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2020-02-03 08:03 21858309 Anonymous Boyfriend is not happy with sex life (MV5BMzZhMjUyY2MtYmYwMi00ZDcyLTg4Y2ItYjk4ODRhZmY0YTA3XkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyMTA2MTI2Njg5._V1_UY317_CR35,0,214,317_AL_.jpg 214x317 12kB)
Fuck this. Apparently my boyfriend had girls rimming him, let him cum inside them, titfucking, bdsm and all sorts of shit that I'm not into. He complains constantly that our sex life is lacking and it's my fault. What should I do
1 min later 21858313 Anonymous
Do something exciting and not just lie on the bed like a dead fish
4 min later 21858316 Anonymous
Dump him and find someone who respects you.
8 min later 21858332 MKULTRA CHAD: Default Whitman, PATER SON, WILLIAM CARLOS WILLIAMS CARLOS WILLIAM
>>21858316
a joyful tittyfuck isnt disrespectful.
but you might be right, as i have never fucked op.
10 min later 21858343 Anonymous
>>21858309
If he makes sacrifices for you then return the favor. Otherwise just break up.
11 min later 21858349 Anonymous
He's inevitably gonna cheat on boring cunt like you
14 min later 21858355 Anonymous
Fucking blow his mind.
He spends a fuck ton of time doing what he doesnt like with a smile on his face to make you happy.
Do the same.
Blow him every day and rim him, be engaged.
Be the best.
14 min later 21858357 Anonymous
Well what is your stance? Missionary and on special days you'll touch his dick?
15 min later 21858358 Anonymous
>>21858349
Boring. So someone doesnt like some of the things you do, just means you wont get along if you cant see beyond some of your differences.
15 min later 21858359 Anonymous
If you're really not into it then tell him and most likely go separate ways.
If you don't wanna do some of the things he asks because you think it's disrespectful to you then you're dumb. If a woman is willing to fullfil your sexual fantasies then you respect that and treat her right but there have to be boundaries what's appropriate in the bedroom and outside.
I would've loved to spank my gf at the time and receive a nice blowjob but instead everything was a power relationship to her so it was demeaning. Too bad, she got dumped.
17 min later 21858366 Anonymous
>>21858349
>>21858313
>you have to be into fetishes otherwise you're a boring CUNT!!!!
Imagine being this retarded.
>>21858309
He's not really entitled for you do his bidding. Though, like
>>21858343 said you should do a few things for him he does things he doesn't like to please you. He's gotta respect your boundaries but you also try to do something for him that you're comfortable with. If he's being such a nigger about it then consider dumping him, simple as.
20 min later 21858372 Anonymous
>>21858309
Break up, you're obviously not compatible. Unless you like being infected with STDs by girls he cheated on you with in the future.
20 min later 21858374 Anonymous
>>21858309
>let him cum inside them, titfucking
these are not even abnormal, just do it why wouldn't u, shame? noone will see u
23 min later 21858380 Anonymous
>>21858372
This guy knows what’s up
23 min later 21858381 Anonymous
>>21858366
Fuck off white knight
Women are literally required to do only one thing in a relationship and they can't even do that properly
25 min later 21858387 Anonymous
>>21858381
This is unfortunately true.
You guys have 1 single job, as far as what men ask for.
Make us happy the 5% of our total time we get what we want.
29 min later 21858402 Anonymous
If you are not into it and he really wants all that then maybe it's time to reconsider if the relationship is going to work. I personally am into a lot of kinky shit, but if I am with a girl I really like I probably wouldn't mind much if I can do all that stuff.
38 min later 21858428 Anonymous
>>21858309
Break up with him if you're not sexually compatible. It's that simple. Unless you want to spice up your sex life.
52 min later 21858466 Anonymous
>>21858374
>why wouldn’t you?
Pregnancy. Retard
52 min later 21858467 Anonymous
>>21858309
Have a serious talk about this and if you can't find a common ground that makes both of you happy just break up.
1 hours later 21858495 Anonymous
>>21858387
Why even be in a relationship if you're just after sex? You can go anywhere for that. Honestly sounds like you're just too beta to live the life you really want.
1 hours later 21858500 Anonymous
>>21858495
Most guys can't really get constant sex outside of a relationship, so they just date people they find okay but they're not very into. And for a lot it's not even an entirely conscious decision.
Which is why if you want to make sure a guy has any interest in you as a person you really, really shouldn't fuck him for quite a bit.
1 hours later 21858513 Anonymous
>>21858500
Hm. Fair
1 hours later 21858523 Anonymous
>>21858500
>person you really, really shouldn't fuck him for quite a bit.
Plot twist any dude who waits longer than 3-4 dates for sex is either 1)fucking other girls on the side or 2) beta as fuck and can't do any better
Not fucking on the first night I can understand. After that, if you're not fucking the way the guy likes fucking then you can get the fuck out
1 hours later 21858552 Anonymous
>>21858495
>Why even be in a relationship if you're just after sex?
Because what else do entitled women offer
1 hours later 21858562 Anonymous
>>21858523
>Plot twist any dude who waits longer than 3-4 dates for sex is either 1)fucking other girls on the side or 2) beta as fuck and can't do any better
That’s a lie
1 hours later 21858567 Anonymous
>>21858562
Then what else could be the case
1 hours later 21858568 Anonymous
>>21858523
It's actually the opposite - guys who are used to getting laid whenever they want are the ones that are easier to get by not fucking them.
Being a bit of a challenge will make you stick out way more than being another one of the girls who wants to suck their dick after a date. They're way more willing to commit if they know they're getting something that not every random dude who paid for your drinks once or twice could get.
Obviously this is true if you have something worth waiting for, and you're good at playing your cards.
1 hours later 21858574 Anonymous (8a5.gif 220x345 73kB)
>>21858562
>>21858568
1 hours later 21858588 Anonymous
>>21858574
I literally have been doing this since I was 21 and I got way better quality guys going after me than any of my friends who is willing to fuck them after 3 dates.
1 hours later 21858590 Anonymous
>>21858567
because maybe he wants to wait to see if the girl is a good girl before he sticks his dick in her
1 hours later 21858591 Anonymous
>>21858500
This
Women have sex with whoever they want
Men have sex with whoever they can
1 hours later 21858595 Anonymous
>>21858590
Then she will start just seeing you as a friend if you don't initiate anything
1 hours later 21858612 Anonymous
>>21858595
Friends don’t hold hands and kiss
>>21858591
>men have sex with whoever they can
Also bs. Just because a hambeast my want my dick doesn’t mean I’m going to give it to her (because I wouldn’t)
1 hours later 21858656 Anonymous
>>21858552
Have you ever even been in a healthy relationship? Sex is all you got out of it? Lol what an autistic faggot. There's plenty of reasons that people stay together and compatible human beings do have a tendency to be pleasant.
1 hours later 21858660 Anonymous
>>21858309
There is literally nothing you can do apart from the things he wants or break up. It's the same with me and my wife. She is very very very vanilla and it constantly gets me down. I've had some sexually adventurous gfs and I find our sex life quite unsatisfactory and depressing. You have to just go beyond your comfort zone a bit if you love him. Sorry.
1 hours later 21858664 Anonymous
>>21858656
>Have you ever even been in a healthy relationship?
>implying anyone here has been
1 hours later 21858670 Anonymous
>>21858588
Your anecdotal evidence versus mine.
1 hours later 21858675 Anonymous
>>21858670
Making men wait is actually a very effective way to secure long term relationships according to statistics too.
1 hours later 21858676 Anonymous
>>21858309
I bet you would eat out his unwashed butthole if he looked like a list actor and had a big account
1 hours later 21858679 Anonymous
>>21858309
If he's making you feel inadequate regarding sex, dump his ass. Femanon very into BDSM and kinky shit, I make sexual compatibility a priority. He should be doing the same instead of blaming you. If he wants a freak in bed, he has to date one. That's how it is for degenerates.
1 hours later 21858682 Anonymous
>>21858675
It works for men on women too
1 hours later 21858687 Anonymous
>>21858682
I don't know, I've never been a man dating. I know that as a girl it is by far the best strategy I've ever found to have actually attractive men stick around and commit.
1 hours later 21858689 Anonymous
>>21858675
I miss read and am actually agreeing with you. Keep it up anonette.
1 hours later 21858691 Anonymous
>>21858687
It works for men because it will expose potential sluts. Waiting 3-4 months works pretty well.
2 hours later 21858708 Anonymous
>>21858309
You don't let him cum inside you?
Let me guess, he's also not allowed to cum in your mouth when you give him a BJ? That's assuming you even give BJ's in the first place which is questionable.
No shit he's not satisfied. We need a solid nut on a regular basis.
2 hours later 21858715 Anonymous
>>21858552
If your relationships are solely for sex, you're better off being single.
You can get sex without having a relationship. The reason you're in a relationship with someone should be because you like each other in a manner that goes beyond just getting your rocks off.
2 hours later 21858725 Anonymous
>>21858715
>You can get sex without having a relationship. The reason you're in a relationship with someone should be because you like each other in a manner that goes beyond just getting your rocks off.
And funnily enough, if you don't get enough sex and sex of the type you want with the person you love, your relationship is fucked. Try not having sex with your partner for months and see what happens to your relationship.
2 hours later 21858729 Anonymous
>>21858708
How can you assume based on the fact that she doesn’t want to get knocked up that she won’t suck his dick? She can’t get pregnant through her mouth
2 hours later 21858732 Anonymous
>>21858715
>You can get sex without having a relationship.
Most men can't.
2 hours later 21858733 Anonymous
>>21858725
>Try not having sex with your partner for months and see what happens to your relationship.
Not that anon. But I’m in a relationship and my gf and I only have sex once every few months. Things are fine with us
2 hours later 21858736 Anonymous
>>21858725
This. It's actually unbelievable how many people fail to realize this before it's too late.
2 hours later 21858738 Anonymous
>>21858733
The problem isn't about "not having sex", it's about "not having your needs met".
2 hours later 21858739 Anonymous
>>21858733
If that's the kind of relationship you're happy with fine, but you both are the anomaly and shouldn't assume your experiences are universal.
2 hours later 21858741 Anonymous
>>21858738
Sex isn’t a need
2 hours later 21858751 Anonymous
>>21858739
We have only had sex once since mid August
2 hours later 21858753 Anonymous
>>21858729
Why is she not on birth control?
2 hours later 21858764 Anonymous
>>21858725
Yes i know and i agree.
I know sex is important, but it's not the only factor. Relationships need good sex AND good chemistry. One can't survive without the other.
2 hours later 21858765 Anonymous
>>21858753
some women don’t take birth control because it makes them feel sick or off. Birth control isn’t healthy. It fucks with hormones. Would you want to take pills every single day that mess with your body’s hormonal chemistry?
2 hours later 21858766 Anonymous
>>21858741
It is an expression anon. Don't be autistic.
2 hours later 21858768 Anonymous
>>21858765
Well that sucks ass. But it doesn't change anything about her dissatisfied boyfriend.
2 hours later 21858771 Anonymous
>>21858751
Are you both happy with that?
2 hours later 21858772 Anonymous
>>21858768
If he cared about her, then he’d be glad that she cares about her health enough to not take shit that’s bad for her
2 hours later 21858778 Anonymous
>>21858771
I guess. We’ve never spoken about it. But I don’t really care, and she hasn’t said anything about it
2 hours later 21858779 Anonymous
>>21858765
You do understand that there are non-hormonal birth control methods right?
2 hours later 21858783 Anonymous
>>21858309
The first and only real rule of sex is this:
Never do anything unless both parties are equally enthusiastic about it.
You may have very different tastes but that is nobody's "fault". Either he accepts your limits (and you accept his) or it's a deal-breaker and you part.
2 hours later 21858811 Anonymous
>>21858779
would you want doctors shoving a piece of copper up your vagina into your cervix?
2 hours later 21858816 Anonymous
>>21858811
I actually had doctors shove a piece of copper up my vagina into my cervix.
2 hours later 21858823 Anonymous
>>21858816
why can’t he just wear condoms?
2 hours later 21858828 Anonymous
>>21858823
Because some partners like to take control of contraception themselves, and choose the form that most suits them and their life choices.
2 hours later 21858830 Anonymous
>>21858772
LOL nah fuck that only fuck bitches with iuds
2 hours later 21858840 Anonymous
>>21858823
Because condoms aren't as safe to protect from pregnancy, they're more expensive since we have sex multiple times a day and it adds up and they make sex worse for both of us.
And nothing beats him filling me up with cum.
2 hours later 21858861 Anonymous
>>21858840
>And nothing beats him filling me up with cum.
Can you explain this a bit? My wife has an IUD but I still wear condoms. She says there's a psychological element. Should I chill out a bit? The way I see it, I'm handing total control over to her if I don't use a condom though. IF she gets pregnant, I have no say in what happens.
2 hours later 21858862 Anonymous
>>21858823
>wearing condoms while in a relationship
Death is preferable if you ask me.
3 hours later 21858892 Anonymous
>>21858715
>You can get sex without having a relationship
Might as well get a hooker then
3 hours later 21858893 Anonymous
>>21858861
I think sex without condoms just feels way better, and him coming inside me feels incredibly intimate and loving.
IUD are extremely safe. It's ridiculously unlikely that she gets pregnant.
And, well... do you not trust your wife? Do you not have discussed what happens if she gets pregnant? This seems like a way bigger issue here.
3 hours later 21858898 Anonymous
>>21858309
if you don't even let him nut in you it's not gonna last desu
3 hours later 21858899 Anonymous
>>21858309
He sounds like he's trying to manipulate you for sex. ":(( Boohooo you won't suck my asshole, our sex life sucks." He doesn't actually care about you. Dump him.
3 hours later 21858919 Anonymous
>>21858893
>do you not trust your wife? Do you not have discussed what happens if she gets pregnant? This seems like a way bigger issue here.
That's the issue, I don't trust her. She has abused my trust before in other areas. She said she is childfree, but that if she gets pregnant in spite of contraception she is keeping it [she said that a few months ago] but a few DAYS ago she said that she would abort. Cannot believe what she says. Best to take my own route.
3 hours later 21858922 Anonymous
>>21858919
Why are you married with her if you don't trust her?
3 hours later 21858934 Anonymous
>>21858922
That's a good question. Convenience and cowardice and the hope that things will improve even though I know they never will. Very good question. I don't trust her at all, I have even gone to a domestic abuse counsellor who says I should leave her. Thanks for giving me something to think about.
3 hours later 21858937 Anonymous
>>21858309
You are what we call “beached whale syndrome.”
He might as fuck a blow up doll.
3 hours later 21858941 Anonymous
>>21858899
God forbid guys demand more from partner than missionary
Kys
3 hours later 21859069 Anonymous (1580063323087.jpg 1200x1458 332kB)
Why do women hate sex? What do women even like, how do you find will to live? Explain it to me I'm a birgin because females are alien to me.
4 hours later 21859091 Anonymous
>>21859069
they don't
they just hate you because you treat them like aliens when they're just humans
4 hours later 21859093 Anonymous
>>21859069
This is going to be very general and obviously doesn't apply to all women.
Women don't hate sex, it's just more complicated for them to enjoy it.
Human's sex drive is driven by hormones. Women hormones fluctuate way more than men's, both in the short and long term (period, menopause, etc). Plus, women have babies, which fuck up our hormones too. It's more complicated for women to feel horny.
Women have a stronger need to be in the right headspace to enjoy sex - if we're stressed, worried, tired, depressed, we tend to not want sex as much. If we don't feel emotional about you, we tend to not want sex as much. Plus, women tend to have worse relationships with their bodies and it's hard to enjoy sex when you don't feel sexy.
Women have a harder time reaching orgasm during intercourse, so we have less incentive to do it.
Women have been socialised for centuries to not be sluts. I understand most people here think this is gone, but it's not really.
Women carry more biological consequences for having sex - we get pregnant, you don't. It makes sense that we don't want it as much as you do since you can leave once you bust your nut but we biologically have to deal with it.
4 hours later 21859100 Anonymous
>>21858612
There's 100,000 chads on Tinder proving you wrong as we speak
4 hours later 21859147 Anonymous
>>21859069
They don't hate it but they mainly see it as means to extract resources from men
>>21859093
Good post
4 hours later 21859151 Anonymous
>>21858309
>What should I do
Stop fornicating and stop dating degenerates
4 hours later 21859183 Anonymous
>>21859151
Ok puritan
4 hours later 21859199 Anonymous
>>21859093
Tl;Dr fuck sluts, and never commit
4 hours later 21859205 Anonymous
>>21858309
>cum inside
uhhh this is mandatory if you're in a relationship. the whole point of using condoms or pulling out is because you're wary of a rando sluts intentions and STD status. Once that's passed, and you're in a relationship, its MANDATORY that you get on birthcontrol and let your boyfriend at LEAST cum inside you. All the other extra unecessary bullshit like titfucking, rimming, etc i can totally understand, but you gotta let him push warm loads into you or you actually DO suck.
>TLDR letting your bf cum in your pussy is mandatory. figure it out or be a cat lady
4 hours later 21859237 Anonymous
>>21859199
If that's what makes you happy anon.
5 hours later 21859244 Anonymous
>>21858309
>Complains constantly that our sex life is lacking
Dump immediately. This isn't hard.
6 hours later 21859655 Anonymous
>>21859205
>extra unecessary bullshit like titfucking
Man, my ex had massive massive tits. She never let me titfuck her because it was "demeaning". I broke up with her and got with a girl who had bigger tits than her and initiated titfucking me and it was amazing. That's how I knew my ex was a cunt. Titfucking is the mildest shit ever though
6 hours later 21859670 Anonymous
>>21858366
You think rimming, creampieing and titfucking are "fetishes"? Oh, honey...
6 hours later 21859676 Anonymous
>>21858309
>rimming
Just dump the sick, nasty freak. What the fuck have some self respect. Your bf is mentally ill.
6 hours later 21859687 Anonymous
>>21859655
>>21859670
Any kind of sex where these sexually boring women have to do work is demeaning to them, they better settle down with a boring christia prude because otherwise they wont make anyone happy
>>21859676
>thinking rimjobs are sick and nasty
lmao gtfo you boring puritan
6 hours later 21859691 Anonymous
>>21859676
cringe
6 hours later 21859714 Anonymous (newnownext-life-lve-contracted-my-third-gastrointestinal-parasite-from-rimming-and-55811694.png 500x814 130kB)
>>21859691
>>21859687
Sorry sweeties, normal and sane people don't like the taste of shit.
6 hours later 21859730 Anonymous
>>21859714
THat's why you clean it first
7 hours later 21859743 Anonymous
>>21859205
Shut the fuck up degenerate you don't deserve to breathe with that attitude
7 hours later 21859764 Anonymous
>>21859743
Dilate you low test faggot
7 hours later 21859771 Anonymous
>>21858349
>why can't you be like my pornos!?!?!?!
please talk to a woman
7 hours later 21859775 Anonymous
>>21858381
>>21858387
ah the classic replying to yourself to get attention because nobody else will
7 hours later 21859776 Anonymous
>>21859771
You know many people in marriages and ltrs have sex and don't only do missionary right? Shocker, some women like to have a little fun. Sometimes a lot of fun. So do men. Deal with it
7 hours later 21859791 Anonymous (sc.jpg 526x124 18kB)
>>21859771
>why do I have to put effort into mating? Isn't that a mans job?
>>21859775
Ok retard
7 hours later 21859795 Anonymous
>>21858523
Any girl that is putting out for you on the first date, probably put out for other ten guys she’s dated this month in the same fashion.
I’ve run into one nighters but I prefer a girl with a little more class that enjoys being pursued rather than just giving in an hour into the first date. Anticipation and multiple dates makes the sex that much sweeter when it happens. And for that, I have no problem turning it into an ltr.
7 hours later 21859797 Anonymous
>>21859795
>Any girl that is putting out for you on the first date, probably put out for other ten guys she’s dated this month in the same fashion
So?
7 hours later 21859813 Anonymous
>>21858309
Dump him if you aren't into his kinky degenerate sexual "desires". He sounds fucked up anyway.
7 hours later 21859820 Anonymous
>>21859714
Jasper Sparrow seems to like it. He’s a gay journalist contributor to newnownext, a lgbt advocate publication.
7 hours later 21859831 Anonymous
>>21858309
You should talk to him and come to mutual understanding and make compromises
7 hours later 21859845 Anonymous
>>21859797
Give me an “S”. S! Give me a “T”. T! Give me a “D”. D!
Herpes, clymidia, AIDS, possible infertility, painful discharge, precancerous growth in the uterus, medical bills keeping all those junk diseases under control.
7 hours later 21859849 Anonymous
>>21858778
She's getting it from Tyrone.
7 hours later 21859855 Anonymous
>>21859797
I can abide by a girl that’s had ten or twenty partners over a lifetime but not in the same month I’m dating here.
8 hours later 21859924 Anonymous
>>21858523
>anybody who isn't a hedonist is either lying or settling
>t. low IQ coomer
8 hours later 21859937 Anonymous
>>21859924
>more of this moral coomer shit
I miss old 4chan
8 hours later 21859940 Anonymous
>>21859937
fuck off, nigger
8 hours later 21859978 Anonymous
Fuck this op. You shouldn’t dump him. You should let him dump you. He would suck your ugly ass if you told him too so it’s time you did the same. Women like you are the worst. What are you scared your delicate pussy is gonna explode if you do something slightly unorthodox. You better find a neutered Mormon for you to marry later in life cause no man is dealing with that shit.
8 hours later 21859985 Anonymous
>>21859978
kys manwhore
8 hours later 21859989 Anonymous
>>21859985
Bite me bitch. Skanks like you would suck any ass if the account was big enough. Op would be making a thread about the best strategies for sucking ass if her boy looked like Jason Mamoa or some shit
8 hours later 21859993 Anonymous
>>21859989
I'm not a woman. OP is also a degenerate, but apparently not enough of one for bottom-of-the-barrel garbage like you.
9 hours later 21860012 Anonymous
>>21859993
So you’re a beta white knight character? Why am I a bottom feeder for having expectations of women? This is the problem with our society women are lazy to please there man. They just starfish man to man and expect the world. I hope ops bf finds himself a nice lady.
9 hours later 21860019 Anonymous
>>21858313
This my gf just lies there, doesn't even dirtytalk. I say I want more and suddenly I'm a badguy.
girls eat ass these days.. Why am I stuck with a prude? I feel for OPs boyfriend, but eh, if she's worth it then she's worth it and that's just how it is.
9 hours later 21860025 Anonymous
>>21860012
>white knight
Anything but. I think all of your ilk belong on the business end of a firing squad. You, OP, OP's bf--you're all the same.
>Why am I a bottom feeder for having expectations of women?
Your "expectation" is base impulse, demanding that the appallingly low standards asked of people today be lowered yet further to cater to your fantasies. You're not just a bottom feeder. No, fresh shit is too pristine for you. You insist that the shit is fermented, too.
> This is the problem with our society women are lazy to please there man.
You ARE the problem, hedonist. Do you not realize that your behavior is precisely what gives you the problem of narcissistic whores? You are their counterpart--the thirsty manwhore who can't possibly conceive of commitment before sex.
You disgust me.
9 hours later 21860033 Anonymous
>>21858309
Rimming and bdsm misunderstand but the other 2 aren't bad at all
9 hours later 21860114 Anonymous
>>21860025
I don’t believe anything I said was hedonistic. It’s hedonistic to expect sex from your partner? That’s strange I’m pretty sure people have been expecting that since the beginning of time. Is a man expected to find and marry the Virgin Mary in this day and age? I don’t see how I’m creating narcissistic whores when people like you run around putting pussy and sex on a pedestal. Listen me and you aren’t exactly against each other. You’re assuming quite a bit here, op and her man are already in a committed relationship. Committed relationships come with expectations on both sides. The man here has an expectation not being met that’s all. I’m sure you have your own expectations and you deserve to have them met king.
9 hours later 21860124 Anonymous
>>21858309
Literally anything, bland bitch.
10 hours later 21860142 Anonymous
>>21860114
> It’s hedonistic to expect sex from your partner?
They aren't your partner until you marry them. It's hedonistic to expect degenerate coomer nonsense like licking shit off of someone's asshole as a condition for a relationship. And if you marry someone for the sake of having sex, that's also hedonism.
> Is a man expected to find and marry the Virgin Mary
No. But he should be able to keep it in his pants until he gets married. As it stands now (and historically speaking, it's pretty much always been the case), it's harder for women to find a guy willing to wait than the other way around.
>when people like you run around putting pussy and sex on a pedestal
I'm advocating the precise opposite. Do tell me how saying one should refrain from sex until you've already committed to spend your life with someone is going to create more whores than the guy who threatens to walk out if a girl doesn't tongue his anus while being caned. If you unironically think it's the former, you're all but guaranteed to have severe brain damage.
>already in a committed relationship
No, they aren't. Their "commitment" is a joke, a transient connection that can be unilaterally broken at any time without consequence. That isn't commitment by any sense of the word.
10 hours later 21860214 Anonymous
>>21860142
>>They are not your partner until you marry them
>>Their "commitment" is a joke, a transient connection that can be unilaterally broken at any time without consequence.
Your idea of marriage is fucking retarded. Commitment doesn’t start at marriage. It starts when you fucking say it starts. Marriage is a piece of paper handed to you by the government that’s it. The real commitment is between the individuals and there agreement.
There is one reason I saw to assume he is with her just for sex. Maybe he likes her personality too. But this does not imply that he cannot have expectations of a sexual nature. It’s important to him and many other men.
>>No. But he should be able to keep it in his pants until he gets married. As it stands now (and historically speaking, it's pretty much always been the case), it's harder for women to find a guy willing to wait than the other way around.
He should not have to if he does not want to sit. I will have to ask for proof of your cucked assertion in terms of women having a harder time with this. I agree historically women behaved better and this is because back then men had expectations and held women responsible.
>>Do tell me how saying one should refrain from sex until you've already committed to spend your life with someone is going to create more whores than the guy who threatens to walk out if a girl doesn't tongue his anus while being caned.
I’ll tell ya, if you don’t think there were whores back in the day when more men thought like this you must be retarded. By valuing women’s pussy in this way you have created in them a princess complex. It is both unrealistic and retarded to expect women especially modern women to act any different. With your mentality you will not find commitment you will find a lying whore that will use you and your naive ideology in her favor. In short a beta provider.
10 hours later 21860226 Anonymous
>>21858309
actual advise is to watch porn. you will get desensitized to sex and everything wont seam so dirty. You will learn a thing or two also
10 hours later 21860250 Anonymous
>>21860214
>Commitment doesn’t start at marriage.
Strictly speaking, no (and there technically isn't anything wrong with two people staying together for life without marriage or any external involvement), but marriage is by far the most viable way of standardizing and enforcing commitment across society--i.e. it makes commitment accessible to far more people than individualist hand-waving ever could.
Individual "agreements" mean jack shit when people as a whole are lying, selfish beasts, especially when you let them be.
> I will have to ask for proof of your cucked assertion in terms of women having a harder time with this.
>cucked
It truly amazes me how redpillers can't see the irony of their positions, when they themselves count among their ranks people who say things like "women are only useful for their holes, and if I can't use them I'm out". Ask a girl who is waiting what her experience with guys is like--almost without exception, even nice-seeming guys either bail immediately or start pressuring her for sex when they hear she's saving herself.
I know, I know, 'anecdotal evidence' and all that.
You can look at a bunch of statistics from the GSS (which tracks both men and women, as opposed to the NSFG which only tracked women until recently), like on those who see sex outside of marriage as 'always wrong', and the overall trend is that women are slightly but significantly more sexually conservative than men in almost any relevant statistic.
>By valuing women’s pussy
I value their morality and self-restraint. Not the same thing.
>With your mentality you will not find commitment you will find a lying whore that will use you and your naive ideology in her favor
Statistically, by waiting until marriage and expecting the same, I have the lowest chance of this compared to entertaining *actual* whores.
10 hours later 21860254 Anonymous (1524806340341.png 1440x1557 755kB)
>>21860226
>"Sir, I really don't think we should use this village of civilians as bayonet practice"
>>"Private, you nancy, just watch a bunch of rekt gore videos and desensitize yourself"
11 hours later 21860286 Anonymous
>>21860250
You will end of entertaining actual whores because there is nothing left my man. Marriage is another one of these individual agreements that mean jack shit. Think about it, the government is involved with marriage and so what? It doesn’t protect you from anything. Women still cheat, lie, whatever. You’re not personally gaining anything from society’s involvement in your marriage.
You’re right that was anecdotal evidence and I’m glad you acknowledged that for me. You may be valuing there self restraint but they will not respond in kind friend. They know what their shit is worth. The modern skank laughs at men like you. And this is not your fault but it is due to your lack of understanding in what women actually are. You sir are an idealist. But this is reality that I live in.
Women are not more conservative then men sexually. They have a different process of selection that is shaping the statistics to lead you to this conclusion. But this conclusion is false. Women appear this way in stats because of harsher selection not because they are interested in waiting. If top tier men cane across them everyday they would suck at least one ass everyday.
11 hours later 21860328 Anonymous
>>21860286
>the government is involved with marriage and so what?
This is a chicken-and-the-egg problem, or one of social inertia. People don't see the need to change because things aren't different, but things won't be different until people bother to change them.
The impasse is solved when either of the two conditions happens--either the egg hatches or the chicken lays one. The difference, of course, is that an individual can't directly control what their overall environment is, but they can control their own behavior. That's why I argue in favor of moral actions, because they are within individual control.
The rest of your post is just pointing fingers at women without much reason (even accusing the statistics of being inadmissable for some reason or another), and even if we accept your claims as true for the sake of argument, they in no way lead to the statement that male degeneracy is then justified. It's like saying someone should cheat because "most people will cheat on you anyway". Morality isn't a zero-sum game: immorality doesn't negate other immorality, it only magnifies itself, and preemptive immorality (that is, behaving like trash because you *assume* others are) puts innocent people in the crossfire on top of it all. It's quite literally the worst thing one could do--not only is it lowering oneself to the level of whores, but it is doing harm to the desperately small proportion of decent people out there.
So what if a whore laughs at me for keeping my standards? The disgust is mutual, and I'm statistically not going to be the one in a broken relationship--at least, as long as I don't do the same thing she did.
11 hours later 21860352 Anonymous
Step 1:
Sit down and watch porn with him.
Step 2:
Stop pretending your body is a temple.
Step 3:
Have fun with your bodies, take inspiration from his porn.
Alternatively stay narrow minded and find a guy who's equally as vapid as you, then live happily ever after.
11 hours later 21860373 Anonymous
>>21859714
You'd think someone would have figured out how to farm and harness parasites to make people lose weight fast and less harmfully by now
12 hours later 21860399 Anonymous
>>21860328
>>The impasse is solved when either of the two conditions happens--either the egg hatches or the chicken lays one.
Once again this right here is the problem. The idealist. There is no getting past the impasse. There is no end game and no way to successfully govern every social interaction people have. Just reality. Listen it’s good that you have your own convictions. You have an inherent right to keep to them. But you’re not getting any good boy points with anyone for living life that way. And expecting others to follow this ideology In today’s world is not realistic. Male degeneracy is not justified by female degeneracy. But it’s a response to the treatment males get today. Women aren’t going to learn a lesson from the guy in the corner keeping his convictions. That guy probably won’t even carry on any sort of lineage. But they will notice the men that chuck them like the sluts they are. They will learn when they are old and alone and Chads are done with them.
12 hours later 21860450 Anonymous
>>21860352
I don't know about you but I don't find the idea of rimming fun. In fact I find it absolutely disgusting and a complete turn off. OP didn't say she found it degrading, she said she's not into it. If she's not into it, she's going to feel degraded *because* she's doing something she dislikes and finds absolutely no pleasure in, but rather the reverse. Not because she has a hangup about it.
Should OP and her boyfriend try to find some things they both like? Yeah, but they both need to be realistic and meet in the middle here, she's allowed to have her limits and hard no's.
15 hours later 21860777 Anonymous
>>21858366
>cumming inside a girl and getting a titjob are considered degenerate fetishes
I want /pol/ to leave this board
16 hours later 21860810 Anonymous
MAP and double protection
17 hours later 21861009 Anonymous
>>21858309
>Let him cum inside them
What the actual fuck? No shit he won't put up with you if THAT'S a no no.
Just get on birth control faggot.
17 hours later 21861019 Anonymous
Is there anything more fun you'd like to do? Roleplaying/whatever that he might also like?
If not, I'd leave him - he sounds like a dick desu.
17 hours later 21861030 Anonymous
>>21860142
hahaha incel
18 hours later 21861040 Anonymous
>>21861030
Fuck off retard
18 hours later 21861049 Anonymous
>>21858466
god woman are dumb, do u know what a comdom is? or a pill? or any anticonception? also u cant get pregnant from titfucking u dumb whore fuck urself bitch lesbian whore
18 hours later 21861052 Anonymous
>>21858309
You don't have to do anything, just let him do stuff to you and he will most likely be fine.
If you want him and are attracted to him, SHOW him.
Kiss him on the neck for a change. When doing foreplay, initiate a blowjob. Don't always wait for him to take the lead in things.
18 hours later 21861063 Anonymous
>>21859940
>>21859985
>>21859989
>>21859993
>>21860012
>>21860019
>>21860025
>>21860114
>>21860142
>>21860214
>>21860250
I'm so confused. When did this board become reddit? I actually have more interesting discourse on /b/ and /d/. I can't believe this anti-"hedonist" and moral high ground coomer meme shit actually has a platform here. You guys are emasculated vanilla losers. You're just a different side of the onions-boy trend but you're all low test faggots who were incels for your entire lives then suddenly put a "I was always saving myself for a conservative woman" ribbon on the big sack of shit that's your life
Just imagine the people screaming against feminism and sexual revolution were unironically fapping to shitting dick nipples two years ago.
18 hours later 21861078 Anonymous
>>21861063
>were unironically fapping to shitting dick nipples two years ago
They still are. Hence all this faux conservative posturing.
It's overcompensation.
21 hours later 21861509 Anonymous
>>21861063
Take your meds you fucking schizo
>everyone who isn't a degenerate is faux conservative incel
>>21861078
And you should stop with your projecting
21 hours later 21861536 Anonymous
>>21861509
Cringe
21 hours later 21861573 Anonymous
>>21858309
>you’re not into bdsm
Is it like gimp slave stuff because I’ve never met a girl who doesn’t like light bondage who isn’t a complete tuna
22 hours later 21861654 Anonymous
>>21858588
But you’re still dating around, lol! So how much better could they really be? But I hear you, and it’s true.
22 hours later 21861667 Anonymous
>>21861654
I'm not? I've been with the same guy for years.
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