWN TO FEMALES, BECAUSE WOMEN RARELY INITIATE REGARDLESS OF HOW ATTRACTIVE YOU MIGHT BE TO THEM.

6 hours later 3727671 Anonymous
>>3727660 oh it can't hurt. If they're not into they're not into it. maybe they'll enjoy the company though.

6 hours later 3727719 Anonymous
>>3727666 >this is what normalheterosexuals actually believe

6 hours later 3727720 Anonymous
>>3725850 lulz at the one guy having a spurs logo tattoo... this chick from san antonio? some gang members out here get those

6 hours later 3727725 Anonymous
>>3725738 >online-dating-experiment Women are so underpopulated on dating sites that any and all of them get messaged more than men? NO WAY DUDE

6 hours later 3727750 Anonymous
How would you feel about a girl that goes to random guys and tells them she likes them? That's right, she'd be a whore. Only whores initiate.

7 hours later 3727753 Anonymous
>>3725738 Awesome. I love being a man not having to deal with being hit on constantly. You ever been disturbed by door-to-door salesmen or telephone salesmen while doing something fun? I bet that is how it's like to be hit on. You know what the person is trying to do, but he wraps it in a nonchalant friendliness, as if that would hide his intentions.

7 hours later 3727768 Anonymous
>>3727753 one man's trash is another man's treasure. if so little as a hambeast -- just one hambeast -- approached me, or even even responded positively to my approach, i would be so happy it would be like i died and went to heaven. that's how fucking deprived i am. i'm not especially awkward (though i'm a little quiet), i make an effort to dress well, i'm tall, exercise, and i'm far from ugly, and yet it's not enough. for anyone.

7 hours later 3727782 Anonymous
http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=9247&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1368047 Guys I love you, you know I do, please hear me out. The game is changing, we are on the turn of the century right now. Excuse me if I sound a bit delusional, I've just engaged a rather attractive damsel. At this point there is no clue how shit will turn out, but to tell you some things about myself, well, I'm a robot. Feelings, to me, are things conjured up by thought processes we allow to happen depending on our mental strength at any given point in time. Right now, I'm allowing myself to feel joy because this broad is hot, and successfully pulling off a hook up would be righteous. Relationships are certainly awesome and everything, but now a days, most women, who grew up in broken houses because dad lost stamina, understand the importance of sex in a relationship, and won't even consider someone they cannot even remotely sexually satisfy themselves with.(note: golddiggers are an exception only because of the sexual gratification they get from money and material shit). However, the issue with "hooking up" in todays world is having to do so much more than primitive allure with pheromones and /fit/ness, you have to dodge an obstacle course of social perceptions and misperceptions that may turn a person off to you in a way that they can no longer derive sexual arousal from you. Don't hate the players, or the game for that matter. Study the shit, master it. Especially, you /v/irgins out there. There is no excuse for you to not have high score in the game of attraction.

7 hours later 3727848 Typical Inhabitant of Great Britain
>First year university >Like girl I live with but think she's too much out of my league >Always laughs at my jokes >Wants to dance when we go out >assume she is just being friendly >Move out and dont speak to her for 6 months >She now has a boyfriend much uglier than me fuck sake

7 hours later 3727881 Anonymous
>>3727848 This is why you can benefit from disregarding the concept of leagues. Sure I don't go out of my way to approach especially attractive women, but I still don't blow them off.

7 hours later 3727894 Anonymous
>>3727768 I don't ever get hit on either. Must be a bitch trying to kindly reject a 2/10 hambeast, in public.

7 hours later 3727952 Anonymous
i wish this shitty study would stop being posted. 8 data points isn't a representative sample of the entire population of online daters. and the conclusion is banal; it is CULTURAL that women are passive and receive far more advances than men. it's a terribly designed study showing something with any exposure to real world dating (no one on r9k) already knows. if you are a man, it is your JOB to approach. end of story.

7 hours later 3727962 Anonymous
>>3727952 >if you are a man, it is your JOB to approach. end of story. So much for gender equality

7 hours later 3727991 Anonymous
Dunno about online, but I've been approached or took compliments from about 10 females IRL, if not more. I'm not particularly handsome, but I had a good reputation in high school.

7 hours later 3728003 Anonymous
>>3725833 You must not go out so much, then. I see it happen all the time.

7 hours later 3728014 Typical Inhabitant of Great Britain
>>3727881 Luckily for you, you don't have Soul-crippling autism I can fake being cool and alpha for about 2 hours then it just disappears.

7 hours later 3728019 Anonymous
>tfw a decent 7.5/10 approached you last week and gave you her number feels good man

7 hours later 3728053 Anonymous
Men are being presented with a plethora of alternatives to relationships in the form of hobbies. Sex can pretty much be replaced by fapping to porn or even hookers if you REALLY want to get laid. Eventually men will stop bothering with high-maintenance relationships which don't have benefits that outweigh the drawbacks. Some men will probably continue to play the game to get laid but will not commit to relationships. Women will slowly get desperate and change their tune. Men get into relationships for sex. Women get into it for emotional support. The reality is that social norms with regards to relationships heavily favor women... so, again, there is not much incentive for men to get into a relationship. Times are changing... it's just really slow.

7 hours later 3728066 Anonymous
>Read it bros. Don't ever expect to get approached by a female No shit. That is as common sense as it gets.

7 hours later 3728068 Anonymous
>>3727962 Only crazy outspoken feminazis care about that. Most of us dont.

7 hours later 3728076 Anonymous
>>3728068 If feminazis believe in gender equality in the dating sphere as well, then call me a radical feminist.

7 hours later 3728079 Anonymous
>>3725786 Uh... the blame goes on societal norms. Many men are push-overs because they were raised that way. Whether it was intentional or a sort of side-effect of societal norms is debatable... but the reality is that men, and especially straight white men, are being seriously attacked by society in the modern day. We're in a sort of cultural war at all times and most men don't realize it. Women are made aware of this fact from the day they are born and actively fight at all times.

7 hours later 3728085 Anonymous
You have to keep in mind that the test subjects are all people who have accounts on dating websites. The majority of which are probably fuckin weirdos.

7 hours later 3728124 Anonymous (teen girl tattoos.png 660x543 294kB)
>>3725988 Pretty sure it's just how she draws.

7 hours later 3728141 Anonymous
>>3728085 Wouldn't that make the majority of women weirdos as well?

7 hours later 3728169 Anonymous
I actually got approached by a very good-looking woman once. Eh, come to think of it, twice actually. No wait, there was this third time too. As the robot I am, I spilled spaghetti all of those times and the woman left, though. Maybe I'm not as ugly as I think...

7 hours later 3728172 Anonymous
I think it would be hilarious if I had to reject someone, considering that I've never had anyone interested in me. I would probably be incredibly rude unintentionally.

7 hours later 3728218 Anonymous
>>3728053 You can't cuddle with a hobby at night. A hobby will never surprise you with a good morning kiss on the cheek. A hobby won't go out with you for dinner on a less exciting Friday night. You can't cook and share an exotic dinner with a hobby. You can exchange compliments with or have a spontaneous conversation with a hobby. Sexual release is simply not enough, or else /r9k/ would not exist.

8 hours later 3728275 Anonymous
>>3728218 /r9k/ is also proof that you can do without the things hobbies won't do

8 hours later 3728331 Anonymous
>>3727509 >that feel when in middle school I went to a class with just a few guys, but twenty or so girls, about a quarter of them hot, and rebuffed all their advances because I was too young to really be attracted to them >never had a girl approach my since then FUCK.

8 hours later 3728335 Anonymous
>more women pursing degrees than men >women are getting those high paid positions gender equality, go women! >no more alpha men because men are equal or beneath you >men are happy being homemakers >men are happy taking roles women once occupied Men of this generation are lazy and have no ambition! What happened? LOL Feminism

8 hours later 3728344 Anonymous
i must be some kind of god then, because girls approach me. in fact, i refuse to approach them as it makes me feel like a groveling bitch beta.

8 hours later 3728379 Anonymous
>>3728275 And look at how miserable and angry everyone is. >them belly full but we hungry

8 hours later 3728387 Anonymous
Do men really not get that many messages? I look through the guys on my OkCupid list weekly and the vast majority of them say "replies often" instead of "no one has contacted them this week".

8 hours later 3728445 Anonymous
For some reason, having to jump through hoops like some monkey trying to impress its master just for a chance to get laid annoys me. Can someone explain to me why any man would enjoying "chasing" women? It would seem that by chasing women all you do is give them the power to turn you into her personal court jester.

8 hours later 3728481 Anonymous
>>3728445 It's not enjoyable for most men. This is why so many men in this generation (and let's be honest, the last generation or two as well) are so pissed off. The only men that enjoy it are assholes, since they (1) get laid, and (2) manage to make women jump through their own hoops.

8 hours later 3728517 Anonymous
>>3728387 I'm not exactly sure but I think if a guy messages first and the girl replies that counts as being contacted for that system, and them obviously since they were the ones that initiated they will respond to it giving the "responds often" message.

8 hours later 3728539 Anonymous
>>3728517 Cleverly misleading. Never would have thought of that.

8 hours later 3728545 Anonymous
>>3728387 If you aren't 7/10 or above you can pretty much expect to get no messages unless you message first. That's just what being a guy is like. Either you message/approach women and chance rejection or being treated like a creep/potential rapist or you get no attention at all. You women (at least the 5/10 and above) have it so easy when it comes to social interaction and you don't even realize it.

8 hours later 3728563 Anonymous
>>3728545 If personal anecdotes are any indicator, even the hambeast femanons claim that they get messaged. They're just as selective, too.

8 hours later 3728622 Anonymous
>>3728563 I was speaking about social interaction in general, not just dating sites. Dating sites you can be a 3/10 an get attention, in real like a 3/10 will be mostly ignored but 5/10 women get approached all the time. I've been told I am somewhere around 5-7/10 and I've never once been approached by anyone, man or woman, looking for friendship or anything else. If I want to interact with others I have to go out of my way to do it. If I was a woman of similar looks all I would have to do is wait around and let others do all the work.

8 hours later 3728653 Anonymous
>>3725738 read the article. she went on to say that even though women get messaged a bazillion times more than men, they still have it harder in the dating market. plus i love the sweeping generalizations she makes about both genders. truly an objective, high quality blog.

9 hours later 3728778 Anonymous
The quality of guys that approach ugly females on dating sites is just, well, that's mostly creepy/retarded/rapist type, so girls don't have it easier + all you can hope for if you are ugly girl on dating site is someone who wants to fuck you. Oh, some girls have messaged me first ( they were proper ugly, not 4 or 5 but deformed almost ) Rest wink or like picture or smth, and its very easy to get number then, dont even have to ask.

9 hours later 3728893 Anonymous
>>3728778 >all you can hope for if you are ugly girl on dating site is someone who wants to fuck you That's like telling a starving african child the best a north american prison inmate can hope for is 3 meals a day. The fact that even the ugliest of women get guys approaching them at all puts them above at least half of the men there.

9 hours later 3729030 Anonymous
See, I don't hate women, I'm all for equality and shit, but this has always bothered me. I hear girls complain that they don't get approached/have never been asked out and I just have no sympathy.

9 hours later 3729093 Anonymous
I work with some landwhales and hambeasts, and despite having their own entries in the Monsters Manual, they wouldn't hit me, even with a stick.

9 hours later 3729110 Anonymous
>>3729093 How come? Are you that ugly?

9 hours later 3729236 Anonymous
I'm just weird. I think it works like this: good-looking/normal girls consider me as a "no", so ugly girls also consider me as a "no". They want to date someone they can show to other girls. It's like how fat guys still wish for 6-packs abs to show-off, I guess.

9 hours later 3729269 Anonymous
>>3729236 >I think it works like this: good-looking/normal girls consider me as a "no", so ugly girls also consider me as a "no". They want to date someone they can show to other girls. This is why society is doomed.

9 hours later 3729282 Anonymous
>>3729236 >It's like how fat guys still wish for 6-packs abs to show-off, I guess. Wait what? I can't say I get this.

10 hours later 3729772 Anonymous
>>3729282 Sorry for my terrible engrish. What I tried to say is: there are fat guys who would like to be /fit/. They should try just losing some weight instead, but no, they dream of becoming /fit/ (and because it's so hard they don't act on it at all). Those girls can't have what they want (good men flirting with them) but they wouldn't lower their standards or approach those guys (because of fear of rejection). I don't blame them entirely for that, it's a sad game played by both men and women.

10 hours later 3729858 dudebro
But OP women have approached me before in real life, even some cute ones Much as Id like to believe Im just that stunningly attractive, I think you just need to get out more

11 hours later 3730064 Anonymous
>that feel when you can't even make guy friends I mean, I'd almost be perfectly fine with being shit at dating and all things women-related if I had some bros to cheer me up or commiserate with. Hell, maybe they'd even help me out. But I hardly even have one or two male friends and I'm just as shit at making new ones as I am at meeting girls. Anyone else know this feel?

11 hours later 3730157 Anonymous
>>3729858 Tell me, where would you go to get approached on a college campus? Bonus points if you can tell me where to find the landwhales, gives me a better changes.

11 hours later 3730162 Anonymous
>>3730157 >gives me a better changes. *gives me better chances

14 hours later 3731949 Anonymous (1343579694907.jpg 729x1096 270kB)
>>3728778 >The quality of guys that approach ugly females on dating sites is just, well, that's mostly creepy/retarded/rapist type I call bullshit. The creep/weirdo/rapist-label is just the female version of "all women are selfish whores". It's about a false sense of entitlement. Example: a) 3/10 guy tries to get a gf. He soon realizes that unless he's willing to do a fuckton of self-improvement, he willl most likely get a fat and /or ugly 2/10 at best. Yet still, he thinks he's entitled to fuck supermodels or pornstars Convinces himself that all women are selfish cunts who will screw a guy over at the drop of a dime and he's better off alone. b) 2/10 girl tries to find her knight in shining armor. Tries online dating. Only gets replies from 3 to 4/10 guys. Somehow thinks she should be getting 6 or 7/10 guys she can show off to her girlfriends. Doesn't want to accept the reality that a 4/10 guy is about the best she can get and instead writes them off as creeps and weirdos.

14 hours later 3732013 Anonymous
Online dating sucks. It's a total waste of time. The reason it's a waste of time is because it's an uneven playing field. As OP said, even ugly / extremely average women get a LOT of attention online because they are in DEMAND and in shorter SUPPLY than men.

14 hours later 3732039 Anonymous
This is retarded, because this is the internet. There are way more men on the internet then women. So of course the women would receive more attention. Logic, /r9k/. Use it sometimes.

14 hours later 3732094 Anonymous
>>3731949 This. I love it because the tfw no gf threads all complain about not getting their 7+/10 girls and use that as a point of misogyny and that they are so unlucky with women. But as soon as someone who doesn't meet their standards starts throwing them attention all of a sudden its like "who's this ugly bitch" Everyone just needs to die.

14 hours later 3732105 Anonymous
I would never approach a woman. It's very unlikely that a woman would approach me. I don't think I'd enjoy the company of the type of woman that would be that aggressive and outgoing. Forever alone.

2.092 0.211