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2020-09-22 05:03 22853807 Anonymous boyfriends always want to change me (alt.jpg 600x677 51kB)
How do I cope with knowing that in all of my relationships I have just been settled for, never actually desired. Every boyfriend I've ever had has always told me they have an explicit preference for "alt" type girls like pic related, and has always tried to turn me into one of them (encouraging me to dye my hair darker, wear different/more revealing clothes, like different music, etc). They always compare me to their past girlfriends, who were all clearly these kind of girls, when I'm clearly not. I had blonde hair for most of my life (recently going brown and darker brown), and I dress pretty normally. I don't have a great sense of style so I just wear comfortable things like jeans, flannels, flattering shirts, leggings. I'm not like these girls who put tons of time and money into their makeup and outfits. Why is this all men want? They claim to hate the "e-girl" type but that's literally all that modern men want/choose to date. How to cope?

1 min later 22853815 Anonymous
You settled too, because that’s not the kind of man you want but you still keep accepting them into your life/bed.

2 min later 22853819 Anonymous
>>22853807 bee urself

3 min later 22853824 Anonymous
>>22853815 I don't actually think this is true, these are all men that I have formed a personal connection with/felt a spark with, and I believe they felt one for me too, but I have just never been "their type" as they have told me. Even if we've dated for years, in the end it's always come out that they've settled for me, even though I fell head over heels for them.

11 min later 22853857 Anonymous
>>22853807 kys

12 min later 22853863 Anonymous
>>22853807 >How to cope? Lower your standards you dumbass

15 min later 22853876 Anonymous
>>22853824 That's not what he said. Go back and re-read. He said being with a man who wants to change you into an emo goth big tiddy gf when are not one is not good for you. Nothing about, "did you find a spark with them?" Also that's a weird problem, maybes its the area or age you're dating in.

15 min later 22853879 Anonymous
>>22853863 >Lower your standards To be very clear: I am not talking about chads. I am not dating men that are out of my league. I am average, and I date average men, I'm not delusional.

16 min later 22853883 Anonymous
>>22853876 I took that he meant to say that I am deliberately settling for men that I don't want or actually like due to low self esteem.

17 min later 22853887 Anonymous
>>22853879 You get one piece of useful advice and like a dumbass you immediately claim it doesn't apply. Date men that are "beneath" your "league", featherhead.

18 min later 22853898 Anonymous
>>22853887 The hostility is pretty unwarranted here, but that's your own issue. So I should have to date men I'm not attracted to? Thanks for the advice

20 min later 22853909 Anonymous
>>22853898 If you want to be desired that's the simplest and fastest way to get it. You're an idiot for not figuring that out on your own, and you deserve all the "hostility" your rice paper skin can take.

26 min later 22853926 Anonymous
>>22853909 Of course if I wanted orbiters, I would get orbiters. I thought that was just a given. I'm clearly talking about a relationship in which both people are equal, none of that "she's/he's out of my league" power dynamic bullshit. I don't want or need that in my life, I'm not a teenager anymore, and don't intend to have a teenage relationship.

26 min later 22853928 Anonymous
>>22853898 You see, your attraction comes from specific traits on people. If these people with these traits also happen to want another kind of girlfriend, you have a problem. You either change your standards to allow men who don't do that shit, or accept that your parents will also have this issue and you will have to live with it. The answer that you are looking for is a special way of making these exact same men you mentioned, stop wanting to have another kind of gf...and that's not going to happen.

28 min later 22853938 Anonymous
>>22853928 She's got such an awful personality it's no wonder that she can only pull men who see her as a set of checkmarks to tick instead of as a person. If you look at the person, she's a waste of time.

36 min later 22853960 Anonymous
>>22853928 Sorry anon I didn't mean to say I was looking for a magical answer to fix my problem, because there isn't really one. It's a weird situation I'll admit, and the reason I've made this thread is because the exact same thing has happened in all my relationships, I've had four in my life. And it's just odd that this would happen so much. I considered that it may be some sort of problem with me, but I'm not sure what that could be. I also thought of the fact that maybe it's my standards/kind of guy I am going for, but I can say that my relationships have been with very different kinds of men, all with very different lifestyles and interests. So this doesn't add up for me either. I really just made this thread to see what other people had to say about this topic. I expected some hostility because of course if you make a thread with the word "e-girl" in it men like >>22853938 will always get worked up. >>22853938 Not sure what I said to you anon to make you lash out like this or what you know about me or my personality, but I hope you heal from this negative mindset someday, get out of that toxic dark hole that you're in where you need to speak to someone with such hostility as an anonymous person over the internet. And if you were hurt by someone, I hope you gain the strength someday to overcome that.

40 min later 22853970 Anonymous
>>22853960 Man you are really turning the bait thread management up to 11 lately. My advice is to stop wasting your time writing unconvincing fictional women for your bait.

40 min later 22853971 Anonymous
>>22853970 This isn't bait, I wish it was though. Pretty pathetic problem to have lol

42 min later 22853979 Anonymous
>>22853971 Stop presenting yourself like you're a fictional person then. Your writing, your summary of your problem, your replies, they all read like someone trying to be something they aren't.

44 min later 22853988 Anonymous
>>22853979 That's really interesting, I've never heard someone described that they type like a fictional person haha. It might be because I recently found out that my current boyfriend is not over an ex of his from several years ago (an alt girl like pic related, of course) so I'm feeling a bit hurt, used, and wondering why this stuff keeps happening to me. So I'm trying to keep my emotions out of it while I search for some advice, or just read what opinions people have on this type of thing.

48 min later 22854001 Anonymous (33123323.png 196x157 23kB)
>>22853960 Thank you for clarifying your intentions, it probably was also wrong of me jump into so many conclusions. What you described now relates to two people I have met, although their traits differ from you (they seem to attract to many guys with savior complex/can't make friends because everyone wants to marry them), the end goal is the same: a pattern with men that seems unavoidable, no matter what you do. From these two people, it was directly tied to the fact that they had some sort of disability, while still being very, very sweet and wholesome people. This made 99% of the guys they met follow the same patterns which would usually lead to frustrations. Try to think about things about you, your behavior or who you are that might lead men to do always the same things. Perhaps it's not even your fault, but something in there, because it's always part of the equation, yelds the same results.

50 min later 22854006 Anonymous
>>22853938 That might every will be true anon, but this is still /adv/, and pointing this out won't make anyone change or improve, let alone take such words as advice.

56 min later 22854032 Anonymous
>>22854001 Thanks anon, this was very helpful. I guess it must be something with me, because every serious relationship at the end always boils down to: "I like you, I think you're attractive, I like you're personality, but you aren't my type." That type always being, alternative e-girls, etc. Guess I just gotta figure it out

58 min later 22854043 Anonymous
>>22854032 your personality* my bad. also, what this >>22853938 anon said is pretty inaccurate. My past partners have very much liked or loved and respected me as a person. They just always had to admit I wasn't scratching the itch for them that was their type of alternative/goth girls. That's always been the only problem. I've never had a problem with having an awful personality ^_^ some people just like it when others feel bad.

1 hours later 22854052 Anonymous
>>22854032 Yeah, you will have to take some time to filter out what exactly tends to cause this, which can be pretty hard to figure out. But seems like the right path, so good luck on your journey.

1 hours later 22854157 Anonymous
>>22853807 No it’s probably not what all men want. But it’s what I want for sure. I believe it’s because we grew up when emo/scene girls were very popular and created a lasting impression on us. I’m not making an excuse for your boyfriend because nobody should have to change for an S/o but if you really love him what’s some hair dye and clothes. You don’t have to go full scene but maybe you guys could come to a compromise. All i’m saying is that between seeing a goth girl and a regular dressed girl in public i’m definitely gonna check the goth one out.

2 hours later 22854459 Anonymous (My sheep hear my voice.jpg 1024x784 389kB)
Friendly reminder to all that salvation is by faith only. Ask Jesus to save you if you believe the gospel

3 hours later 22854513 Anonymous
>>22854157 I understand what you're saying about compromise, but with these guys I've found it goes deeper than just the hair dye and emo clothes. It's the whole dangerous, emo goth girl persona. And I can't change my entire personality/persona for my boyfriends, I can't be what I'm not. Not even going to go into the fact that I don't have unlimited funds to change my entire wardrobe + spend tons of money on makeup, hair dye, etc, which is all way more expensive than you'd think.

3 hours later 22854533 Anonymous
>>22854513 I know how expensive it is I usually pay for it for my girlfriends lol. And yeah like I said you shouldn’t change everything, a normal adult wouldn’t expect you to change your personality to fit the ideal. Relationships are compromises in general, but nobody should compromise who they are.

3 hours later 22854578 Anonymous
>>22853807 >Every boyfriend I've ever had has always told me they have an explicit preference for "alt" type girls Sounds like the problem is with the other consistent factor. Why are you only dating weirdos?

3 hours later 22854582 Anonymous
>>22853887 Don't ever do that.

3 hours later 22854607 Anonymous (1582797555253.jpg 666x1000 68kB)
>>22853857

3 hours later 22854671 Anonymous
>>22853887 "hahaha roastie let me shove this shitty advice down your throat and get angry when you say it sucks...what a dumb bitch"

3 hours later 22854676 Anonymous
>>22854671 Though why would women even bother to get dating advice on an incel infested site in the first place. It's like asking for steak recipes from vegans.

4 hours later 22854842 Anonymous
>>22853883 No worries. Hopefully this was a teaching moment in double checking what you read to form an accurate response

4 hours later 22854848 Anonymous
>>22854842 >teaching moment Actually, no. My misunderstanding (if it even was that, are you the same anon who made that original comment? Something's telling me no) was just the result of me reading and interpreting what he said, not carelessness or a lack of comprehension by mistake. I read his comment over and STILL interpret it that way, if anything I'd like them to clarify exactly what they were trying to say, but I doubt they're still lurking here. Take your superiority complex elsewhere LMAO

4 hours later 22854888 Anonymous
>>22853807 Don't change for anyone. When a person goes into a relationship with someone, they shouldn't hope to change something about them. I'm kind of alt myself, but that's what I enjoy, my boyfriend is like that, so are the places I go out in etc. Those boys are dumb for wanting you to be something else, they're just wasting their time and yours. You'll find a guy who appreciates and prefers a girl like you, so don't worry.

6 hours later 22855175 Anonymous
>>22853807 i usually dated girls that look alternative and my most recent girlfriend said she was a little worried because most of my girlfriends looked "goth". to be honest it really doesn't matter. i do enjoy the look but it's just more like a bonus for me. the personality is what matters more than the look

6 hours later 22855255 Anonymous
>>22853807 Find out what you want in life, make yourself happy, then find someone who likes what you like. A lot of people don't find who they're looking for until their 30s or 40s. I've been married 8 years now. Happily. Change is normal, but both people should be asking for change, not just one.

6 hours later 22855261 Anonymous
>>22853807 >boyfriends

6 hours later 22855271 Anonymous
>>22854888 I agree with this anon. Though I believe long lasting changes need re-authentication over the years

7 hours later 22855390 Anonymous
>>22853824 Then maybe you should reflect on why you fall in love whenever you turn around. Maybe you should try to figure out who they are before "falling in love".

7 hours later 22855438 Anonymous
>>22854006 The advice was not for op, but for everyone else to not waste their time on "her"

8 hours later 22855682 Anonymous
>>22854848 Cope

10 hours later 22855963 Anonymous
>>22855390 You're making assumptions again (if you are the same anon from before). If not, you're simply just making assumptions. You have no idea my criteria for feeling a connection with someone, you're reaching and assuming. >fall in love whenever you turn around I'm actually one of those difficult people that has a hard time connecting with anybody at all. My personal walls are very high, it takes a lot for me to even get to know somebody. I am definitely the opposite from a person who falls in love easily.

10 hours later 22855970 Anonymous
>>22855438 So you were...talking about a metaphorical "her"? for the good of all the other anons, that's bullshit lol. Don't try to backtrack like a retard. We all saw it.

10 hours later 22855977 Anonymous
>>22855682 Cope

10 hours later 22856009 Anonymous
>>22853807 maybe just wear hot topic lingerie in the bedroom?

11 hours later 22856109 Anonymous
>>22853807 Seems like you have an emo guy fetish yourself.

16 hours later 22856937 Anonymous
>>22854888 this it may look like you're dating different knd of men but they all have something in common, whether they are nerds who are into goth or anime girls or your average joe manipulated by the media which is currently pushing for eccentricism I would call them shallow too but they're also deluded into thinking they're gonna have an exciting, dramatic relationship. Similar with girls wanting bad boys, it's what they want but not ultimately what they need They probably either think you have potential (the face for it) or they do this with other girls too (unless they score an alt girl)

19 hours later 22857240 Anonymous
>>22853807 >MCR There's your problem

19 hours later 22857296 Anonymous
>>22853807 Because they want to make you cute. I personally like dressing my gf as a tween. If a man doesn't love you enough to be in a close relationship, you bet he's gonna find that other or just better. We seek trait or usefulness, and if you're lacking in either, you bet your ass your going to find yourself on the curb sooner than later.

25 hours later 22858444 Anonymous
>>22857240 Pic related is not me, I thought that was obvious

25 hours later 22858449 Anonymous
>>22857296 >tween Don't defile the thead. Disgusting

25 hours later 22858451 Anonymous
>>22857296 FBI? This one, this neckbeard right here

26 hours later 22858656 Anonymous
>>22854043 >My past partners have very much liked or loved and respected me as a person. That's why they all wanted to change you right?

27 hours later 22858933 Anonymous
>>22858656 Unironically, yes. It's always been, "I like you, you're physically attractive, I like your personality, I feel a connection with you, but you're not my type."

28 hours later 22858955 Anonymous
>>22858444 That's because you're a man trolling these simps with bait. Simps, stop being baited

28 hours later 22858959 Anonymous
>>22855970 She's a man LARPing as a woman, baby

28 hours later 22859006 Anonymous
>>22855963 >they've settled for me, even though I fell head over heels for them. >I fell head over heels for them. >head over heels Your words. If you didn't fall in love easily, you wouldn't be falling for people who don't love you back. The issue is on your side. It's obvious, usually pretty early, when somebody settles. You apparently do not see it, likely because you see what you want to see. That behavior is toxic for both yourself, and your partner, because you don't see them for who they are, you don't fall "head over heals" for them, you fall "head over heels" for the idea of them. Your standards are shit and you probably don't respect yourself. What you need is time alone, to reflect on what the issues are in your behavior. You can stop with the bullshit facade you throw around pretending to be doing everything perfectly when you are clearly not. You came here for advice but you deny everything people are saying. Think about what that behavior does to you.

28 hours later 22859025 Anonymous (1594272456318s.jpg 121x125 1kB)
>>22854848 maybe they want to change you from being a bitch? imagine getting this defensive because you misunderstood advice. r/relationshipadvice is that way if all you want is validation for your feewings. the truth is you also have shit taste in men if EVERY SINGLE ONE is doing something you don't like consistently.

28 hours later 22859032 Anonymous
>>22859025 She seems to think she's got more value as a partner than she actually has. The moment her looks fade she won't be getting any dates at all.

28 hours later 22859133 Anonymous
>>22859025 >>22859032 This isnt r9k, crawl back in your hole

29 hours later 22859358 Anonymous
>>22853879 Post an average man

30 hours later 22859433 Anonymous
>>22859025 I'm only getting defensive because you were clearly a bit patronizing there. "hopefully you use this as a learning experience to be less of an idiot because you translated a statement to mean something different than I thought." lol. Now you're still in the thread calling me a defensive bitch, all because you tried to jump in and correct me and now you're upset that I stood by my own original viewpoint? I understand if you think that anon meant something different, but as I said before, his comment was a bit oddly worded and so I took it to mean something completely different, and still do. Your automatic assumption that I must be incapable of understanding something and that you must be right and now your subsequent lurking of this thread just to shit on me over it is pretty laughable. I wouldn't have gotten defensive if you had decently said something like, "Hey, I think that anon meant something different when he said ____. Here's what I think _____." And had completely left your second response out with the bullshit about double checking myself to form an accurate response next time. You're patronizing and then get overtly hostile when someone points it out? Makes sense.

30 hours later 22859436 Anonymous (eyeroll.jpg 250x250 10kB)
>>22859025 >>22859433 This femanon is a bit of a bitch but she's right on this one. I'd be pissed at the tone of your comments too. You're just making yourself look dumb now, dude

30 hours later 22859449 Anonymous
>>22859032 Does that make you feel better? When you lie awake every night, wondering why the world is so cruel as to make someone as ugly, useless, and undesirable to women such as yourself, does the knowledge that all women eventually age and become less attractive make your wittle broken heart mend a little? Do you want some milkies or your favorite teddy bear?

30 hours later 22859472 Anonymous
>>22853815 This is it OP. I understand if you find yourself in a relationship where you suddenly realize you're being settled for, but as soon as you do you should leave, otherwise you're just settling for someone not fully into you. It's desperation in both directions

30 hours later 22859477 Anonymous
Sounds like they need to grow up. You need to also stop going for guys that look like they go for/actively try to pursue goth/egirls. It's always really easy to tell apart those ones and real men.

34 hours later 22860293 Anonymous
I know you won't do this anyway, but if you stopped dying your hair and putting on makeup you would get the kind of guy you want.

34 hours later 22860319 Anonymous
>>22853807 Just put in more effort into your appearance. Stop being lazy about it. If I could get pussy as a fat fuck, I'd eat taco bell every night and never lift a weight. You do not live in a bubble. The bottom line is these men ARE settling for you. They want a hot babe but can't get one. Even if they could, they still wouldn't be satisfied. It's human nature. Accept your place or do something to change it.

34 hours later 22860394 Elliot Rodger
>>22853807 Only use you for sex. You cum dumpsters have no personality or intelligence. Fuck off with your blog post and go post it on instagram maybe some chad will take care of you fucking roastie.

34 hours later 22860401 Anonymous
>>22853807 I’m too lazy to go through the thread OP. Would you please answer a few questions for me? 1. How often do they suggest you make a change to your appearance? 2. Do they make the suggestion randomly, or does it arise naturally during conversation? 3. How often do they compare you to their ex’s? 4. Does the comparisons arise because they force the conversation, or does it come up organically? 5. Are they happy being with you?

34 hours later 22860412 Anonymous
Start dating adults. "Alt" scenes are cringe shit for teens and emotionally stunted adults.

39 hours later 22861409 Anonymous
>>22859433 You should know what to expect when coming here. the most common threads are those about incels, not being able to accept a female partner's body count, and cheating by a female partner. there is an infinite repository of rage directed towards women, that you're even getting decent advice blended into the vitriol is impressive. to put it another way, most of these people couldn't get someone to even look at them romantically if their lives depended on it, and you're complaining to them about people wanting to change you while getting that forlorn attention lobbed at you. if you want more honest and forthright answers you're going to have to do some things you are not comfortable with -- post reference pictures, of both you and your previous partners, explain how you met them and where this supposed spark came from, and finally give some context to these demands of change. otherwise be content with vague sophistry peppered with harassment

42 hours later 22861807 Anonymous
>>22853807 Zoekresultaten Samenvatting van internet “If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.”

43 hours later 22861873 Anonymous
>>22853807 Have more confidence. If he doesn't want you for you, then don't even date them. It's that simple.

49 hours later 22862911 Anonymous
>>22860319 It's not about them wanting any hot babe at all. You completely misunderstood. It's about them being attracted to a woman who looks and dresses differently than I do, not better.

49 hours later 22862921 Anonymous
>>22861409 I was totally with you in your post until you got to >post clear pictures of myself and all past partners You act like you understand completely the toxicity that boils within this board, but then you give that advice? That's basically asking to be doxxed, raped, and posted on /soc/ for laughs. Of course I knew what I was going to get with this thread lol. But there are always a few people here able to suppress their mental illness long enough to give decent advice, so I posted it for them. And I've gotten some, so I'm content.

52 hours later 22863499 Anonymous
>>22862911 Pretty sure they want you to just stop looking like dogshit

53 hours later 22863833 Anonymous
>>22859436 >>22859133 >>22859449 You all should go back to where ever you came from before you start throwing your limp dick insults at anyone.

54 hours later 22863920 Anonymous
maybe try swiping someone you find physically unattractive and give yourself the opportunity to see if they'll love you for who you are or are as shallow as the faggots you've been with in the past god I hate women

54 hours later 22863954 Anonymous
>>22859358 it is very telling that she didn't reply to this

55 hours later 22864103 Anonymous
>>22863954 It's not telling at all, I tried to look for a picture on google similar to someone I have dated in the past, but all I kept finding was either models or shitty stock images that didn't look right to me. Fuck off, this isn't a post about my standards. Unless your argument is to say that I'm only trying to date chads, and therefore are saying that all chads are into alt women? Which they arent for the most part, so I don't see your point here.

55 hours later 22864253 Anonymous
>>22864103 sounds like the roastie is mad

55 hours later 22864264 Anonymous
>>22864253 >it is very telling that he didn't reply to my statement

55 hours later 22864283 skillo
>>22853971 By this point the thread is already dead and all you are going to do here now is argue with random people that come by. The useful things that could be said were already mentioned and you read them.

55 hours later 22864303 Anonymous
>>22864283 Useful lessons: OP looks like shit with her halfhearted efforts. OP could clearly look great if she tried. OP has awful personality, men are picking her for her potential once she stops making excuses and puts some effort into herself. OP has standards that are way higher than she can legitimately be on the same level as, she has to pull guys looking for a project instead of a person. OP will have to settle before she hits the wall.

55 hours later 22864305 Anonymous
>>22853807 Damn that whore in that pic is ugly! You mentally ill incels were a mistake. Don't worry, we will take care of it, one way or the other. Stick to videogames for now

55 hours later 22864330 Anonymous
>>22864283 Idk man I'm not really trying to argue, but yeah, dead thread at this point, why not respond? See >>22862921

56 hours later 22864332 Anonymous
>>22864303 Half of those are pretty wildly reaching assumptions and this is just a much worse version of a lot of the better advice I've gotten, but I thank you for your consideration anon. one or two points in there are worth thinking about

56 hours later 22864372 Anonymous
>>22864332 The list is all the vaguely intelligible points people have made in the thread. The rest was just, like, whining about men in general, or outright insulting you.

56 hours later 22864396 Anonymous
>>22864372 >OP looks like shit >OP could clearly look great if she tried. >OP has awful personality >OP has standards that are way higher than she can legitimately be on the same level as That last one is still food for thought, but the rest of those are just outright blind assumptions. It's impossible for these anons to know what I look like or what my actual personality is actually like. These assumptions are just a mixture of jaded projections and vague insults

61 hours later 22865280 Anonymous
>>22862921 one, this site is not the festering breeding ground for rapists and murderers you think it is. no one is going to go to the Herculean effort of tracking you down to kill you because they saw your face on an advice thread. two, I said reference pictures. I don't care if they're actually of you, they're just to get an idea, from your own perspective, of what you and your previous partners look like. not only does this show how realistic your self image is, it also gives a platform to further discussion. despite what many people want to think, much of our personal nuances can be revealed with keen observation. we don't have enough context for why people are demanding that you change, and it doesn't seem like you have the literary skill to construct that context for us either. if nothing else, take this little bit of advice: at least half the evil in the world comes from the people seeing it.

61 hours later 22865347 Anonymous
>>22864396 The logic they were employing seemed to be judging based on your actions and the stated actions of your... suitors.

68 hours later 22866262 Anonymous
you probably have a particular phenotype and attract people who like it. you can embrace it or fight against it... it's nature, think about yourself: do you have a "type" that you prefer? hair color? dress style? body type?

68 hours later 22866275 Skillo
>>22865280 Not op, just wanted to ask you about the "at least half the evil in the world comes from the people seeing it.". Can you talk about the meaning of this? Thanks.

71 hours later 22866613 Anonymous
>>22866275 it is exceptionally rare for someone to consider themselves as evil, and it is even more rare for someone to have that consideration and to think of it as a good thing. truthfully, most of us just do the best we can with the information we have, no matter how misinformed or incomplete that information might be. when a person sees evil, chances are they're only seeing what they themselves have put there. for something to be evil requires a context, and in most cases that context is only being supplied by the observer, by the reporter -- not the person or people actually responsible. to clarify, something being evil and someone seeing it as evil are not the same thing.

71 hours later 22866665 Anonymous
>>22865280 >one, this site is not the festering breeding ground for rapists and murderers you think it is I understand this. Still just not a good idea to post pictures of yourself here. Some people don't want their faces paraded over the anonymous internet, you don't have to be a 50 IQ idiot to have a decent sense of privacy and precaution. And again, I understand your point. I understood it the first time you asked, you don't need to repeat it again in different words. I just wanted to point out it was a bad idea. And either way, I don't need you to read these "nuances" you speak of. As I've said time and time again in this thread, I'm not looking for some exact magical answer as to why this is happening because one doesn't exist, I simply created this thread to read and digest discussion, I was very curious to know what different anons' takes of it would be. I don't need you and your self proclaimed intelligence (superiority is practically oozing from every word you type, it's not enjoyable) to bless this thread with your answers.

72 hours later 22866750 Anonymous
>>22866665 there we are, that's a good piece of information. there is no superiority in what I'm saying, I'm literally just an anonymous person who will disappear from your world the second you stop looking at this thread instead, it looks like you consider yourself as inferior. Not a healthy outlook, maybe you should examine that the next time you run into a problem like this. or just stick to platforms where people as uncertain about themselves as you are are the only ones willing to talk to you

72 hours later 22866850 Anonymous
>>22866613 Thank you for your explanation, it was very enlightening. If part or the evil is in the perspective of who judges it, and not necessarily true, how can one be sure of what is fabric of their views or actually real?

73 hours later 22866934 Anonymous
>>22853863 this

73 hours later 22866979 Anonymous
>>22853807 something tells me you're whoring out to the wrong type of guys. Honestly give yourself at least 3 months before you jump to the next dick. I don't care about your daddy/mommy issues, what you gotta look for is the shit that's missing in yourself and you'll never find that missing piece from someone else. You just gotta accept what your are and who you are. That's it.

73 hours later 22867068 Anonymous
>>22866750 >there is no superiority in what I'm saying It's possible that you weren't intentionally trying to feel superior, but the automatic assumption that I must feel internally inferior isn't exactly an accurate one, since there's other factors to be considered. We know what board/website we're on, and you have eyes to read the earlier responders to this thread. Superiority complexes over the dumb roastie women is a pretty common mindset here. Not that I'm surprised, it's always been this way. That doesn't mean I view myself to be inferior (but I will think about this further), as that's how 90% of anons treat females down in these wild parts of the internet.

73 hours later 22867077 Anonymous
>>22866750 And the fact that you automatically made that inaccurate assumption of my inherent inferiority/insecurity issues is very telling. It's the conclusion your mind travels to first that reflects your true personality, morals, and thought process.

74 hours later 22867117 Anonymous
>>22853807 I'm having hard time believing this.. no guy can be so superficial about wanting their gf to live up to a stereotype 'type' of look. Guys don't care about this shit, they care within a very big spectrum of what looks okay.. if a guy needs all his gf's to have dyed blonde hair, or anything so specific and superficial, as specific make-up or colour codes.. then they must have huge array of mental issues, and control issues, that would make them unsuitable for relationships. Stop dating superficial man children, but kinda don't believe this story.. or your whole generation has just been screwed up by identity politics, that you can't do anything but obsess over superficial characteristics, and mythologize and fetishise "looks". dressing up for role play sex, is one thing.. trying to get someone to change their own fashion style into picking up a specific look.. if its any more than a suggestion, is totally dirt bag bullshit.

74 hours later 22867139 Anonymous
>>22867117 >or your whole generation has just been screwed up by identity politics, that you can't do anything but obsess over superficial characteristics, and mythologize and fetishise "looks". This is exactly what I've been thinking, but I don't think anyone has really said it yet. This is what I think is a big part of OP's problem. Anons in this thread are shitting on her because this thread means she must be an ugly roastie who puts no effort into her appearance and these men are guilty of wanting the bare minimum, I think that's an enormous cope because they don't want to accept THIS.

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