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2015-09-30 07:45 5008878 Anonymous (twodads.jpg 2000x1000 404kB)
Let's talk about your future family that may or may never happen, /lgbt/. Who here wants kids? >How many kids? >Preference for having sons/daughters or both? >Gays/ftms: Would you adopt or prefer a surrogate mother? (or if you are ftm would you just carry it) >Lesbians: Would you just chose someone you like and turkey baster it or pay for sperm? Or surrogate/adopt, if you don't want to carry one/want your own kid. >Do you find it difficult to find someone of the same gender who also wants kids?

7 min later 5008910 Mexiclean
I have a kid. Sup.

10 min later 5008922 Anonymous
>>5008910 Feel free to elaborate such as if it's your own, if it's from a past relationship, are you a gay, bi, trans, F or M, etc. I just never see anyone here talking about settling down and I've never met any LGBT peeps who want too.

21 min later 5008964 Mexiclean
>>5008910 Past relationship, I'm bi. Being good with kids is super important to me for a partner. I want more kids but am open to a guy and adopting or whatever. In fact kinda leaning that way. Because of that I am super boring, I live on dad time (bed by 9-930p most nights) and any time I have with my kid (split 50/50 with my ex) she takes priority, so if you don't like doing kid stuff like going to parks, museums and other wholesome family activities we basically can't do anything half the time. If you can't at least take interest in childhood development stuff its also a problem because I read up on that as much as possible to get a grip on where my daughter is at and what I can do to help her succeed.

48 min later 5009048 Anonymous
>>5008964 I'm terrified I have a couple bastard children somewhere. I made foolish decisions before I started transition. I had one girl claim her baby was mine but I fucked right off to the other side of the country. Thankfully she didn't remember my last name. How much did you get nailed for child support? Do you think I can get out of it by claiming I was on HRT at the time? Thats believable right? I know I may seem like a deadbeat but I just literally don't have the funds no mental stability to raise a kid with some ratchet ass bitch.

56 min later 5009075 Mexiclean
>>5009048 >How much did you get nailed for child support? I didn't. We split time evenly and she makes more money so we called it even. Theoretically I could have pushed her for some money but the less involved she is the better. >Do you think I can get out of it by claiming I was on HRT at the time? Thats believable right? I am not a lawyer. You do sound like you have some anxiety and should be seeing a therapist, if you aren't already.

1 hours later 5009100 Squirrel
Want 2 kids. 1 girl 1 boy. Would prefer surrogate. One of the kids would be mine biologically and one would be his biologically. I'm just now getting to the point in my life where the kid question is a factor in my relationships. I haven't done enough dating yet to know if it's hard to find someone who wants the same thing.

1 hours later 5009101 Anonymous
>>5009075 Its not 24/7 but yeah I got some anxiety about this. All the girls that I may have knocked up were all low class druggies. I was too at the time of course, until I got my shit together. I was pretty stupid too and frequently didn't use condoms. It sounds pathetic but I was reckless because I honestly didn't think I'd live this long. I figured the dysphoria would drive me to kill myself, and I was hoping all the drugs I'm was doing would kill me. I basically cut out all my old friends when I started transition so I wouldn't have to put up with drama. I'm not really suicidal any more and I'm doing much better but I still don't have the means to raise a child, especially one thats possibly fucked up from the bitchs drug abuse. Also what if being trans is genetic? Holy fuck what if I made a whole bunch of trannys and now they gunna be depressed like me. I'm gunna be stressing about this shit all day now. Fuck my shit up fam.

1 hours later 5009113 Mexiclean
>>5009101 There's no known genetic link for transsexuals that I've seen. If the girls you knockedu p were druggie bitches they don't have the resources or ability to come after you; and probably had the kids taken away anyway. No one is coming after you for child support. I used to slam meth all the time so you should be pretty proud of getting your shit together and getting clean. Focus on what you need to do today, not what might happen at some indeterminate time in the future. Deep breaths.

1 hours later 5009122 Anonymous
>>5008964 You sound like a good dad. Does she live with your or her mother primarily, or is it just legit split in half? >>5009048 >>5009101 You sound like a complete asshole. Wrap it the fuck up or own up because if you knocked one of them up then stop acting like it's all their fault when you BOTH fucked up. With any luck, even if you did knock one up no one will contact you since everyone would be better off without you in their life. Go be crazy somewhere else.

1 hours later 5009142 Anonymous
>>5008878 Lesbian and I want to adopt, so does gf. But we argue over the number (her limit is 3, mine is 5) and whether it should be international or local. I'm very for adopting as close as possible yet it's harder, possibly even more so in this state for same sex couple. I just worry about being a foster parent and dedicating so much and then the state could just take them away. We want both sons and daughters, though she prefers if at least one boy is the oldest so everyone can have that cool older brother. My main shit is getting the family on board. I want mine involved at least some but my mom is very against random adopting on some principle. She thinks I should either give birth or we should adopt within the family, like just wait to adopt some cousin or nieces teenage baby. Otherwise it's just not meant to be that I have a baby and I shouldn't force it or bad shit will happen.

1 hours later 5009157 Anonymous
>>5009113 I'll try and calm down. You're probably right about everything. Its just a scary thought. I'm only 23. I mean I want kids some day, but I want to raise them on good terms. With financial stability and two loving parents, ideally my boyfriend. It was coke and mdma for me. 4 years. Surprisingly the coke was the easiest to drop but I still crave mdma every now and again. >>5009122 I am, and a coward. They probably would be better off without me in their life, and to be honest I would be a shit fucking parent right now. I make like 12 bucks an hour and owe a lot of debt. Not to mention I'm transitioning so that would be pretty fucking weird for the kid. "hey little timmy im your dad mom thing, I fucked your mom then got my penis flipped inside out!!!"

1 hours later 5009184 Anonymous
>>5008878 Ftm checking in. My ultimate goal is to be able to afford freezing my eggs before I get my girly insides sucked out here in about five years. Then ideally my girlfriend would carry my biological child.

1 hours later 5009192 Anonymous
>bi male here If I end up with a guy then adoption. It's completely selfish to use a surrogate when there are so many needy children out there. 2 kids, one son one daughter would be ideal

1 hours later 5009195 Mexiclean
>>5009122 >You sound like a good dad. Does she live with your or her mother primarily, or is it just legit split in half? When I lived closer to her mother it was more like 75/25 in my favor because her mother likes to go out and party and I am very willing to step up and get more time with my child. Now its more like 50/50 though. My daughter is very important to me. >>5009157 I found it very helpful to focus on the next thing I need to do.

1 hours later 5009201 Anonymous
My boyfriend and I have talked about it a bit. I'd rather have the kids be of our blood, so use my sister's eggs or something. He wants to adopt, since he was adopted into America so he wants to give other people the chance he was given. We never talked about a number, but I had 3 siblings and he had 5 so neither of us are against a larger family. And I don't think gay guys should raise girls, or lesbians raise boys.

6 hours later 5010589 Anonymous
>tfw no one to start a family with

6 hours later 5010696 Anonymous
why would i want to bring more suffering into this world? this should be the last generation tbh. i'm hoping vr drops birth rates a lot.

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