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2016-04-13 09:00 6017521 Anonymous Been in a shitty relationship with a cheater for 5 years and I cant leave (The-Gay-Guide-Network-Why-Do-Gay-Men-Cheat.jpg 570x285 84kB)
I'll try to keep this short. I've been in a relationship with a liar and a narcissist for five years already. He's cheated on me constantly throughout our relationship. He uses me for everything and is generally a horrible person. I think he might be a sociopath. I've tried to break up with him before but he always breaks down crying and makes me feel super guilty about it. I guess I'm an empath? Honestly, I dont know what the hell is wrong with me. Being single is my greatest fantasy. I found PROOF this time. I found a video he recorded of himself having sex with another guy in our guest bedroom. Yeah I snooped on his pc, big fucking deal. I'm planning to end it soon, but I know he's gonna beg to stay together and make me feel so guilty. There is nothing good about our relationship. I'm fucked, psychologically. I just really need this to end, how can I be sure its over while also being respectful / doing the right thing?

3 min later 6017534 Anonymous
Breakups are always a mess. Just get it over with.

7 min later 6017549 Anonymous
>>6017521 Dissapearing might be the most humanely method in this case, OP He'll just find another weak mess to fuck with anyway

8 min later 6017552 Anonymous
>>6017534 Thanks, this is strangely reassuring. I'm trying to mentally prepare myself for the shit he will do. I figure if things get bad enough I can just go full rage mode until he realizes that we arent gonna be together.

9 min later 6017557 Anonymous
>>6017549 I cant leave he lives in my house.

2 hours later 6017981 Anonymous
>>6017521 >liar and a narcissist >cheated on me constantly throughout our relationship >uses me for everything and is generally a horrible person >might be a sociopath Sounds like you've got a bisexual on your hands tbph, OP.

3 hours later 6018033 Anonymous (1457950058896.jpg 400x320 19kB)
>>6017981

3 hours later 6018054 btd
>>6017521 Tell some friends. Call them after you break up to remind you that you made the right decision. Write down why you want to break up. Write everything you feel right now and how you would like it to be instead. Hold on to those thoughts when he starts crying and you feel guilty. Do what is best for you, it's your life. No one else is going to make your life better.

4 hours later 6018107 Anonymous
>>6017521 >He's cheated on me constantly throughout our relationship. Take some responsibility for this mess, dude. You have shown him through your actions (inaction) that there are no consequences for him cheating. Pack his shit up, leave it on the steps, change the locks and never speak to him again.

5 hours later 6018204 Anonymous
>>6017521 You're being weak. Just break up with that piece of shit. >>6018107 This.

11 hours later 6019330 Anonymous
>>6017521 The best thing you can do is to make sure you don't feel guilty. Emotionally prepare yourself and go through the steps in your head. You are not weak for not wanting to break up it happens. You are not the bad guy so just do it all at once and cut ties. Even if he threatens to kill himself don't go back. Have a close group of friends and family that support you and help you forget him. Good luck OP

12 hours later 6019357 Anonymous (poison bottle.jpg 300x450 24kB)
>>6017521 >wat do

17 hours later 6021033 Anonymous (comfy witcher.jpg 575x483 50kB)
>>6017521 >being this much of a cuck

19 hours later 6021660 Anonymous
>>6017521 >He's cheated on me constantly throughout our relationship. you're stupid for sticking around

50 hours later 6027551 Anonymous
Sociopaths are just more highly evolved

50 hours later 6027601 Anonymous
>>6027551 >more highly evolved Err wong. Sociopaths are more likely to reproduce because of selfishness, but that doesn't mean it's beneficial to humanity.

50 hours later 6027611 Anonymous
>>6017552 Pull the bandaid off because it will hurt the longer you wait to do it

51 hours later 6027679 Anonymous
>>6021660 >>6021660 >>6021660 >>6021660 >>6021660 It's OPs fault. Playing the victim while you know his behavior. You just like feeling sorry for yourself

51 hours later 6027691 KR
Fucks sake, this is ridiculous. Leave the house, don't ever contact him again. He will always wiggle you back in because he knows he can, he knows he owns your stupid ass. Sort yourself out and just leave. You owe him nothing.

53 hours later 6027958 Anonymous
>>6027691 It's his house dude, so wouldn't it be better to throw his shit out, kick him to the curb, change the locks, and buy a dog?

53 hours later 6027960 KR
>>6027958 Yes do that instead. Definitely get a dog, a big German shepherd. Then you don't need a human bf.

59 hours later 6028783 Anonymous
>>6027551 keep telling yourself that, biscum

73 hours later 6032240 Anonymous (1458638854777.png 359x414 155kB)
>>6017521 You just sound like a grade A dickhead desu. Don't understand how people end up in abusive relationships for years upon years. You decided to let him into your life now he's turned you into damaged goods. No decent guy worth shit is going to seriously want you now, you should just stay with your poor life decisions.

74 hours later 6032270 Anonymous
>>6017521 >guess I'm an empath? It's more like you're a doormat and like playing victim. Enjoy your aids

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