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2015-02-21 06:51 4014932 Anonymous (image.jpg 1280x720 184kB)
I'm currently dating a MTF long distance, and we've gotten pretty serious. She's planning on visiting me and eventually moving in with me. The only problem is that my mom, who I live with, doesn't know she's MTF (my mom has seen pictures of her and knows about her though). She's extremely passable in every way except her voice. Is there anything I can do or say when my mom finds out my girlfriend is MTF to convince my mom that my girlfriend is more than just a dude in a dress?

1 min later 4014934 Anonymous
Tell that bitch to fix her voice

8 min later 4014958 Anonymous
>>4014934 Can she? I don't really know anything about transgender stuff besides my girlfriend being transgender.

24 min later 4014992 Anonymous
>>4014958 Tell her to project her voice from the back of her mouth as opposed to the front.

57 min later 4015087 Anonymous
Warn your mom beforehand that she has a deep voice and is insecure about it. Some cis girls have deep voices. Your mom will probably buy it.

1 hours later 4015165 Anonymous
>>4015087 This could probably work. Her voice has feminine qualities to it, it's just deep. But she's also tall, so my mom would probably buy the "she has a deep voice because she's tall" excuse.

1 hours later 4015172 Anonymous
There are a lot of voice therapies for trans people in both directions, and many are free. take a look at http://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgen der/comments/1ske7b/mtf_voice_train ing_regimen/

2 hours later 4015332 Anonymous
>>4014932 Only advice I can give is do not out your gf even if you think your mom will find out.

3 hours later 4015407 Anonymous (1407108253823.png 800x757 145kB)
>>4015339

3 hours later 4015498 Anonymous (1424541528193.jpg 122x213 12kB)
>>4015490

3 hours later 4015502 Anonymous
>>4015490 >Also a majority of the world sees you guys for what you are, mistakes. not if we pass cry more

3 hours later 4015527 Anonymous
>>4015507 >Again in the vast majority of cases, you don't true >Even the ones who do evoke some sort of suspicion not true. lots of transwomen and transmen have lived their lives passing without anyone being the wiser. have you never heard of those stories of people marrying post-op transwomen who didnt disclose their trans status and then get found out later? you think someone is gonna marry someone they suspect is trans without broaching the subject i speak too much, i should have just said >what is confirmation bias

4 hours later 4015596 Anonymous
>>4015546 >Yeah, no. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/April_ Ashley http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caroli ne_Cossey http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billy_ Tipton These are the 3 famous transsexuals I can think of off the top of my head. They lived as celebrities in the spotlight, modelled, starred in films, had sex and relationships without alerting anyone until they were outed. One was in a James Bond film for fucks sake lol. Men and women aren't two totally different looking types of human, there is a lot of overlap, lots of men look like women, lots of women look like men. Like I said, confirmation bias. >Most people don't like facing harsh truths, and may not confront their suspicions out of fear. thats straight up retarded, no transphobe is gonna get married to someone he has a sneaking suspicion that she is trans just because you hate us doesn't mean you should deny there are some very fortunate transwomen (especially early transitioners) that pass well enough to never arose any suspicion. youve been spending too long in the hon thread

4 hours later 4015618 Anonymous
>>4015507 >>4015490 I sure don't think other people do, not when you're in the states and there's a whole lot of much larger amerifat women bigger and less slender than you. Also, being uneducated labor might be the norm for you, but that isn't everyone, so it's actually pretty easy to get the money to buy a couple of minor cosmetic procedures.

4 hours later 4015719 Anonymous
>>4015686 Hardly, if you ever just looked at the sort of people you'd find in a uni alone. I don't think a NEET like you is a good source of worldly advice.

4 hours later 4015727 Anonymous
>>4014934 This

4 hours later 4015746 Anonymous
>>4015507 Yeah, people who yell at gay couples for kissing in public would NEVER call out a trans person

4 hours later 4015751 Anonymous
>>4015686 >largely irrelevant you said that none of us pass without arousing suspicion, now you say that a small minority do but they are irrelevant? we already agreed that the majority of transwomen do not pass (mostly due to late transition/unfortunate genes though) you are also really overestimating how hard it is to pass. go outside into your nearest city and start trying to clock women based on their 'masculine features'. it's a fun game that also teaches you that a lot of cis women out there have masculine features but still look like women. you don't have to be 10/10 supermodel tier to pass. please try harder anon

4 hours later 4015760 Anonymous
>>4015686 Trans people in general make up such a small minority as to be largely irrelevant

4 hours later 4015774 Anonymous
>>4015686 Are you that delusional anon from last night that was convinced women are immaculate in beauty? You still haven't left the house yet? lol

4 hours later 4015808 Anonymous
>>4015791 >It's still fairly obvious which ones have/had a cock Did you ever consider that you didn't notice the ones who passed really well because they I don't know, passed really well? Stop comparing us to beautiful people, go outside and look at some ugly cis women (I feel bad saying this) and see how low the bar can be.

4 hours later 4015820 Anonymous
>>4015791 >A large majority of people, at least in the west, don't do that either. Dude what? Now I know you don't leave your house, are you really that naive? I guess the caribbean is the east now. >I can only make out Thailand trans asians but I miss every white, hispanic and black trans person in everyday life >women are truly beautiful nah I think you're that shitposter.

4 hours later 4015830 Anonymous
>>4015816 >I'm well aware how low the bar can be clearly you aren't if you still think that transwomen have to have 10/10 tiny feminine facial features or else they don't pass

4 hours later 4015834 Anonymous
>>4015742 You're coming here to whine about how some little group bothers you. Also went on about how the medical industry is in on some vague conspiracy. Don't blame me if I say you aren't seeming too great right now.

4 hours later 4015860 Anonymous
>>4015839 >That's not what I've said at all >Again in the vast majority of cases, you don't. Even the ones who do evoke some sort of suspicion >Nearly every single tranny WILL look off >Nearly every >Even the ones who do evoke some sort of suspicion I don't even know what your point is anymore. Either admit your confirmation bias or go back to /b/.

4 hours later 4015877 Anonymous
>>4015831 >america is the only west lolok Look I know you don't leave your home but you don't got to make it so obvious that your knowledge on women of different ethnicity come from 4chan solely. As far as your logic is based, every black woman is trans because these women tend to have more masculine features than other types of women. And what's with the unhealthy obsession to discover who's trans and why are you so paranoid about trans people existing, don't tell me you're one of those guys who thinks he's doing the world a favor keeping tabs on trans folks because that's unbelievably sad, even for 4chan standards.

5 hours later 4015935 Anonymous
>>4015890 >obsession It kind of becomes clear when you fail to string together a coherent point and instead just rave about 'dem damn trannies, dey all look like men, i know this i have seen every trans person evr'.

5 hours later 4015968 Anonymous
>>4015942 >completely coherent >changes point at random from 'no trannies pass evar' to 'some trannies pass sometimes' back to 'i can tell when men are pretending to be women' I'm not upset, I'm just bored.

5 hours later 4015985 Anonymous
>>4015975 why aren't you doing anything productive anon? my excuse is i'm a shut in NEET.

5 hours later 4015987 Anonymous
uhh, what does your girlfriend think about it? does she want to be stealth or would she rather be out?

5 hours later 4016010 Anonymous
>>4015992 not that im lecturing you, but, at least in my opinion, it's more fun to shitpost about people's video game or anime tastes, rather than their minority status, doing the latter tends to leave a bad taste in my mouth have fun hanging stuff!

5 hours later 4016028 Anonymous
>>4016018 Ah, and so the inner workings of the guys who troll our board relentlessly are finally revealed.

5 hours later 4016035 Anonymous
>>4016018 Interesting. How come you fuck them, then come on here and be mean to them? >I get off on the fact that I'm dominating them so thoroughly with my cock that I've taken their masculinity away. thats kinda hot >tfw no abusive bf to take advantage of my self hate and tell me how disgusting i am while relentlessly pounding me

5 hours later 4016039 Anonymous
>>4016018 Sorry to disappoint you, but if you're fucking a tranny on estrogen there isn't really much 'masculinity' to take

5 hours later 4016076 Anonymous
>>4016048 >Being mean is fun and a cleansing process I don't know, if it's just senseless meanness like calling someone a dick or something then yeah that's kinda fun. I can usually empathize with people who got dealt a shit hand in life, I don't really want to make their day any worse by playing on their main insecurites. Though this is 4chan and my point is worthless here lol >Happen to be near Pittsburgh? nope i'm a britbong. i have a qt bf already but he's too nice to me to abuse and hit me

5 hours later 4016085 Anonymous
>>4016051 >albeit a failed one That's why there's no masculinity to take, although I wouldn't describe it as being failed. Their brains are literally different on estrogens, they think and feel like women. There is no masculinity you're taking.

6 hours later 4016107 Anonymous
>>4016082 >So can I, but am I really going to be taken seriously here? Fuck no, I'm a shitposting troll. And if that does push someone to suicide, they were too weak anyway. Fair point. This board is suicide general though, at least for the MtF's, I get the impression that most of us are on the verge of sudoku'ing everyday, if I'm being mean on here it's usually making fun of their shitty personality rather than them as a person so I don't do any real damage. >I don't hit >a little choking lame, slapping doesn't hurt. verbal abuse is good, most people are shit at it though, they don't really go far enough for me

6 hours later 4016115 Anonymous
>>4016107 But anon, it does damage to me when you make fun of my personality because it makes me feel like I've failed you

6 hours later 4016140 Anonymous
>>4016111 fair enough anon, each to their own >>4016115 It's okay, I only be mean to people who are being particularly mean to other people or have a toxic personality. if you're doing that then you have failed me and should feel ASHAMED!! >>4016122 >People that serious about suicide don't talk about it, even to anons I don't know if I believe that, i'd imagine that having an anonymous outlet to vent in would be helpful for all suicidal people to talk to similar people and decide if suicide is the right answer. at least that's what I'd think.

6 hours later 4016163 Anonymous
>>4016140 No, I don't like being mean to other people. It hurts when people dislike me and that's a sure way to make that happen. Also the feeling of bitterness is just unpleasant and not worth it.

6 hours later 4016180 Anonymous
>>4016163 >It hurts when people dislike me Same anon, same... I've spent my whole life just trying to fit in and have everyone like me. Then I went postal on my life and transitioned lol. The only people who deserve meanness are meanies, but thinking about it probably just encourages them to be even more mean.

6 hours later 4016252 Anonymous
>>4015596 >3 people >so much stealth passing lol you trannys are so delusional you fight to the death to prove everyone else is wrong but you are so right.

6 hours later 4016279 Anonymous
>>4015339 I'm actually the first guy she's ever been with, and she wants to move in because she's my girlfriend (duh)

6 hours later 4016303 Anonymous
>>4016252 There aren't that many famous transwomen who have lived in the public eye before being outed, we're already a small minority as it is. Most transwomen lucky enough to pass don't go chasing the limelight, they blend in and live a normal life so they don't get unwanted attention, abuse, violence etc. Such is the goal of passing...

6 hours later 4016319 Anonymous
>>4016303 >Most transwomen lucky enough to pass don't go chasing the limelight I beg to differ, most well passing trans girls are attention whores and expose themselves on purpose for the attention.

6 hours later 4016328 Anonymous
>>4016319 >most well passing trans girls Oh sorry,I didn't know you were acquainted with all of the 'most well passing trans girls'. Because surely they aren't a vocal minority or anything right?

7 hours later 4016385 Anonymous
>>4016350 I'm serious. She's never even been kissed before.

7 hours later 4016441 Anonymous
>>4016403 I don't even like anal that much anon, you're projecting the experiences you have hooking up with ratchet ass craigsluts

7 hours later 4016490 Anonymous
>>4016403 Just because you hook up with trans sluts doesn't mean my girlfriend isn't a virgin.

7 hours later 4016586 Anonymous
>>4015407 Where does the 'anyone who criticises transexuals must be a neckbeard!!!' come from? As a certified bi-fag I'll happily acknowledge that normals fags are more not less likely to hate me for it.

26 hours later 4019625 Anonymous
How long distance ? I live in south america and I really want to get out of here, I just need to find somebody who loves me and get away from this dead country. sadly im too picky, I want a cute mtf and im just an ugly cd with no chances of a normal life on this country :(

58 hours later 4025725 Anonymous
What's with all the censorship in the thread?

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