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2020-03-18 08:41 22004994 Anonymous Last Name Change Help (0A3AB202-9DDC-4D4E-ABF1-57803233B0C9.jpg 449x619 61kB)
I’d like to change my last name but I’m afraid of how my parents will react. My last name is close to a slur and has left deep seated scars in my emotional and professional life. I’m nearing 20 years old and I am afraid my parents will be incredibly angry over my choice of a name change. To them, when they were growing up, that slur is not what it means today and they would see the decision as irrational. I just want a name that I can respect and my kids can also one day respect as well, kind of like carving out my own line. I have a name selected, it’s Irish like my current one and it’s actually my late grandfathers middle name to soften the blow. I know this decision is 100% up to me, I just don’t want to hurt my parents or have them shut me out of my life because of this. I don’t see them taking the news well, like I’m cutting myself out of the family. I don’t know how the rest of my family will react either.

1 min later 22004998 Anonymous
I think as it’s a family name, they’re more likely to understand. Are you planning on having this conversation with them before you change it?

4 min later 22005014 Anonymous
>>22004998 Yes, but I don’t know how that will go either because I’m still young and I don’t really know how much they value my opinion

24 min later 22005062 Anonymous (hqdefault.jpg 480x360 12kB)
Are you pic related?

25 min later 22005063 Anonymous
>>22004994 >My last name is close to a slur Hoare?

33 min later 22005098 Anonymous
>>22005014 I did the same at your age but it was a bit more complicated. I had a falling out with my adopted father, so I changed my name to a biological family name. It was actually the right move. Then again, I didn’t have to consider his or anyone else’s feelings.

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