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2014-03-28 09:14 2422707 Anonymous (037.jpg 800x600 211kB)
White straight privileged rich guy here. I didn't care about any rights issues (women, lgbt, race) beyond knowing that everyone was not equal (we ARE all different) but we all deserve to be free and to be treated right. And I would ensure I propagate this idea. Then I started lurking here. I decided to tell my conservative Christian parents I was gay. I wrote a letter confirming it was just a test. I said "Mom, Pa, I have a letter I want you to read, but first I need to tell you about it. Please sign across the seal on the envelope". I then put it away in my pocket and told them I was gay. I was immediately disowned. I am 18 and was going to go to college this fall. My bank accounts were closed, I was kicked out with nothing, not even clothes, because "they belonged to us [my parents]". Luckily I have friends to rely on and stay with. It has now been three weeks. I still have the signed letter saying it was all a test, but I don't want to go back to my parents who only love me if I live the life they want me to leave. Without them, I might not go to college, but I really don't care. Sometimes I hold the letter over the hob in the kitchen and think about dropping it in, but then think "nah, just in case". Who knows what will happen next. Stay strong /lgbt/

5 min later 2422713 Anonymous
>>2422707 welp I don't know how I feel about all of this. Good luck privileged strong anon.

53 min later 2422813 Anonymous
Everyone should come out as gay at the same time. Even if they're straight. Then we can keep a score list of the most accepting countries. We could calculate the economic damage when all these kids become homeless and lose their college funds. Maybe even a death toll.

1 hours later 2422824 Anonymous
>>2422813 >lose their college funds Amerifats think they are in the land of opportunity, lel.

1 hours later 2422828 Anonymous
>>2422824 But it is the land of opportunity, if you happen to be very rich from the get-go.

2 hours later 2422932 Anonymous (bun.jpg 960x720 74kB)
>>2422707 Sorry this happened to you bro; this is all very touching to me in a weird way. Hope you become self-dependent and safe soon enough, and that you feel better not having to deal with your parents' bullshit.

2 hours later 2422970 Anonymous
>>2422707 maybe if you can manage without them, drop the letter in but don't go back (straight away anyway). Give them some time to mull over how terrible they were.

3 hours later 2422988 Anonymous
>Without them, I might not go to college, This is why you do this kind of stuff when you're independent.

3 hours later 2422990 Anonymous
>>2422707 Honestly, if your parents are that horrible of human beings, I fully support not going back to them. I am in similar situation where I left because of that and I have zero desire to go back to my parents who don't love me but merely love an idea of me, as their child. I did one better and left the country too (I'm not an American). That said, it was also extremely foolish from you. Usually when you're hiding a secret that you know your parents will disown your and/or kick you out for, you hold it in untill you can become financially independent and move out and then you tell them you're gay/bi/trans. But, I guess for you it's understandable because it doesn't sound like you were planning on leaving the house before this. I don't know what to tell you, it's terrible that bigotry exists and world would be such a better place if people accepted other people the way they are and didn't feel threatened or challenged by them but that's not going to happen. I guess the part that sucks the most is that you're not even gay. Stay strong.

3 hours later 2422991 Anonymous
>>2422813 Most of Europe has very, very cheap and affordable universities and some countries even pay their students some amount every month. UK and France are the only countries where you can be "too poor for college", in Europe.

4 hours later 2423136 Anonymous
>>2422990 >Usually when you're hiding a secret that you know your parents will disown your and/or kick you out for, you hold it in untill you can become financially independent and move out and then you tell them you're gay/bi/trans. Wow, gay people are deceptive. Would you really be okay with pretending to be straight just so your parents would continue to feed you tuition money? That's basically rape

5 hours later 2423224 Anonymous
>>2423136 If someone's bad enough to disown you over that, then they don't deserve anything better anyway.

5 hours later 2423226 Anonymous
lel. i have a black parent and white parent and they were perfectly fine with it. its pretty much karma for all the shit your lot have given to people like me ;3

5 hours later 2423228 Anonymous
Im not sure why this made me so mad. Maybe it's the fact that you are faking being gay knowing you can go back at any time. Something that those of us in the LGBT community don't have the luxury of. It baffles me why people would want this life. If I could choose I would love to be straight and not have to look behind my back constantly.

5 hours later 2423274 Anonymous
>>2423136 >That's basically rape My edges

5 hours later 2423277 Anonymous
>>2423224 You shouldn't toy with people's sex- I mean parental feelings like that.

5 hours later 2423279 Anonymous
>>2423228 >Im not sure why this made me so mad. >If I could choose I would love to be straight and not have to look behind my back constantly. You need closure.

5 hours later 2423280 Anonymous
>>2423228 Rich boy gets bored and pretends to be gay to see if his parents really love him. That's totally appropriation! No wait, I'm actually completely fine with this. I don't even know what appropriation is.

5 hours later 2423285 Anonymous
>>2422707 You should tell them and not go back. Not telling them is just lying. You learned what you wanted from the experiment. Are you afraid that if you tell them you're actually straight, you'll go crawling back to people you hate? The point should be to have enough discipline to live your own life, not count on your parents hating you for something that isn't true to keep you honest. That is sort of abusive (although to much more abusive people I grant, so it's hard to complain). On the other hand, they might not remember the bit about the letter and think that you "changed your mind" about being gay rather than not being gay in the first place, and that would be super obnoxious.

6 hours later 2423316 Anonymous
>>2422707 I'm surprised their hate for gays outweighs both the love for their kid and their curio usury of the letter. It would drive me mad. But damn OP, if true, that's pretty... awesome? I would suggest giving them the letter, packing up and leaving.

6 hours later 2423343 Anonymous
>>2423280 I'm completely fine with OP doing experiments on his family, because it's his life and he can do whatever the fuck he wants. It does sound made-up, though, so I don't respect that part.

6 hours later 2423350 Anonymous
>>2423316 *curiosity

6 hours later 2423439 Anonymous
>>2422707 yeah sounds like you're lying...

7 hours later 2423487 Anonymous
Seconding the notion that you should give them the letter but not go back, so they know what cunts they are.

7 hours later 2423503 Anonymous (1371882203114.gif 200x200 1392kB)
>White straight privileged rich guy here. Stopped reading right the fuck there, we don't need disgusting feminazi's like you, I'm glad your parents kicked you out and I hope you never get in a better situation.

7 hours later 2423504 Anonymous
>>2422707 I'll let you know that what you did was incredibly ballsy, and i admire you for it But if i might ask, did they kicked you out butt-naked? Because that's what it seems like from your story

7 hours later 2423525 Anonymous
>>2423503 Claims to stop reading at third line Response clearly demonstrates that said article was actually read at least once.

8 hours later 2423838 Anonymous (1374793096211.gif 640x640 604kB)
>>2423525 It's a joke, not to be taken seriously. Do you have actual autism? That would clearly explain being a subhuman feminazi and the The self-imposed obstacles you created for yourself for no reason whatsoever. We don't need people like you to "help" us and allot of us certainly don't agree with your first world feminazi bullshit. Don't come here expecting for us to hold your hand like and feed your delusions of grandeur because you deliberately provoked your parents for no reason whatsoever. Not all of us are floundering around telling everyone we're LGBT when there's no reason for it, you deserved to be kicked out and I certainly hope they will never let you in again. Try another place to bitch about your self-proclaimed privileges.

9 hours later 2423881 Anonymous
>>2423136 rape culture strikes again

9 hours later 2423895 Anonymous
>>2423838 That's not OP... and what the fuck do feminazi shave to do with this... I think you might be the autistic one.

9 hours later 2423917 Anonymous
>>2423895 *feminazis have

9 hours later 2423958 Anonymous (tumblr_n33kflhiuQ1rckw3lo1_1280.jpg 1024x241 46kB)
>>2423895 White straight rich cis men being privileged is a feminazi belief. >I didn't care about any rights issues (women, lgbt, race) He's implying he cares about it now

9 hours later 2423978 Anonymous
>>2423895 >feminazi shave Good song title.

9 hours later 2423988 Anonymous
>>2423838 >Stop appropriating our suffering, silly rich boy! Only gay people are allowed to have it bad.

9 hours later 2423996 Anonymous (Shigdig.jpg 198x199 11kB)
>>2423988 Straight privilege is also bullshit my friend.

9 hours later 2424015 Anonymous
>>2423958 But nobody here is saying he is privileged other than him. And the fact that he is privileged isn't even the focus of the story. You are bringing feminazis into this for no reason just to spur argument. Even if this is unintentional it's pretty much bait for OP even though he's gone. So what if he cares now? How is that relevant? What's your point? >>2423978 Holy shit you are so right. For once, thank you autocorrect.

15 hours later 2425439 Anonymous
Wow OP that's incredibly ballsy of you. If you're actually gay there's a sense of imminence about it. You know it's going to happen and there's nothing you can do about it. Making a conscious and potentially reversible decision seems a lot harder in this sense. What prompted you to do this? Regardless, I wish you the best of luck. Don't throw the letter away. When you feel ready in the future you need to give it to them so they can see.

45 hours later 2431732 Anonymous
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71 hours later 2437212 Anonymous
>>2423316 >>2423439 This, I highly HIGHLY doubt this happened. I grew up Conservative/Christian, I know hundreds of Conservative Christians, lots and lots of families, and none of them would ever do anything like this to their kids. They wouldn't exactly support their sons getting fucked in the ass, but they would still love them. Unless OP's parents are WBC-tier, this little story is bullshit.

72 hours later 2437232 Anonymous
>>2423996 This is a lie. There are no negative social expectancies or baggage attached to heterosexual relationships unless they otherwise deviate from the norm. I bet you've never had to explain a straight relationship to another person older than the age of five.

72 hours later 2437285 Anonymous
give it to them immediately. repair your family relations. this is stupid and immature. you're forcing yourself to suffer unnecessarily. You can't expect everyone to have the same opinion, some people's life experience just makes it impossible for them to see things a certain way. Also stop appropriating my gay culture or whatever, shitlord

72 hours later 2437327 Anonymous
>>2437232 >>>/tumblr/

73 hours later 2437344 Anonymous
>>2422707 What most of us refuse to do because of fear, you did with courage and I asume because of empathy towards our community... kudos for that. But on the other side, your story literally made me cry. I'm so sorry that you now have to deal with the putrid side of our society, being yet another victim of homophobia while not even being LGBT yourself.

73 hours later 2437357 Anonymous
>>2422707 >signed envelope smart motherfucker. Is that yours or did you pick it up somewhere?

74 hours later 2437436 Anonymous
>>2422707 You sir are a master troll. Either for writing this post, or for having gone through with that. Well done.

74 hours later 2437439 Anonymous
>>2437212 Depends on your culture. I came out as mtf at 13 and my father's reaction was to crack my skull at first, and have me put on testosterone six months after. My high school experience was interesting. :)

77 hours later 2437656 Anonymous
theorically speaking you can drag them into court and force them to pay for educations or just rent till you have a job in many civil countries. you should think about completing your studies somewhat, even by going to some cheap university or whatever. i am sure your country has some kind of help for students without income that live without parents. don't throw away your career for a political decision.

77 hours later 2437661 Anonymous
>>2422991 italian here. studying in Pisa, one of the best university of the country. i have to pay 500 € in taxes every year. that's it. we are not even piss poor, just slightly below average. i pay more for train everyday and stuff. shame i got depressed, stopped studying and lost my scholarship, otherwise i would have a shitty apartment, free lunch everyday, no taxes and around 400€ bonus every year. there will be no job for me afterward however even if i am studying something not useless.

77 hours later 2437671 Anonymous
>>2423285 >On the other hand, they might not remember the bit about the letter He got them to sign the seal, OP is a clever son of a bitch.

77 hours later 2437713 Anonymous
>>2437661 dai che ce la si fa prima o poi... (qua polimi)

77 hours later 2437751 Anonymous
>>2437713 i hope anon. i was just depressed, now i got out of depression and i am starting to study again, so i don't think i am going to get stuck again.

83 hours later 2439115 Anonymous
>>2437439 I can understand where he's coming from. If I did everything I possibly could to raise my son well so he would grow up to be a strong, confident, successful man, and he told me he wanted to start pretending to be/acting like/dressing like a girl, I would just about lose it. I would feel like I failed as a father. If he really did injure you then that's obviously way over the top, but I understand why he would be so upset.

83 hours later 2439119 Anonymous (very cute two dimensional english girl.gif 480x270 2203kB)
>White straight privileged rich guy HNNNNG

83 hours later 2439133 Anonymous (morte ai frogi.jpg 150x300 16kB)
>>2437751 Apriti una gelateria tutta tua così ti fai un vitalizio pure tu

84 hours later 2439297 Anonymous
>>2439119 aren't we all

95 hours later 2442753 Anonymous
>>2422707 Whilst i greatly admire what you have done as an effort to understand homophobia. In order to reach a true conclusion and change your parents minds, thereby making a real difference. You have to give them the letter. They will probably try and take you back with open arms. Then you tell them that there is no difference. If you were gay you would still be on the street. Hit them with that guilt hard. If they realise that doing this to a straight person they thought was gay was wrong, convince them that doing this to a gay person would be wrong too. But whatever you do know that you did a pretty cool thing taking on a burden you didnt have to to benefit people you have little to do with.

95 hours later 2442909 Anonymous (Pedo_Bear_Mask_by_BLTsalade.jpg 792x612 143kB)
>>2437232 >I bet you've never had to explain a straight relationship to another person older than the age of five. How did you know?

98 hours later 2443340 Anonymous (enlightened progressive.jpg 468x720 62kB)
Here's something to consider, even though I know you won't. They disowned you for being an insufferable SJW bigot. Don't think your parents don't know after knowing you for all of your life and then the letter thing. Of course as a SJW bigot crusader you spin it to be about HATE. THEY WANT TO KILL SIX MILLION GAYS. I bet you make youtube videos of yourself in pseudo-communist outfits talking about how Stalin and Mao were so much more progressive and would have accepted LGBTPedosexuals.

98 hours later 2443363 Anonymous
>ITT: something that never happened No actual white man would use the word "privilege" non-ironically

100 hours later 2443514 Anonymous
OP here. Let me clear something up. I have been syphoning money from my parents' accounts for years. I'm OK. I'm smart, have good friends and am doing OK. Growing up with my parents was torture. I finally had enough. Think Bree Vandicamp in S1 of Desperate Housewives. Stuck up, arrogant about religion and everything has to be perfect. I'm happy I left. FYI I posted the letter to them. If it arrives and if they will read it or throw it in the bin without opening it, I don't know.

101 hours later 2443522 Anonymous
>>2443514 >FYI I posted the letter to them. If it arrives and if they will read it or throw it in the bin without opening it, I don't know. Keep us updated

101 hours later 2443535 Anonymous
>>2443514 >>2443522 I don't believe the original story or this. But if it's all true, it sounds more to me like you're seeking to become independent by cutting ties entirely. Instead of just manning up and being independent by ignoring their pressures.

111 hours later 2445650 Anonymous (GETOFFMYHDD.jpg 465x714 96kB)
>>2443340 looks cis to me. wow, weird.

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