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2020-01-10 10:35 21775857 Anonymous ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything (Gender Symbol.png 2000x2000 148kB)
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FAQ:
>Why do I always get rejected?
GIVE DETAILED INFO on what you've tried—this is complex
>What do <sex> ITT/anywhere think about <any trait, e.g. looks, physical or personality traits, virginity, penis traits (size, cut/uncut, phimosis), dating/sex history>?
>Do <most/any/you> <sex> like <as above>?
There is no one answer. Complexes are a turn-off; fix the complex
>I like someone. What do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Signs of attraction aren't real. Get a date
>Should I confess my feelings to <someone I've not dated>?
No
>I'm a guy, how do I ask a girl out?
Hey <girl>, you free Thursday? Let's go to <coffee place>.
>I'm a girl, how do I ask a guy out?
Hey <guy>, have you been to <coffee place> before? I'm thinking of going on Thursday.
>Am I overthinking <anything>?
Yes
>I'm shy and fear <rejection/people>
Expose yourself to socialization bit by bit. There is no "magic moment" or activity that will instantly change you. Don't give up
>Where do I meet people for <dating/friendship>?
Anywhere outside or online. Leave your comfort zone
>Where do I go on a date?
Coffee is the standard first date, but any of these may work: lunch, brunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, froyo, film, zoo, aquarium, museum, gallery, park, local market or event, etc.
>I'm <a virgin/single> and insecure! Am I too old?
No
>Should I lose my virginity to a hooker?
You'll still be empty inside. Sex w/o love is just advanced fapping
>There's something wrong with my privates!
See a doctor/therapist. The opposite sex won't have any insight
Fuck off with the following, we're tired of it:
>80/20 rule
>virgin-chasing
>anti-online dating
>The Rules™ of texting
>Why can't <sex> give a straightforward rejection?
>Why do all <sex> do <X>?
>New thread?
Make one! Some pics: imgur.com/a/y6BF2
26 min later 21775928 Anonymous
Short of asking a girl out directly, what other things can be used as a solid indication of interest?
44 min later 21775982 Anonymous (doobr.png 484x453 24kB)
is it possible to get a gf as a doomer? a lot of dating advice says that neediness and lack of self-confidence is a major turn off
47 min later 21775995 Anonymous
>>21775982
Not long-term, because putting up with someone needy, depressed and lacking in confidence on daily basis is super exhausting
47 min later 21775996 Anonymous (file.png 630x472 295kB)
Hey girls. I've been thinking about myself lately, and I've noticed that when girls speak well of my looks they describe me not as "hot" but as "cute".
It's got me thinking that I might be attractive but not in the way an alpha male might be.
I'm trying to figure out exactly what it all means, and how best I can work with this. Any advice?
53 min later 21776006 Anonymous
What does it feel like to get hit in the cervix? A very sensitive organ like the men's balls or something worse? Men don't feel pain if you touch them gently just like breasts, but I don't know about the cervix' pain receptors.
>>21775996
Ignore the thots. I also call LinusTechTips cute, but because he's scrawny, his voice is annoying and he has a geeky baby face. He looks like someone I'd take care of as my son.
Nobody should call a bulky man with a handsome face "cute".
55 min later 21776016 Anonymous
>hey are you free anytime this week? We should hang out
>how about lunch tomorrow?
We've been dating for a month (tho holidays warp the time a bit) and this was my interaction with her from Wednesday. The lunch yesterday went fine. But it's pretty clear that I wasn't implying just a casual lunch, right? So either she is really that busy, or not that into me.
If I can't read that myself, I can't expect random people on an image board to figure it out, but the question is how to procede from here?
The nice guy in me is thinking "Back off and wait for her to initiate something. You don't want to be too pushy, especially if she is having second thoughts"
But there must be something else to say or do?
56 min later 21776020 Anonymous
>>21775995
Yup this I've been on both sides.
Plus they're lack of attention for your needs and lack of sex drive and constant sadness takes a toll
57 min later 21776022 Anonymous
>>21775857
How do I stop being insecure about my height? My brothers are 6'1 and 6'0 and my dad is 5'11 .
I'm 5'8 and my height always upsets me. I've been dating a girl and recently she asked if we were the same height ( she's 5'4 ) then she told me her sisters bf is 6'0 and buff and then I talked about my brothers heights and said those were good height. She never told me my height bothered her but it did hurt a little knowing she pays attention to height. Why do girls care so much about height :/
57 min later 21776023 Anonymous (CasimirRavine.jpg 1202x1600 172kB)
>>21775996
Cute means softer features, more boyish way of being or looking. It's difficult to define, and you didn't post your pic so I can only guess that it's because you look youthful and have more delicate bone structure, than, say, Cavill who is very masculine and probably conventionally hot.
Sometimes girls think hot guys are very muscular and tanned and embody the bad boy ideal, but that depends on personal taste, I think.
I find pic related more cute than hot, because of his delicate features and dainty frame
57 min later 21776024 Anonymous
>>21776016
I should clarify, the second line is her reply
1 hours later 21776073 Anonymous
>>21776038
Women place much more emphasis on social connection and personality than men do in evaluating 'attractiveness'. It's kind of like a reverse halo effect--people women like more are seen as more attractive.
What this means is that, on dating sites (which are garbage; don't use them), women don't have the things they rely most on to make assessments, so their view of "attractiveness" is skewed. It's like trying to tune an instrument while your head is underwater.
This tendency of women also explains why the people most likely to call you "handsome" are your female relatives or their friends. They know you and presumably have a positive opinion of you, so they see you as more attractive.
Also,
>wanting "equality"
Men and women are obviously not the same. It's absurd to get upset that they behave differently. What you should be concerned about is whether they behave *properly*, and proper behavior is not easily found in either gender when it comes to online ""dating"".
1 hours later 21776084 Anonymous
>>21775995
>>21776020
oh well. in that case how do i become a bloomer?
1 hours later 21776090 Anonymous
>>21776084
Ask your therapist
1 hours later 21776105 Anonymous (gif.gif 500x250 941kB)
Been trying online dating for a while now. Not a bad looking dude if I do say so myself, and I do have my bright moments with opening lines....
Thing is when I start to talk to a girl and the conversation is flowing nicely, we joke with each other and well... It's online dating so I assume she must be interested.
Every time I ask the girl out I either get ghosted or get the "I don't have time right now." So I ask if she would like to bring a date that is good for her, or if shes not interested to just tell me straight on.
I never get a clear no, but a date neither. Wth am I supposed to do then?
1 hours later 21776151 Anonymous (Screenshot_20191228-083452_Photos.jpg 1600x2560 1249kB)
>>21776023
I'm the Amish guy from a few days ago. I get called cute by girls in the reals and I got called cute here last time I posted.
Just wondering how best I can work with what I've got.
1 hours later 21776155 Anonymous
>>21776105
>You’ve been talking to ego driven cunts
>you’re asking them out too early
Online dating sucks bro
I’ve only been laid on tinder less than ten times in five fucking years
1 hours later 21776176 Anonymous
>>21776084
Step 1: Be happy
1 hours later 21776178 Anonymous
>>21775928
>Short of asking a girl out directly, what other things can be used as a solid indication of interest?
Did you read the FAQ? Nothing. I’m dead serious. There are no solid indicators of interest, and frankly the level of “interest” you’re looking for isn’t what you want before asking a girl out in the first place. You want attraction plus mild interest, like “you’re an interesting guy” not “I want to date you”.
Dead serious, what you think you’re supposed to look for doesn’t exist. You need to ask girls out.
1 hours later 21776185 Anonymous
>>21775928
Like, a million things.
1 hours later 21776195 Anonymous
Women, how much do you prioritize sexual chemistry in your friendships with straight men?
2 hours later 21776220 Anonymous
>>21776195
Zero, I don’t sleep with my friends.
2 hours later 21776227 Anonymous
>>21776038
This chart represent nothing. This is part-information of data with no real meaning from one dating app. The only thing you get from this is that some people have a dating app.
2 hours later 21776228 Anonymous
Do most men want to make women puke during oral sex?
Serious question.
2 hours later 21776230 Anonymous
>>21776073
Lol "reverse Halo effect" what is this bullshit? Women don't give a fuck about those things. This is just the Halo effect: Women see an attractive man and think he has a good personality, while when they see an unattractive man they think he has a bad personality.
And anyway women's standards IRL, both physical and otherwise, are still far far higher than men's.
>equality
But we need to recognize that it's not equal. We can't discuss dating advice without acknowledging that dating is significantly easier for women than it is for men. This means that advice for women (literally just don't be fat and stop rejecting men) isn't going to work for men. These threads are often full of women claiming that dating is just as hard for women as it is for men, which is obviously not true, and that hurts the advice.
You can't give dating advice without first acknowledging that men are increasingly facing an uphill battle in dating and that women's standards are significantly higher than mens to the point where many women simply don't have realistic standards
2 hours later 21776236 Anonymous
>>21776220
But you don’t find any of them sexually attractive?
2 hours later 21776239 Anonymous
>>21776228
No just use your throat, tongue and lips
Much easier for you than us
2 hours later 21776240 Anonymous
>>21776178
>>21776185
I guess I just want some idea of what my odds would be if I was to ask her out or something...
2 hours later 21776243 Anonymous
>>21776228
>Do most men want to make women puke during oral sex?
No.
Some might like it if they can put their cock down your throat without making you gag.
2 hours later 21776244 Anonymous
>>21776240
If you don’t ask her out, your chances are zero.
If you do ask her out, your chances may be nonzero.
And by the way, when people say “ask her out” ITT and in the real world, they don’t mean confessing your feelings, asking her to be your gf, or asking her out to dinner and a movie. They mean a low-pressure coffee date so you can get to know each other better.
2 hours later 21776246 Anonymous
>>21776243
Jesus, that feels great
2 hours later 21776248 Anonymous
>>21776228
No. What’s making you puke? Forcing it in or cumming in your mouth?
2 hours later 21776251 Anonymous
>>21776244
True, I get that. Guess just like grabbing something after work would suffice.
Just don't really have experience doing this, as my ex was the one to ask me out, and we went all the way upstate and shit
2 hours later 21776256 Anonymous
>>21776251
Ah. Yeah. Don’t even worry about it bro. If she says no, you’ve saved a lot of time and trouble. This is why you’re supposed to ask the girl out before you fall in love from afar.
2 hours later 21776257 Anonymous
>>21776236
Not really, I don’t really think like that when it comes to friends.
2 hours later 21776263 Anonymous
As a girl do I have to masturbate??
2 hours later 21776265 Anonymous
>>21776263
You don’t have to, but you should. It’s healthy in moderation.
2 hours later 21776266 Anonymous
>>21776256
True, true.
The only other thing is that I did ask her out like in 2018, but she was just about to leave for college like within a couple days, nothing came of it, so I do feel weird about all this. But for some reason seems like we get along a whole lot better now.
2 hours later 21776272 Anonymous
>>21776263
Nah. It's your body, your choice.
2 hours later 21776274 Anonymous
Why do girls hate resistance training? 90% of them just go to the gym to run on the treadmill. Increasing lean body mass has like a million different positive health outcomes
2 hours later 21776278 Anonymous
>>21776266
>she was just about to leave for college like within a couple days
Ah that sucks. Don’t do that again lol. Important life lesson.
Anyway just give it a shot dude. If it doesn’t happen it doesn’t happen.
2 hours later 21776280 Anonymous
>>21776278
Part of the issue, is that, shes leaving for college again in a week or so... Shes only here for a seasonal basis
2 hours later 21776287 Anonymous
>>21776280
Lol what the heck man. I mean, meet up with the girl and hang out with her. But don’t do it expecting anything. Even if you do have sparks that shit doesn’t really work.
Stick to local girls.
2 hours later 21776293 Anonymous
>>21776287
I know. Atleast shes not too far away for school. (8-9 hrs away)
But still... I really have shitty luck with who I end up interested in.
(For some reason I fell for her much more this time around, as opposed to when she returned last summer.)
Though she does seem to be much more jokey with me, with some mutual teasing thrown in.
2 hours later 21776300 Anonymous
>>21776293
Yeah that’s just how it goes dude. Don’t sweat it.
2 hours later 21776311 Anonymous
Generally, when you are just starting to date, how frequent should the dates be?
2 hours later 21776319 Anonymous
>>21776300
Yea.... I'm honestly a bit unsure what to do...
Cause agegap, but only 4 years. (Shes 19, Im 23) and the other bits I mentioned
2 hours later 21776321 Anonymous
>>21776311
At the very beginning you can have dates on successive days, all the way to 1-2 weeks apart. It all depends on how things are going. I’ve had three dates in a weekend once, and another girl consistently wanted to go out every weekend.
2 hours later 21776322 Anonymous
If my bf is asking me to help him pick out a house to buy (we don't live together, and he moved away a few months ago for work), does that mean he may intend for me to live in it?
I wouldn't mind moving there to live with him. Infact it would make me very happy. I go visit him often.
One of the reasons I moving hasn't been brought up yet I think is because I also have a very good job where I live now and we have only been together for a little over a year now.
2 hours later 21776325 Anonymous
>>21776319
>agegap
>4 years
Okay you’re just reaching at this point dude. Do you want someone to tell you, “oh damn it won’t work sorry”? I’ll tell you that if you want.
2 hours later 21776329 Anonymous
>>21776322
Presume he just wants your input and emotional support right now. Kinda like if a guy asked you to go to court with him, it doesn’t mean he expects you to be a witness or to go to jail with him if he gets convicted.
2 hours later 21776332 Anonymous
>>21776325
I just overthink alot, and kinda try finding reasons to not take risks...
2 hours later 21776336 Anonymous
>>21776332
Well, I can tell you that behavior is a good reason not to try, because you’ll fuck it up if you don’t fix that shit.
2 hours later 21776348 Anonymous
>>21776336
I guess I need to just stop over thinking, and being self defeating....
3 hours later 21776358 Anonymous
Is it normal for females to go 6 months without wanting sex at all? I've always been low sex drive but every last inclination vanished. Sex sounds like a nightmare and masturbation sounds like a giant chore that'd go nowhere and just make me feel bad. I've read female sexuality is usually more reactive than active but I don't want to bring anyone into my life like that. I'm low energy, tired, and asocial almost all the time so I'm thinking there may be a health problem but I can't afford a doctor. Any thoughts? I've been a vegetarian for 5 years too so maybe a nutritional deficiency.
I don't miss what little sex drive I used to have but not being sexphobic or whatever at least used to compel me to go on dates which was basically my only source of socialization.
3 hours later 21776380 Anonymous
Guys, would you feel awkward about hanging out with a female coworker? Like just getting lunch or something? Would you assume if she asked you if you wanted to grab lunch it meant she likes you?
I work in a mostly male workplace and I have a couple of guys I get along with, but I seem to be mostly by myself at lunch and I hate it. I’d like to be able to ask someone to go to lunch with me or something but I don’t want to make anyone feel awkward.
Opposite sex friendships are scary and I guess I could just any advice on how to approach. Am I over thinking it?
3 hours later 21776390 Anonymous
>>21776380
you are definitely overthinking it.
first of all, having lunch at work together does not have to imply true friendshi, it just means you are getting along and have topics to chat about.
second, if you are so self conscious about these things, just try to form a lunch group with two or three other coworkers at the same time. that way you are not singling out anyone and you are making your intentions clear.
I'm a guy in a male dominated workplace too and I wouldn't even think anything out of it. Who knows, maybe we are coworkers. In that case, see you on Monday!
3 hours later 21776405 Anonymous
>>21775857
How much of an asshole would I be if I left my girlfriend who a month ago had an abortion that we both wanted? I love her a lot, but I also feel like I'm losing my mind with her (I blame her kinda for the pregnancy) and can't stand being with her anymore, but I'm also so afraid of how much it's going to affect her? Is breaking up the wrong decision?
3 hours later 21776413 Anonymous
>>21776380
being direct like that would definitely have "i like you", why don't you go to have lunch with your office peers like anyone else?
3 hours later 21776415 Anonymous
>>21776073
I had never heard this explanation before. Sounds good.
>>21776228
That's disgusting. Go puke somewhere else.
>>21776380
If you ask only one of them, wouldn't they think you're interested in them?
3 hours later 21776416 Anonymous (fbc8a84265fb060db73507b8def17bff.jpg 800x800 87kB)
>>21775857
what's the male equivalent of wearing sexy lingerie or a sexy bunny suit??
i wanna wear something sexy for my gf since she’s worn sexy stuff for me
3 hours later 21776419 Anonymous
>>21776405
>I blame her kinda for the pregnancy
dude you put it there willingly, don't just dump all the blame on her.
Be a man and be responsible for the kid.
3 hours later 21776429 Anonymous
>>21776413
Well nobody ever asks me so I think I’m going to have to do it
3 hours later 21776464 Anonymous
I suspect my boyfriend might be bipolar but he hates doctors and won't go and see one.
What are some of the behaviours of bipolar people?
How should i broach the subject with him?
4 hours later 21776477 Anonymous
>>21776228
No.
I also don't want you to just lie there unmoving though, and I'm not necessarily good at knowing how far or not far to go if I have to take control of it.
>>21776380
It's probably fine, but no guarantees. Why not ask a couple of them to go to lunch at the same time though? That way it'll be completely unambiguous.
4 hours later 21776480 Anonymous
>>21776405
Yeah, that'll happen when you kill your unborn child.
4 hours later 21776484 Anonymous
>>21776464
What makes you think that?
4 hours later 21776490 Anonymous
>>21776429
how long have you been working at that place?
don't you all have lunch at the same time?
don't you talk to anyone while doing your normal job activities?
what's your job?
4 hours later 21776503 Anonymous
Girls, I want to date you. What do I have to offer? My inexperience! :D
How is this?
4 hours later 21776508 Anonymous
Is getting subscription to a certain cam girls paid onlyfans/snap cheating? cuz they are getting the money directly rather than via porn site royalties?
4 hours later 21776522 Anonymous
>>21776508
Use thothub. It's a lovely little site where they upload a bunch of "paid exclusive" content from random girls' patreons, onlyfans, snapchats, etc. If you don't pay, it's basically just regular porn.
4 hours later 21776525 Anonymous
>>21776503
At least you have a sense of humor!
4 hours later 21776527 Anonymous
>>21776522
If I were a qt e-lady I would hide watermarks in my photos and send them to customers individually so that any leaks would be traceable
4 hours later 21776531 Anonymous
>>21776527
Sounds like you'd be asking for the Streisand effect
4 hours later 21776543 Anonymous
Girls
Is it a problem if a 31 year old /fit/ healthy, successful career man is sexually inexperienced?
4 hours later 21776550 Anonymous ((You).png 926x109 7kB)
>>21776543
4 hours later 21776551 Anonymous
There’s a girl I’ve known my whole life but I have never actually had a conversation with her. She’s the daughter of a family friend that we hardly ever see. She’s very shy and kind of distant. Keeps to herself from what I’ve been able to gather. I’ve talked to her mother recently on a few occasions and kind of know a bit about her and I want to strike up a conversation to ask her out. Question is, would adding her on social media out of the blue just to ask her out be weird? It feels like it would and I have no idea when there will be a social gathering that we’ll both be at. I don’t necessarily want to ask my mom to talk to her friend and try to set things in motion but I don’t think I have many options.
4 hours later 21776563 Anonymous
>>21776550
>fix complex
>have sex
Wow
5 hours later 21776585 Anonymous
>>21776525
Pro-tip guys: Women give absolutely zero shits about "sense of humor."
>>21776503
Fake it til you make it. Or find a fat girl, date her to gain experience, and then upgrade
5 hours later 21776615 Anonymous
>>21776585
They do care about a sense of humour. Don’t shit talk my favourite dump stat, it might not be for everyone but it has served me well.
5 hours later 21776631 Anonymous
>>21776585
>Or find a fat girl, date her to gain experience
I'm not as courageous as fitChad.
5 hours later 21776637 Anonymous
>>21776006
Been a while since I experienced this, but the closest way I can describe it is like touching a bruise. So if it's a gentle touch, it's just kinda tender but ok, but if it's like a punch, then damn boy, get fucked
5 hours later 21776652 Anonymous
>>21776016
>But it's pretty clear that I wasn't implying just a casual lunch, right?
lol, not really.
If she was engaged enough when you guys went to lunch, I'm sure things are fine. If you're too nervous to directly suggest anything more intimate, she probably is too.
5 hours later 21776653 Anonymous
>>21776151
Ur wheel's on the wrong side breh
5 hours later 21776654 Anonymous
>>21776195
Ew, what?
5 hours later 21776661 Anonymous
Ladies, is it true men don’t need to understand women to date them: just provide and listen?
5 hours later 21776673 Anonymous
>>21776661
Considering how many married men say they don't understand women, I would say that's true.
5 hours later 21776674 Anonymous
>>21776274
They think they'll turn into a roided up bodybuilder if they so much as look at a barbell. No, really. The average woman has no fucking idea how hard it is for anyone, but especially a woman, to gain muscle, and they're worried it'll happen by accident and make them look unfeminine.
It's also seen as scary and butch, and it's intimidating to pursue something like that in a public gym where people can see you, and see that you're the only woman lifting and that you have no idea what you're doing. So it's hard to take the leap.
Overall, women are inundated with so much fucking baggage and misinformation when it comes to staying trim and fit. All these stupid fad diets, exercise gimmicks, myths like spot reduction, etc. Few people in general know how simple getting fit is, but when women have so many fake options and impossible concerns floating around their heads, the truth gets lost more easily.
5 hours later 21776679 Anonymous
>>21776358
I take it you're single right now? That sounds normal within my own range of experience, as I definitely have a very much reactive sex drive. But if this is unusual for you, and based on the other things you mention, you might want to see a doctor. You could have some sort of hormonal issue/nutrient deficiency/mental health issue.
5 hours later 21776686 Anonymous
What does it mean when a girl says this
>[...]sorry I haven't been checking my msgs these past few days. I think that you are a nice guy and I need more time to understand you. If you are still interested we can [go on date previously discussed in convo].
Been on two dates already, second ended a bit awkwardly, but she wasn't completely opposed to a third and was still initiating conversation. Out of nowhere she sends a couple of cold replies then stops talking for a week, until she sent the above message.
Is she still keen or is this a polite way of saying leave me alone/i'm not interested anymore?
5 hours later 21776689 Anonymous
>>21776358
Sounds like a nutritional deficiency. Been dealing with Crohn's for years and my sex drive was always bad when I would flare. Basically my body wasn't absorbing nutrients and barely functioning. Just had surgery and now my sex drive came back in full force. TL;DR Eat a hamburger.
5 hours later 21776691 Anonymous
>>21776686
I'm guessing things fell through with whoever the first choice for her was. If she wasn't interested she probably wouldn't even bother sending that message.
5 hours later 21776693 Anonymous
>>21776686
I think if she wasn't interested, she'd have just continued ignoring you, easy enough. At the very least, if she IS uninterested, then she's doing a shit job of showing it, so you're well within reason to take her up on the offer and see what happens.
6 hours later 21776712 Anonymous
I'm a 21 yo male currently in college. I got out of my first relationship roughly half a year ago. Since then, I've been having a lot of trouble finding someone new. I'm in a major with not many girls so I am going to try to branch out and join clubs / do new activities this semester. Do any of your femanons have recommendations or just general advice? I'm looking for a gf not a hook up.
6 hours later 21776729 Anonymous
>richfag wizard didn't answer my last post ;_;
>>21775940
I thought we were bros.
>>21776689
>TL;DR Eat a hamburger
That's not healthy.
6 hours later 21776734 Anonymous
>>21776691
>>21776693
Thank you.
I'll take her up on it and see how it goes, although I have a feeling it won't go too well... new to dating ,so it's all a valuable experience at least.
6 hours later 21776747 Anonymous
>>21776686
>Is she still keen or is this a polite way of saying leave me alone/i'm not interested anymore?
She's keen but you're not/weren't her first choice.
If she were trying to "politely" tell you to leave her alone, she'd just ghost you or say she couldn't go on the date. That she's accepting the date means she wants to hang out.
That said she might still flake.
6 hours later 21776750 Anonymous (men women body standards.jpg 775x666 87kB)
>>21776274
>health
nobody cares about that. The vast majority of men who lift started lifting because they wanted to attract women. Dating is much much much easier for women than it is for men and despite what obese feminists will tell you, physical standards are much higher for men than they are for women. A woman just has to be not-obese and she's guaranteed to have a boyfriend if she wants one. So once she reaches not-obese, she stops giving a shit. But since men are held to higher standards, they take fitness more seriously.
The ironic thing is women are shooting themselves in the foot, and this is one of the reasons women age like shit. Since they never lift weights when they're young, their bodies fall apart in their 30s and they look like shit, while men's muscle keeps their bodies looking decent for much longer.
6 hours later 21776753 Anonymous
>>21776750
>IT'S NOT FAIR I WORK HARD AND WOMEN DON'T THROW THEMSELVES AT ME
shut the fuck up you fucking incel
6 hours later 21776768 Anonymous
>>21776750
>The ironic thing is women are shooting themselves in the foot, and this is one of the reasons women age like shit. Since they never lift weights when they're young, their bodies fall apart in their 30s and they look like shit, while men's muscle keeps their bodies looking decent for much longer
This part is very true.
Girls, why don't you follow Katie Crewe on Insta?
She is my ideal girl. On her Insta, she shows exercises, talks about nutrition, talks about how to be proud of your body, etc.
6 hours later 21776783 Anonymous
Since our discussion on the last thread, I'm
>lifting for myself (my health)
>eating for girls
Is it acceptable to eat for girls, bros? Or am I going to be mocked?
7 hours later 21776852 Anonymous
Ok i went on 3 dates with this girl on bumble and we made out on the third everything seems good and were still texting until a few days later she ghosts me. Should i send another text? We still follow each other on ig and we watch each others stories. I feel like a clown but maybe she didnt see it or maybe i didn't get her response? Please halp.
7 hours later 21776856 Anonymous
>>21776852
... how long has it been since you talked?
7 hours later 21776865 Anonymous
>>21776856
Since last Tuesday
7 hours later 21776866 Anonymous
I don't think my girlfriend and I are ready to move in together. However, I get the feeling if I keep holding this off or if I bluntly say it outright, it'll upset her. Maybe even upset her so much she dumps me. I'm scared to move out of my parent's house and be a real adult, and I'm scared that I'll end up stuck in a lease with her and realize I actually wasn't ready for this. I think she's ready, though...
I guess I'm asking whether or not a girl would leave you over wanting to wait?
7 hours later 21776871 Anonymous
>>21776865
that's not fucking ghosting you absolute spastic
jesus christ
talk to the damn girl if you want
7 hours later 21776875 Anonymous
>>21776508
Yeah, probably bro.
7 hours later 21776878 Anonymous
>>21776871
Well the last time i texted i asked her to go somewhere with me and she never responded. I know she has to be dating/talking to other guys. If she doesnt respond again its gonna hurt really bad.
7 hours later 21776881 Anonymous
Is it weird to ask a girl why she rejected you? After a girl rejects you should I awkwardly try to close the conversation to be polite or do I just cut the conversation right there and then?
7 hours later 21776889 Anonymous (417337_125_ss_01.jpg 615x462 18kB)
Why do women wear these? Usually the women who wear them intimidate me.
7 hours later 21776897 Anonymous
>>21776866
U got dat dere fear of commitment
7 hours later 21776901 Anonymous
There's this girl who just got out of a relationship. How long do I wait before hitting on her? I only want to fuck.
7 hours later 21776902 Anonymous
>>21776878
>If she doesnt respond again its gonna hurt really bad.
Why?
It's not like you aren't talking to other girls.
R-right anon?
7 hours later 21776904 Anonymous
>>21776881
I'm a guy who has actually asked girls why. The responses are always one of the following:
>no response at all
>Um IDK I just don't feel the spark
They never ever tell you the real reason. Because they're worried it'll either offend you, because they don't know themselves, or it'll make you think that if you fixed said reason they'll date you (which is false).
7 hours later 21776905 A girl that will break the rules
>>21776006
>What does it feel like to get hit in the cervix?
It's basically a donkey punch to the gut if you're at ramming speed. Except afterwards you're still sore and have no way to ice it, may bleed, or cramp afterward. https://www.womenshealthmag.com/hea lth/a23714720/bruised-cervix/
>>21776151
You're doing all right. Wear more american cuts of clothing because it looks like you have an ideal triangle body shape.
>>21776195
None, My fwbs are not the same as my friends.
>>21776228
There's a good majority I've experienced that massively fetishize the messy makeup and hair aheago bjs where they cum on your face and or want you to swallow. But the meaty "manly diet" makes sperm taste disgusting so spit until he grows up and eats his fruit and veggies.
>>21776416
uniform fetish/suit fetish
>>21776661
If you don't understand women then you won't know if you're treating them correctly. Communication is the foundation of all relationships.
>>21776866
Just tell her and get it off your chest.
7 hours later 21776906 Anonymous
>>21776901
Do it now while she’s angry at him and wants rebound sex.
7 hours later 21776908 Anonymous (Club_C_85_Shoes_White_AR0456_03_standard.jpg 680x348 38kB)
>>21776889
>intimidated by shit-tier sneakerlets
at least get intimidated by pic related type of girl
7 hours later 21776912 Anonymous
What does it mean when a girl calls you drunk, crying and telling you how amazing you are?
7 hours later 21776913 Anonymous
>>21776905
>But the meaty "manly diet" makes sperm taste disgusting so spit until he grows up and eats his fruit and veggies.
How about the british diet of faggots and peas, bacon and beans, fish and chips, black puddings and saveloys?
7 hours later 21776915 Anonymous
>>21776912
>girl does something meaningless when she's drunk
>he's looking for a deeper meaning
JUST not gonna make it
7 hours later 21776918 Anonymous
>>21776902
You're right. I was just crushing on her hella hard but i gotta calm down.
8 hours later 21776926 Anonymous
>>21776912
It means she’s drunk.
8 hours later 21776927 Anonymous
>>21776734
>it's all a valuable experience at least.
That's the spirit!
8 hours later 21776934 Anonymous (D2ED4BAFB3594A8DACDD37EC172F20D2.jpg 499x455 72kB)
>>21775857
Hours ago my gf of 4 years broke up with me because I explained to her that while I am committed to her, I would still find other women attractive and with me being a male I'd still have all of the other thoughts associated with finding a woman attractive. This was the straw that broke the camels back as our relationship was no where near perfect. I see it as human nature and she sees it as infidelity. Whatever. Anyways we both live together, states away from friends and family so we are all each other has. She planned to just live in her car for awhile because she hit a rough patch financially, instead of just staying in another room until she is good to go. She reluctantly agreed so my question is, how do I explain this to other women? I plan to jump right back into the swing of things but I'd rather not start off every possible relationship with a lie or a secret of this magnitude. My second question is how do I know when I'm being too honest?
8 hours later 21776939 A girl that will break the rules
>>21776913
The only veg you listed was peas, meathead. Do you even salad? At least get burgers/sandwiches with the salad on them instead of just bacon and cheese.
8 hours later 21776941 Anonymous
>>21776934
>broke up hours ago
>how do i date girls lol
you're moving too fast retard
8 hours later 21776943 Anonymous
>>21776939
beans are pretty veg-like if i'm really honest
imagine being afraid of a big strong englishman's seed
absolutely appalling
8 hours later 21776945 not op
>>21776912
recently a friend of mine texted me drunk saying that sometimes she thinks she's better off alone and some other shit about her relationship
I woke up and asked what was going on and she said "I was drunk, that's what happened", and never mentioned it again
relax anon
8 hours later 21776946 Anonymous
>>21776905
>ramming speed
Is there a way to tickle the cervix more gently then?
Or is the only solution to use positions that push you further away or don't angle it the same way?
8 hours later 21776953 Anonymous
>>21776941
I've been begging her to calm down and to let me love her for a year. If she's willing to say fuck it for the millionth time so am I. I'm not getting any younger and this dick ain't gonna suck itself so the dating game I shall play.
8 hours later 21776956 Anonymous
>>21776945
idk anon that one sounds like big "I have doubts" energy
8 hours later 21776965 Anonymous (psm.2011.09.1933_fig5.jpg 719x1417 399kB)
>>21776750
>The ironic thing is women are shooting themselves in the foot, and this is one of the reasons women age like shit. Since they never lift weights when they're young, their bodies fall apart in their 30s and they look like shit, while men's muscle keeps their bodies looking decent for much longer.
To my fellow women, don't be put off my any perceived sexism in this guy's post, because this part is very accurate (and also applies to sedentary men obviously).
Everyone should do some form of resistance training, for their own sakes as much as to attract a partner. And idk anything about Katie Crewe namedropped here >>21776768 but looking her up, she's a prime example of what lifting can do for a female physique, plus it feels fucking awesome, so get inspired. Set aside any desire to "tone" or spot-reduce, just lift, your muscles will firm up beneath your fat, everything will hold together much more pleasantly, and you'll be able to carry yourself with more confidence and grace now that your body's actually got something to hold it up.
Use it or lose it, everybody!
8 hours later 21776968 A girl that will break the rules
>>21776943
I'm pretty sure english men are safe from the ass eating trend. You guys would eat straight sulfur on a dare. Beans are legumes and Potatoes are starchy. Vary your diet. Especially with tomatoes and other water heavy veg at least twice a week.
8 hours later 21776970 Anonymous
>>21776783
What does eating for girls even mean?
8 hours later 21776972 A girl that will break the rules
>>21776946
Yeah it's called "don't let your dick go too far no matter how good you feel."
8 hours later 21776981 Anonymous
>>21776972
That sucks, getting her warm lips on my body is the best thing ever. Surely pornstars don't feel pain all the time?
8 hours later 21776988 Anonymous
>>21776866
If you're not ready now, what will it take for you to become ready? And are you willing to actually do what it takes?
Basically, you need to figure out if this a resolvable issue, or if it's a bad sign for your relationship. And if it's resolvable, you need to do whatever you can to convince her that it can and will be resolved.
You can't just wait around passively until inspiration strikes and you realise you're ready, or you risk wasting everyone's time. If that's how you feel, there's every chance that you two are just at different life stages and commitment levels, and while that doesn't necessarily have to mean the end of your relationship, it's not a great sign.
But if, for example, you need to learn how to take care of yourself before you're comfortable with the idea of moving out, so she doesn't have to deal with your learning curve, then now's the time to upskill. Take more responsibilities around the house, learn to cook, shadow your parents and learn how they keep everything together, etc. That's a solvable issue, and it's understandable that you wouldn't want to dive into the deep end of that stress and risk incurring her resentment. She'll probably appreciate your commitment to pulling your weight.
8 hours later 21776992 Anonymous
>>21776965
>And idk anything about Katie Crewe namedropped here
I'm the guy that posted her. She is good for motivation and inspiration. She is not the usual Instathot.
>>21776970
Eating a good amount of food to keep some fat and stay soft and cuddly.
8 hours later 21776999 A girl that will break the rules
>>21776981
>Surely pornstars don't feel pain all the time?
Sounds like coomerism that you probably can't tell how faked porn is and that injury is common. The moans aren't even real in some amateur clips.
8 hours later 21777007 Anonymous
>>21776901
>I only want to fuck.
Be up front about this and offer sooner rather than later. Personally, I've missed a couple of post-breakup hookup opportunities because of feeling too guilty/conflicted about getting involved with anyone while still pining for the ex, and too emotionally drained from the breakups to have the necessary conversation to avoid hurt feelings. So if it's clear upfront that you're up for just being a rebound, then everybody wins.
8 hours later 21777014 Anonymous
>>21777007
>Personally, I've missed a couple of post-breakup hookup opportunities
That's good. Don't be a whore.
8 hours later 21777026 Anonymous
>>21776999
I like 90s and 00s Pop and produce sweet cum. Do I get to be your fuckbuddy now?
8 hours later 21777035 A girl that will break the rules
>>21777026
A man that eats fruits and veggies? That's a little more rare. But I'm not quite sold.
8 hours later 21777037 Anonymous
>>21776999
Well, maybe some people enjoy it?
I hate to feel cursed over something I can't control.
8 hours later 21777042 Anonymous
>>21776988
Thank you anon.
8 hours later 21777049 Anonymous
How do you get things moving with a girl if you and her are always fucking busy?
9 hours later 21777125 Anonymous
>>21777049
You meet when you can. The girl I'm dating currently and I are really into eachother, but also extremely busy. We just make an effort, the dating is going at a slower pace but as long as you have plans it is cool.
10 hours later 21777191 Anonymous (1407726797971.png 226x166 3kB)
>Be hanging out with group of friends
>Kinda into one of the girls
>Have a slight feeling she *might* be into me based on how we interact, but not sure
>Other dude meets up with her
>Stops walking with me, always with him now
>We all go get drinks
>After she's had a few she starts getting cutesy with him
>Has been happy af the whole day
>After awhile says she needs to go to the bathroom, he tags along
>About 2 mins after she comes out looking drenched in complete despair
>Doesn't say a single word for the rest of the night, pretty sure I even saw her shaking a bit
>Before he was kind of keeping her at an arms length, but how he's got his arm around her
>Group does more shit but she's still bone silent
>Eventually gets an uber home, he doesn't even go with her
What the fuck happened that made her do such an intense 180, and I fuckin lost too didn't I?
10 hours later 21777203 Anonymous
>>21777191
Maybe did drugs and freaked out a bit
Maybe got bad news via a phone call
Maybe he got lewd with her and it went poorly
10 hours later 21777211 Anonymous
>>21777203
No drugs, only drinks. Other two are viable, but they didn't go to the bathroom alone, and 2~3 mins seems like a short amount of time.
10 hours later 21777219 Anonymous
>>21777211
Why not text her and ask?
10 hours later 21777221 Anonymous
>>21777219
I asked her to lmk when she gets home, no response yet, I can ask tomorrow
10 hours later 21777225 Anonymous
Would guys in general be put off by a late twenties virgin who masturbates regularly, but is still waiting for the right person for sex?
11 hours later 21777229 Anonymous
>>21777221
She probably isn't into you if she is letting some other guy put his arm around her, but, still nice to check on someone.
>>21777225
If I wasn't the right person in a reasonable amount of time, then yeah I'd be put off by it.
11 hours later 21777235 Anonymous
>>21777229
Yeah, probably not, I'm foolishly hoping I'm option number 2 or someshit, but life isn't a fairy tale, I'll try to check in more tomorrow cause I'm genuinely worried about her.
11 hours later 21777251 Anonymous (PepeElsa.png 858x402 330kB)
>>21777235
you are genuinely worried about if your dick is going in her vagina, don't bullshit us anon. but yeah, contact her
11 hours later 21777256 Anonymous
>>21777251
You don't know any party nearly enough to draw a conclusion like that, I also like her as a person for a multitude of reasons, someone so happy becoming this misery trodden...husk..something major for her happened.
11 hours later 21777258 A girl that will break the rules
>>21777037
Go ahead and ask yourself if you're ready to deal with someone that enjoys that kind of pain and or damage during sex.
11 hours later 21777275 Anonymous
>>21777125
That's not what I'm talking about. We message on insta and have each others number but that's it (met irl). I told we should talk on the phone sometimes but it's always "I'm too fucking tired (for both of us)".
11 hours later 21777281 Anonymous
>>21777275
Not into you. When a girl is into you, she makes time.
11 hours later 21777283 Anonymous
>>21776263
>As a girl do I have to masturbate??
You don't HAVE to, no, but it's very enjoyable and fun, and good for you. You'll also enjoy sex a lot more if you do.
11 hours later 21777285 Anonymous
>>21777258
I personally don't enjoy pain. I have had my own bad sex and I know how bad it is when it hurts. It takes me out of the mood instantly. But don't women stretch out when they are aroused to make room?
I don't know much about it, my own bad experiences sent me into celibacy as I didn't want to experience that kind of pain again. Now I know there is a cure for my thing, I want to try it again. It kinda sucks if I just end up inflicting pain on others.
All I want from sex is get girls I like to have a good time so they might like me back.
11 hours later 21777286 Anonymous
>>21776322
>does that mean he may intend for me to live in it?
If so, it seems very odd that he wouldn't have mentioned that. Assume not.
11 hours later 21777287 Anonymous
>>21777281
She just got out of a one year relationship last month and last time we talked we had a meta convo about relationships and compatibility. There's something there.
11 hours later 21777288 Anonymous
>>21777191
>>21777203
>>21777211
>>21777219
>>21777221
>>21777229
>>21777251
>>21777256
I'm also wondering how I should check in, could be a sore subject so I gotta be careful with wording
11 hours later 21777291 Anonymous
>>21776358
>Is it normal for females to go 6 months without wanting sex at all?
It's not unheard of, but it strongly suggests that there's some other bad stuff happening that you ought to address. I mean, you sound depressed. Having a low sex drive while being depressed is, I guess, normal, but that doesn't mean you should just accept being depressed.
11 hours later 21777295 Anonymous
>>21776380
>Would you assume if she asked you if you wanted to grab lunch it meant she likes you?
I would hope it meant that.
Perhaps you could ask two or three guys to join you (in the same email)? That would make it obvious it wasn't a date.
11 hours later 21777298 Anonymous
>>21777288
Hey noticed you were distraught leaving last night, you doing okay? Anything I can help with?
11 hours later 21777300 Anonymous
>>21777298
Never responded to me asking to lmk when she gets in, but fuck it I'll double text when I wake up
11 hours later 21777302 Anonymous (pepe-clown.gif 511x512 108kB)
>>21777295
>emailing a lunch invite
11 hours later 21777309 Anonymous
>>21777300
Then leave her alone after that dude.
11 hours later 21777310 Anonymous
>>21776380
If you just mean eat together at the cafeteria at your work where everyone is going, I wouldn't think much of it.
If it was on a weekend with just me, I would think she likes me.
If you want friends, I suggest approach them like a group.
This way, you signal you want company, but not from one specific person. That way, you can keep people as friends and not have it mixed up as something more.
11 hours later 21777312 Anonymous
>>21777309
Alright then, if she hasn't responded when I wake up, I'll just leave it at that.
11 hours later 21777314 Anonymous
Is it a bad idea to go for a girl who makes blunt, perverted passes at you? I'm a virgin so getting rid of that would be nice, but at the same time I don't want to catch a disease.
11 hours later 21777315 Anonymous
>>21777225
Depends a lot on the kind of guy you're going for. At that age if "waiting for the right person" also involves wanting a ltr and kids and the guy also wants that, then it probably wouldn't be off putting. If you were just in it for fucking then it'd probably be off putting.
11 hours later 21777318 Anonymous
>>21777314
Save yourself for someone you are actually into.
11 hours later 21777321 Anonymous
>>21777318
I wouldn't say I'm not into her. It's nice to feel desired. But I can't help but wonder if she acts like this towards other people.
11 hours later 21777325 Anonymous
I *might* have a chance in the close future
she's nice, girly but not dumb, artist like me (not my job but it's a hobby, we do very different things though)
she's ok physically, the only thing I somewhat care about is big boobies, and they're okay
I just don't really like her face
should I not do it out of "honesty"? should I go for it and tell her? would she feel like I'm lowering my standards? I am a wizard and I do intend on telling her, or anybody else if it came down to that, I don't wanna have to lie in a fucking relationship
also yes everybody's different, but how would you feel in this situation I guess
11 hours later 21777329 Anonymous
>>21776881
>Is it weird to ask a girl why she rejected you?
It's pointless and potentially threatening.
>After a girl rejects you should I awkwardly try to close the conversation to be polite or do I just cut the conversation right there and then?
There's certainly no harm in saying something like "Okay, no worries. Best of luck! :-) " But I wouldn't say anything more than that.
11 hours later 21777331 Anonymous
>>21777321
Hard to know. I was pretty aggressive going after my current gf, and I never did that with other women.
11 hours later 21777332 A girl that will break the rules
>>21777285
>But don't women stretch out when they are aroused to make room?
This varies from yes to no because not all women are the same. Dude, all you have to do is not hit the back. You can still fuck, it's not the end of the world if you don't graze it at all. Patience and change your masturbation techniques.
12 hours later 21777344 Anonymous
>>21776968
>You guys would eat straight sulfur on a dare.
We would not. We would spell "Sulphur" correctly for starters. And "Aluminium".
12 hours later 21777347 Anonymous
>>21775857
So there's this girl that always makes planes with me - backpack to asia, 10 days holiday to sunny location, hang out together, but she takes zero initiative in actually following up wth these plans. This leaves a total of zero plans that were actually pursued. It seems impossible to get in the same room with her. This in spite of her flirty and extraverted nature
Im abroad for a month. 2 weeks ago, she proposed to hang out. I followed up on that this week, she doesnt reply, yet starts asking what my life plans are and continious to text while Im giving passive replies.
Could she be scared? I hate correcting people their behaviour via whatsapp. How should I let her know that she didnt reply?
12 hours later 21777350 Anonymous
>>21777225
>guys in general
Yes. Your typical guy is a cumbrain who will leave if you don't give him sex--but that's not exactly a loss to filter them out quickly.
As for guys who are "waiting for the right person" (until marriage, I assume, since that's the only way to confirm), they would obviously not have a problem that you're doing the same.
One thing that would almost universally repulse men is if you had sex with some random jerkoff to "get it out of the way". I've seen that too many times to not say it, and hopefully it didn't need to be said, bu seriously, don't do that.
12 hours later 21777357 Anonymous
>>21777349
Starting to look like that.. Its weird. Im not giving her much attention. She doesnt want to talk about her own life much. Seems to be stuck in a routine of asking me about my life and making plans with no ends. It's weird.
12 hours later 21777358 Anonymous
>>21777225
yes. youre going to have sex and realize its fucking nothing and you wasted a shitton of time wasted opportunities to fuck for nothing. then youll be stuck having to pretend youre in some perfect love shit to save face because you realize if you turn into a roastie you'll just look completely fucking stupid
12 hours later 21777384 Anonymous
>>21777358
>another incel with the exact same mentality as a manwhore
Every time.
Valuing restraint and commitment isn't a "waste", you degenerate.
13 hours later 21777393 Anonymous
So I had a thing with this girl, we went out, kissed but no sex, for about 3 months till she ended it because she was going abroad to study for 6 months. She came back this December and I invited her over to my house. We made out, I sucked her tits, was great. (both our pants stayed on tho).
I left the next day on vacations for 20 days, and the only contact we've have since was me wishing her a happy new year and she responded "you too". I'm coming back this Monday and I'm unsure how to proceed.
Should I hit her up immediately, wait a couple of days? Is it bad that she hasn't contacted me since? I fucking suck at this.
13 hours later 21777394 Anonymous
>>21777225
>guys in general
>the right person
Pick your target audience.
13 hours later 21777401 Anonymous
>>21777394
Fair point, worded that poorly. I'm naturally interested in a certain guy's take on the matter, but as we haven't reached that stage yet, I tried framing my query more broadly to get a better idea how to proceed. Judging by other anons' replies though, higher chance he'd be impressed rather than appalled if I end up deeming him 'the right guy'.
13 hours later 21777402 Anonymous
>>21777384
>>another incel with the exact same mentality as a manwhore
>Every time.
you mean being programmed to behave in a way that keeps the species surviving? like pretty much every other response to the op? have fun being a cat lady telling yourself you have 'standards' and 'self worth' because you refuse to accept you wont be marrying a millionaire despite you being a lowly hair dresser barely making it at the end of the month
13 hours later 21777425 Anonymous
>>21777225
>Would guys in general be put off by a late twenties virgin who masturbates regularly, but is still waiting for the right person for sex?
Yes. Because you clearly have ludicrously, toxically high standards that absolutely no real man will ever live up to.
13 hours later 21777427 Anonymous
today I got subway and the girl said avocado costs extra but didn't charge me for it
13 hours later 21777429 Anonymous
Both sexes: did you ever manage to reconnect with an ex after a bad breakup?
13 hours later 21777432 Anonymous
>>21777402
I'm a guy, retard. Noncommittal sex is hardly what "keeps the species surviving", and the attitude it represents--a complete refusal to take responsibility for one's actions--would sooner destroy society than preserve it.
Your dismissal of any and all moral standards is repulsive. Scum like you call themselves "redpilled" on human behavior despite being the most vile, ignorant, and self-centered specimens humanity has to offer.
>>21777425
High standards are a good thing if they're for the person you commit to spend the rest of your life with. They are never 'toxic' in themselves.
The only way they can be anything but positive in context is if the person holding said standards could never hope to meet them themselves. And even there, having high standards would simply be irrelevant because others would just ignore them.
14 hours later 21777499 Anonymous
>>21777425
Your fear of "high" standards betrays you as someone not worth bothering with. Few people will meet anyone worth marrying before they're 25, some still won't before 35.
Someone being right doesn't equate to being "good enough" on one of these "objective" incel scales you guys like to pretend people judge you against. "Right" is simply a matter of mutual connection and compatibility, and it can apply to people of almost any calibre as a matter of chemistry between two individuals, whether they're stock market millionaires or gutter crack heads.
15 hours later 21777533 Anonymous
>>21777526
>the legal age here is 14
Kek what
No fucking way it’s legal for a little kid to be on Tinder even if it’s not a crime for her to have sex.
15 hours later 21777547 Anonymous
>>21777402
I like how every time an angry little bitch like this comes along, it is always the same type of "hurr durr, girls earn nothing in a shitty dead end job, men are the only ones who are successful!", making a massive assumption.
And for some reason, I wouldn't be at all surprised if you are some low life burgerflipper who barely make ends meet.
16 hours later 21777604 Anonymous
>>21777547
i was clearly projecting my own personal anecdotal observation onto anons situation. im obviously not assuming things i dont know but its pretty fucking clear that considering how much attention females get, their desire for sex (see masturbating everyday) and make it to her late 20s without finding ANYONE worth while, the usual verdict is 'youre the problem'
16 hours later 21777629 Anonymous
>>21777604
I've never seen someone so fucking mad about a woman not being a whore.
16 hours later 21777640 Anonymous
>>21775857
I've known girls that have shown genuine interest in me and I'm better looking than the average guy and have a good social life.Is there a way to make girls ask me out?
16 hours later 21777641 Anonymous
>>21777640
Kys
16 hours later 21777646 Anonymous
>>21777641
I'm no Chad and am respectful towards girls. Certainly not a " bad boy". Just wanted to know if it was possible to for girls to ask me out.
16 hours later 21777648 Anonymous
>>21777646
That depends on the girl. You don't have any power over what other people are going to do.
16 hours later 21777657 Anonymous
Women
Would you break up with someone if they had fordyce spots?
16 hours later 21777662 Anonymous
>>21777429
My ex sends a message every now and then, but i ignore them. There is no benefit to ever reconnect with an ex.
16 hours later 21777670 Anonymous
>>21777657
What the fuck are you talking about? 70-80% of people have those.
16 hours later 21777675 Anonymous
>>21777632
Anyone?
16 hours later 21777677 Anonymous
>>21777670
I’m talking about having them all over the penis shaft though
16 hours later 21777683 Anonymous
>>21777677
That's still fairly common. How fucking shallow do you think women are that they would end a relationship over skin bumps? Who hurt you?
16 hours later 21777684 Anonymous
Should i try get her attention? What's the worst that can happen? There's that girl she is so gorgeous but the only way i can start a conversation is if i get her attention
16 hours later 21777692 Anonymous
>>21777684
>Should i try get her attention?
If you want to date her, probably.
>What's the worst that can happen?
She's the leader of a Mexican drug cartel and you get skinned alive.
16 hours later 21777694 Anonymous
>>21777683
idk, different anon here but I can see a less experienced woman worrying it's an STD or something if she doesn't know what she's looking at
still, if we're talking about a relationship here, that's clarified pretty easily
16 hours later 21777697 Anonymous
>>21777692
>She's the leader of a Mexican drug cartel and you get skinned alive.
that feel when
16 hours later 21777699 Anonymous
>>21777694
There are no STDs that look like fordyce, so that'd just be pure ignorance.
17 hours later 21777708 Anonymous
>>21775857
How do you even wipe your ass with impractically long nails?
17 hours later 21777736 Anonymous
>>21777662
Fair and honest reply
I still love her and I think she's single. I'm sure I could get her back in my life if I just knew the right way to approach it
17 hours later 21777745 Anonymous
>>21777657
>>21777670
>>21777677
Holy shit so that's what I have.
I thought I fucking had herpes.
I also have them all over my dick and balls anon, so you're not alone.
17 hours later 21777753 Anonymous
>>21777745
Careful, they 'sperg out about penis questions here
17 hours later 21777756 Anonymous
>>21777753
Who's they? Incels?
17 hours later 21777758 Anonymous (1571030100314.png 312x270 81kB)
>>21777708
This is actually a solid question. I'm male, so no idea, but at home I use a bidet so no problem there for them...but at the office or something? Maybe they just have some poopie butt.
17 hours later 21777791 Anonymous
>>21777756
*Incels LARPing as females or acting as thread gatekeepers here.
17 hours later 21777797 Anonymous
>mfw richfag died of anxiety because he would meet his gf again tomorrow
Rip in pieces
Richfag pls: >>21776729
17 hours later 21777799 Anonymous
Any female opinions on >>21777667 would be appreciated
17 hours later 21777807 Anonymous
Should I put this on my dating profile? >>21776503
Getting with a girl who likes inexperience (like a few in these threads) would be nice, but the cost would be making most girls skip me right away.
17 hours later 21777811 Anonymous (1578704953696.png 1800x2885 2653kB)
>>21775857
why would any girl wear something like a bunny suit unless they were either paid or forced to?
17 hours later 21777817 Anonymous
>>21777811
Because some people present in such a way that conventional displays of sexuality are empowering.
Mostly women (of all orientations) and gay men. Straight men don't present in an overtly sexual way as much. There could be a number of reasons for that.
17 hours later 21777822 Anonymous
>>21776380
Never assume anything sexual or romantic is going to happen in a workplace. Never make advances in a workplace. This is harassment, creates a toxic environment, and is a recipe for disaster.
18 hours later 21777828 Anonymous (jjjjound-reebok-club-c-shoes.jpg 1140x1140 282kB)
>>21776908
>posting the inferior version
18 hours later 21777857 Anonymous
>>21776729
>>21777797
>>21775940
>Oh, you're that guy! I'm the one who doesn't approve you know what.
j-jizz hater, is that you?!
>One of my "little dreams" is someone rich giving me the rich people experience for 1 day. Have you ever done that? Would you?
I have never done that, I'm not really sure how I would. I mean I've paid for people to do a lot of stuff, like dinners and so forth. I'm not sure what a rich people experience day would really be like though. What's your dream rich people experience?
>>I'm also a wizard
>This makes me curious. With that much money, I'd visit brothels everyday. What is the difference between us? Is it because it is illegal where you live? Do you have low sex drive? Are you religious?
You'd visit brothels as a female? Or you mean if you were male? I never really wanted to have sex so bad that I'd pay for it. I'm far more starved of companionship. When I dream about having a girlfriend, I daydream about cuddles more than sex. The sex I do imagine, is very loving sex, not what I imagine brothel sex would be like.
I'm not religious, I'm not sure how my sex drive compares but I'd say maybe in middle?
18 hours later 21777873 Anonymous
>>21777857
>>21777797
also...
>mfw richfag died of anxiety because he would meet his gf again tomorrow
I'm hanging in there ...barely! I did shopping this morning and kinda cleaning up my place, it's pretty clean anyways but... just seeing what autism I can hide I guess. She invited me to a cocktail party so I bought a new sport coat, shirt and pants and I'm going to pick those up from Zenga today because the tailor is done with them. I guess if she doesn't like me and ditches me by that cocktail party I can always use the stuff for business meetings. :)
My place is clean but... she is going to think I'm a manchild. :/
18 hours later 21777921 Anonymous
>>21777873
So she invited you to a party of her friends you don't know or like a work thing? Explain for the middle and lower class plebs
18 hours later 21777927 Anonymous
I did it! I went on a girl and it went really well this time. People thought last time I was crazy for planning a date, but it was perfect! We walked to a cafe, talked for 2 hours, walked in the park and made out.
First kiss in over 12 years and the girl is really awesome!
Now how do I not fuck this up?
We briefly talked about the second date, but what is a second date usually?
I was thinking activity and dinner, pushing for 4-5 hours?
Please tell me if this is pushing it and things are going too fast. I don't want to be clingy. (Aim is relationship, obviously)
18 hours later 21777947 Anonymous
My GF of 1 year has some very annoying quirks that I'm legitimately worried about. She is RIDICULOUSLY regimented in terms of meal and bed times, and it's really limiting what I can do when she's over. If she does not have a full, hot meal meeting her very specific taste standards in front of her between 5:30 and 6:20pm she acts like a literal 2 year old until she either cooks something or I decide a fast food joint for us (since she cannot pick, obviously). Then she NEEDS to have some sort of sugar like chocolate or ice cream afterwards or she goes full toddler mode again. Then when it comes to bedtime, she's literally falling asleep at 8pm despite doing fucking nothing all day despite 9hrs sleep the previous night. I personally have a fucked up sleep schedule which is far from ideal, but it means that for about 5 hours a day I have to be completely quiet and then I'm woken up by her alarm at 8am the next day followed by all the banging while she makes breakfast.
Petty stuff, I know, but it's fucking killing me especially when she stays over for long periods of time. I feel like a goddamn babysitter. Anyway, I'm getting worried that this stuff (and some other quirks) are just going to make it unbearable for me if things progress and we move in together. Any thoughts? I'm starting to think we're too fundamentally different.
18 hours later 21777955 Anonymous
Ladies
Why would a girl message me back and forth for close to a month, agree to go to coffee with me and even after the coffee date she continues messaging me, then when I ask her out for dinner she outright refuses.
18 hours later 21777960 Anonymous
>>21777955
Male here, but I had a similar thing except she ghosted me. Basically, it was either fear of confrontation (ie., her saying no) or more likely in this case just her using you for attention and validation. The longer she has a guy messaging her, the more wanted she feels.
18 hours later 21777972 Anonymous
>>21777960
What perplexes me is that she agreed to coffee and we spoke after. In my eyes I always thought that this is a slam dunk situation if she's responding after the first date.
Is it wrong for me to assume that she just wants to get to know me better and that this Is her way of kind of teasing me?
19 hours later 21777977 Anonymous
>>21777921
It's like a work thing for her, I'm honestly not 100% sure the circumstances other than time and date. It sounds like a work thing I'd just be her date for.
I'm more worried about tomorrow desu.
19 hours later 21777978 Anonymous
>>21777972
To me it just sounds like she's using you for validation or is afraid of saying no to you. Trust me, she has 20 other guys after her minimum. You are probably just a little dot on her radar. I'm not saying this to be mean, but the sooner you realize this the sooner you'll stop obsessing over all the insignificant bullshit women do.
19 hours later 21778050 Anonymous
Girls, wondering if my good traits offset my bad traits?
>chubby
>socially underdeveloped
>shy
>low confidence (only in dating world)
>occasionally acts cringey
>one of the top three paid cooks in the county
>rent my own house by the beach
>pretty close to my niece and nephew
>decent to good friends with everyone at work
>pretty highly regarded/respected at work
19 hours later 21778052 Anonymous (1502126738138.png 500x539 118kB)
Is writing the alphabet with your tongue while eating a girl out a meme? What exactly am I supposed to be doing down there?
19 hours later 21778057 Anonymous
>>21778050
read the fucking FAQ
19 hours later 21778062 Anonymous
Women, are “femcels” real?
19 hours later 21778063 Anonymous
Should I stay in a relationship I'm not happy with just because I don't want to be alone? I've been with my GF for about a year and in that time I've experienced staggering benefits, with a massive increase in self confidence and social skills. I'm like a different person. The issue is I am really not liking how the relationship is going, and while she's not unbearable to be with it gets pretty exhausting and frustrating. I have no friends so her and her family are practically my only way to keep my social skills sharpened.
I've gone through long periods of isolation before, with only a couple of discord friends, and it's absolute hell that leaves you a burnt out husk who's too afraid to talk to a store clerk. I don't want to go back to that, but I also don't want to keep leading this girl on. What can I do? She likes me a lot and it's obviously having benefits for her too.
19 hours later 21778064 Anonymous
>>21778052
Just suck her clit like you want your dick sucked.
Does she spell the alphabet with her tounge on your dick?
19 hours later 21778070 Anonymous
>>21778063
Yup. Leave her.
19 hours later 21778074 Anonymous
>>21778064
Really? Suck the clit?
19 hours later 21778078 Anonymous
>>21778070
So we break up, and she's heartbroken and has her self confidence ruined, and I'm left to die alone in a room unable to get a job due to the poor social skills that you get after not having friends for years. Sounds great.
19 hours later 21778083 Anonymous
>>21778057
Yeah I don't see anything that directly says that. I'm not asking questions about my height/body
19 hours later 21778093 Anonymous
>>21778083
sorry for your blindness >>21776550
19 hours later 21778094 Anonymous
>>21778062
If with "femcels" you mean women that feel like they can't get laid and are bitter about that, sure. They are less likely to be walking stereotypes though, or to label themselves.
Inb4 women can always find someone to fuck - it's not like most incels asked out someone every day of the week hoping to get laid. It is more people's perception that it's hopeless.
19 hours later 21778096 Anonymous
>>21778094
So women believe in “dry spells”?
19 hours later 21778100 Anonymous
>>21777857
>j-jizz hater, is that you?!
No, the smoking thing.
>What's your dream rich people experience?
Going to a expensive hair salon/barber, shopping expensive clothes, renting a sports car, going to the restaurants that you frequent and other expensive activities. I'm not that poor and I value money, so I wouldn't abuse you.
>You'd visit brothels as a female?
I'm a guy. I thought calling you "bro" would be enough hint (because I don't see girls doing that, especially here).
>I never really wanted to have sex so bad that I'd pay for it
That's interesting. I always, always wanted. Being an ugly teenager didn't helped. My libido was always so high, not even the antidepressant could kill it.
>I daydream about cuddles more than sex
I daydream about both.
>The sex I do imagine, is very loving sex, not what I imagine brothel sex would be like
I've never had a gf, so I can't compare and I'd rather not corrupt you, so I won't say much about brothel sex.
>>21777873
>I guess if she doesn't like me and ditches me by that cocktail party
Don't think like that, bro. Just don't think. Occupy your mind with something else.
19 hours later 21778101 Anonymous
>>21778052
It's not quite a meme, just a tip to give to clueless guys so they can occupy themselves. Simply alternating between suckling gently, licking it, flicking with your tongue etc is best. Pretty much how you would play with a nipple if you got all creative. Simply brushing it again and again (which is doing the alphabet thing) is not as effective but will do if it's the only thing you can think of.
19 hours later 21778103 Anonymous
>>21778101
How frequently should one alternate such things?
19 hours later 21778106 Anonymous
>>21778096
What do you mean "believe in"? Dry spells can happen. And you might not have the virginity stigma (which is less of a thing for women, anyway) but other than that, the fact that you might have had sex two years ago won't offer much consolation for long term frustration.
19 hours later 21778112 Anonymous
>>21778106
I say “believe in” because some people “don’t see it that way”
19 hours later 21778115 Anonymous
>>21778103
Depends. If you try something and it is obvious that you get no response, you're going to want to move on in half a minute or less. If she LOVES what you're doing, you can keep at it longer.
There's also general pacing like with a blowjob. A good blowjob starts with show elements and pulling out all the tricks (from going deep to focusing on the head, pulling back and teasing/edging etc), but when you want the guy to come you're not going to keep doing one thing for ten seconds then another. Basically there's an orientation phase where you show all you've got, which also gives you a general idea of what she likes. By the time she's buckling into your face, you zone in on the thing she likes the most. The closer she gets the less you want to go with variety, just opting for the ones that proved most efficient on her.
There is no set rule also because every woman's time of warming up (and of getting bored) is different.
19 hours later 21778117 Anonymous
>>21778100
>>j-jizz hater, is that you?!
>No, the smoking thing.
Ah, okay, I know you now!
>>What's your dream rich people experience?
>Going to a expensive hair salon/barber, shopping expensive clothes, renting a sports car, going to the restaurants that you frequent and other expensive activities. I'm not that poor and I value money, so I wouldn't abuse you.
I guess I'd never offer that to a guy, more likely a gf. Although the girl I'm dating now is wealthy enough where she could do that on her own...
>>You'd visit brothels as a female?
>I'm a guy. I thought calling you "bro" would be enough hint (because I don't see girls doing that, especially here).
Yeah I thought by the "thing I don't approve of" you were another anon that is a girl.
>>I never really wanted to have sex so bad that I'd pay for it
>That's interesting. I always, always wanted. Being an ugly teenager didn't helped. My libido was always so high, not even the antidepressant could kill it.
I think if I ever went that route I'd do the "girlfriend experience" where they stay with you for a weekend, but I was never able to bring myself to do that. It's like 15-20k for that with a 10/10 model type.
19 hours later 21778125 Anonymous
>>21778112
Well yeah it depends on the person. If you haven't had sex in a long time because you didn't feel good about it and turned down opportunities, then it's not going to feel like a dry spell probably, or at least not with the associations of missing out. If you have really been desiring sex and missing it during that time then it can. It also depends on how self-aware the person involved is about their standards or how much effort they put in. Some women can see that they might like a boyfriend or a fun night, but they don't prioritize it and don't take steps to make it happen, so they take responsibility for it. Others in the same position feel undesirable and resentful and only focus on the few cases where it seems to fall into other people's laps (why them and not me).
19 hours later 21778127 Anonymous
>>21778062
they just arent getting asked out by the guys they like
19 hours later 21778140 Anonymous
>>21777947
i will give the tip i give to everyone
dont take a life long engagement with someone with flaws that you dont think you will be able to tolerate all your life
she is like that and you should assume she wont change, being miserable for the fear of not finding another partner is pitiful
19 hours later 21778141 Anonymous
>>21778115
Gotcha. Thanks for all the tips. One last question: What's the verdict on adding fingering into the equation? Should that be avoided unless you're quite good at it, or you have a good idea of what the girl likes?
20 hours later 21778191 Anonymous
>>21777699
Yes but how would an inexperienced woman know that
20 hours later 21778192 Anonymous
Do men ever have the same biological need to have children, outside of their impregnation fetishes?
Women have this intense urge to have them at a certain age. I get the impression this never happens to men. I do think men can want kids, but getting that intense urge? I doubt it. Weigh in.
20 hours later 21778200 Anonymous
>>21778192
you mean a paternal need of growing a kid? some do, most don't (they say they are ok with having a kid but with the same excitement that they would show if you proposed pizza for dinner - basically all of them still seem to love their children after they are born even if they will maybe be a bit tsundere about it)
20 hours later 21778206 Anonymous
>>21778192
Over the last year I've really had the urge to have and raise a kid. Problem is, I don't have a wife. But it's not like a "oh that would be cool" kind of thing. It's like a deep desire. Before then I didn't want kids at all but something in my brain just switched and now I really want to.
20 hours later 21778223 Anonymous
>>21778200
Yeah that's what I figured. It's kind of disappointing. I'd like to have children with a man who felt the same inescapable urge.
>>21778206
What do you think changed for you? How old are you? Though, I can't imagine men having biological clocks.
20 hours later 21778238 Anonymous (1413736527058.jpg 192x220 19kB)
I don't understand what I'm doing wrong.
I'm attractive and I can get laid. But I seem to fail at every aspect of creating an emotional connection with someone. I.E. getting dates.
The few times I've seem to somehow convince a girl to like me, one of two things happened: (Prefacing, I have very severe and untreated/unmedicated ADHD that I have yet to get the Adderall prescription I need for yet)
1. We hung out multiple times over a long time span, usually in a large group of friends
2. I was on a stimulant of some sort (usually Molly)
I am unsure if my ADHD is actually the root problem causing my absolute social failure. Girls seem to be interested in me for a span of a few days before making up an excuse for not wanting to talk to me anymore or getting together with someone altogether.
I have plenty of friends and don't have typical social problems (although I do have social anxiety/can be socially awkward but it's not crippiling)
Can anyone (maybe other ADHD folk) give me any insight into whats going on? It's not so much that being alone is killing me. I don't mind being alone and having unlimited free time to do as I please without the responsibility of maintaining a relationship. It's my inability to start/pursue a relationship if I wanted to that's making me feel down. I feel unlovable or undesirable for reasons I cannot pinpoint and its driving me crazy. I just want to improve in the areas I need to but you don't typically get feedback in these situations since most people don't want to just hurt your feelings
20 hours later 21778240 Anonymous
>>21778192
I don't, plenty do though.
20 hours later 21778247 Anonymous
>>21778223
beware of what you ask
another friend was really excited with having a kid and all that, then after pregnancy started he was all like "yeah it's cool but in the end it's the mom that takes care of the kid" and then he got divorced even before the kid was born
i would prefer a silent honest dedication to an emotional exciting unreliability but i guess that's men vs women
20 hours later 21778253 Anonymous
>>21778247
Sounds like he was just a shitty person anon.
20 hours later 21778256 Anonymous
>>21778247
I had the opposite happen, my gf wanted the kid so badly and I was on board, we had the kid and then she went into a huge depression and went nuts. I now have full custody and take care of him. Still happy to have him, no regrets, just wish he had a mom too.
20 hours later 21778257 Anonymous
>>21778253
he indeed is and i always hated his guts but it's a fact that many people like him and find him enjoyable, girls included
he probably isnt the only one on the planet
20 hours later 21778261 Anonymous (dustin.jpg 680x365 62kB)
>>21778256
he will be fine
20 hours later 21778266 Anonymous
>>21778223
25. I think it changed after I heard a story about a girl that was murdered by her father. It haunted me for about a good week and I was distraught and in disbelief that someone could do that. In a weird roundabout way it made me feel like having and raising a kid and give them as good of a life as I possibly could. It's really hard to explain. But I think it awoke the fatherly instinct in me.
20 hours later 21778267 Anonymous
After gym HIIT class was getting my gear at the front at same time with gym crush, we talked a bit she mentioned she lived nearby in "suburb I'm looking to buy a home in" I mentioned something about taxes being better in "adjoining area" where she said she actually lived then we were both done said by and left.
Driving home I couldn't get over how spergy that must've been like I'm trying to creep and find out where she lived or something but I didn't mean that I just am sort of interested in different neighborhoods and which would be best to buy in.
Is this salvageable? Can I still try and ask her to grab a coffee after next session? Would it be more awkward if older lady from our same class is also there next time? Why do normal guys have such an easy time with this and not over thinking it?
Captcha was pick all motorcycle and I picked a bicycle and it took it lol
20 hours later 21778272 Anonymous
>>21778267
Stop trying to read minds, just ask her out.
20 hours later 21778275 Anonymous
>>21778266
Ah yeah. I completely understand. Personally I want to have children to absolve my parents of their crimes against me and my siblings. I think that if I raise them and give them everything I never had, things will be set right. This is of course, likely to fail, and the kids will resent me, end up antinatalists and jerk off to cuck porn, but. One can dream.
20 hours later 21778284 Anonymous
>>21778275
I think as long as you do the best you can and explain to your kids why you did what you did, they won't resent you. One thing my parents did right was tell me to question everything they did and they would always give me a detailed answer. Even if I didn't agree with it. There was never "because I said so". I feel like that mentality makes kids more resentful and more likely to do destructive or dangerous things when they reach teenage years and young adulthood.
21 hours later 21778341 Anonymous
>>21777811
Because they know the guy they love/crushes on will love it
21 hours later 21778368 Anonymous
>>21778052
>Is writing the alphabet with your tongue while eating a girl out a meme?
I've done that quite a few times. It often works very well. It's a good way of getting some variety and unpredictability into what you're doing.
21 hours later 21778370 Anonymous
>>21778141
Two fingers, press down.
She will push up, so you let her.
Go slow until she tells you to speed up.
You don't need to go in and out, just go up and down. (With her lying on her back)
21 hours later 21778373 Anonymous
>>21778370
Up and down? I'm so lost.
21 hours later 21778377 Anonymous
>>21778373
Yes. She have muscles that presses up towards her klit, that's also how she get tighter with a penis. You can just start by pressing down and then letting her push up.
21 hours later 21778379 Anonymous
>>21778373
Don’t finger anyone, you’re too dumb and it’ll be embarrassing for both her and you.
21 hours later 21778383 Anonymous
>>21778192
25 here. I really want to raise a kid. Don't want it now, but am changing my view on women with that in mind though
21 hours later 21778398 Anonymous
>>21778062
>Women, are “femcels” real?
Yes and no.
If you were a straight male incel and a large unattractive man offered to fuck you up the ass, and you said no, would that mean that you were no longer an incel, because there is at least one person who wants to fuck you? Or would you say you were still an incel because there isn't anyone who wants to have sex with you that wouldn't traumatise you if you said yes?
For a woman, having sex with a man she is not attracted to is just as unpleasant as it would be for a straight man to be penetrated by an unattractive gay guy; so it's not really reasonable to count that as a sexual opportunity.
Then there's the question of does she really want a casual fuck at all, or does she only want an actual boyfriend? There are certainly any number of women who can't find men who want to *date* them, even if they could find men they're not attracted to who would be up for a casual fuck.
21 hours later 21778401 Anonymous
>>21778064
>Just suck her clit like you want your dick sucked.
You've never actually gone down on a woman, have you?
21 hours later 21778415 Anonymous
My mom wants to set me up with her coworker's daughter. Not too thrilled about it, but eh why not try it.
But I've never been on a date with someone I haven't already known for a bit. So let's say I get a number, what's the best way to approach it? Text her "Hey let's grab a coffee" or try to get to chat a little first?
21 hours later 21778422 Anonymous
>>21778377
So fingering is an up down motion, not an in and out?
21 hours later 21778447 Anonymous
>>21778422
i fear you will suck at it whatever instructions you are given
lets hope she's really into you
21 hours later 21778460 Anonymous
>>21778415
Don't chat about anything with substance. Introduce yourself and ask her how things are going. Joke around a little, maybe in a flirtatious way to show that you're excited to meet her. Ask what her plans are for the weekend. Invite her to something fun (is "a coffee" really the only low-cost social activity in your area? be creative) and see what she says.
22 hours later 21778479 Anonymous
>>21778238
Okay first of all, this is an issue that can have different causes and an ex, good friend, family member or you yourself is at the end of the day more likely to analyze what is at play in your specific case.
Having said that, the combination of you mentioning ADHD and that you are much more successful on molly, makes me wonder. When you talk to someone, how often do you feel that you are truly present and forget about your surroundings? That you are truly soaking up what they tell you and feeling what that evokes in you, rather than waiting for your turn to speak or being eager to share your first thought? Are you able to feel -in the moment-, while they're with you, that it feels good to talk and that you feel safe/heard/accepted? And if so, are you able to share that in the moment and let them know (whether through a compliment or just your actions) you appreciate them and enjoy spending time?
If these things are (very) rare for you sober, especially if it's also rare/hard with your real friends, that's something you can definitely work on. ADHD could be problematic but I'm sure that a combination of general tips (like meditation and becoming more aware of what you spend your attention on) and ADHD-related things (medication, chewing gum or other discreet tics to direct some energy to) could show an improvement.
22 hours later 21778490 Anonymous (1*FexDGxK_SsU7pwFF0hb9-Q.png 1600x900 1965kB)
>>21778373
>>21778422
It's more like a massaging motion. Have you ever used a laptop "nipple", the little round button you press down on and move with circular motions to use the cursor without a touchpad or mouse? Pic related. It's VERY much like that.
Never go in with long or jagged fingernails, cut and file that shit. Make sure your hands are washed. Take a WET finger, ideally from her own fluids, second best is lube, if there is really no other option inside at least stick it in your mouth first, then touch her clit. You should go for this after you have warmed her up (thigh kisses, more general rubbing in that area, whatever). You press down slightly on her clit, like you would the laptop button, and without moving left/right or whatever you wiggle/circle the fingertip around. You can always go harder, much better to start out too soft than too hard so be cautious when it comes to estimating how much force to use. Think of how you would touch a nipple - not like you're trying to see how deep you can push it.
Pic related, red button is what I mean.
22 hours later 21778518 Anonymous
>>21778460
Coffee is very noncommittal, which would be good in this situation, no?
I took my last first date ice skating, which went really well. But I had some things to go by when asking her out for an activity, and knew she wouldn't hate hanging out with me for a longer period of time.
22 hours later 21778524 Anonymous
>>21778422
I can't keep doing this, here. watch this
https://www.pornhub.com/view_video. php?viewkey=ph5712f4fcadf9c
22 hours later 21778594 A girl that will break the rules
>>21778050
You really need to lift more, Mario.
22 hours later 21778609 Anonymous
>>21778127
I know but I’m glad someone else said the truth
Even the most isolated woman has more social resources and opportunities than the most isolated man
22 hours later 21778615 Anonymous
>>21778415
Find out an interest of hers then plan the next date around it
22 hours later 21778618 Anonymous
>>21778524
You already did more than enough, kek
23 hours later 21778627 Anonymous
>>21778618
I was taught something similar, but I would love to hear more female perspectives on this part. The people I have met seemed to enjoy these things.
It isn't vulgar if someone was wondering, but obviously not sfw.
23 hours later 21778644 Anonymous
>>21778594
The post was for girls, you are the fat guy that larps.
23 hours later 21778669 Anonymous
>>21775857
how do i get used to the fact that i actually now have a gf who loves me?
my whole life growing up i was bullied for being "the weird kid" since i was also small and easy target. i've been called all kids of names and "jokes" played at my expense and all around everyone treating me horribly
i've been called things like "crack head" because i was really skinny and had long hair and somewhat dishevelled appearance since i was a free spirt and liked hippie culture as a kid
i've had kids throw garbage at me for fun during lunch
i've even had girls trick me into believing they liked me just to fuck with me and even have girls in hallways mutter under their breath "oh god not him" when they see me coming down the hall
i recently met and started dating the love of my life
but i still have a lot of trama and self loathing programmed into me since childhood
for example i know when she says nice things to me like "i love you" and stuff i my survival instincts make me believe it's a lie or "she’s just saying it" because i'm so used to being manipulated and i'm also afraid to touch her in an more intimate manner beyond hugs
i'm afraid to kiss her or touch her thighs or her back or her butt and she doesn’t think much of it and believes i'm just very polite and sweet but i actually do it because i still sometimes see myself as this dirty creep like people said i was and i don’t feel worthy of touching her
i'm also afraid this relationship is too good to be true and that it's gonna fall apart if i say the wrong thing and she’ll leave me and think i'm a bad person because i was one of those people that would say the wrong things and ruin everything
how do i overcome this?
23 hours later 21778681 Anonymous
>>21778267
I don't understand what was spergy and creepy about it.
I'd probably do the same thing and get frustrated about how I couldn't ask her out on such opportunity.
>>21778275
>Personally I want to have children to absolve my parents of their crimes against me and my siblings
I'm a guy who doesn't want kids and I kind of think the same thing. But I'd rather be an uncle.
23 hours later 21778685 Anonymous
Is sex better when you actually have emotional connections to someone? I've only fucked random tinder sluts but never had a girl i loved get intimate with me
23 hours later 21778690 Anonymous
>>21778685
Passion sex is best sex
23 hours later 21778691 Anonymous
>>21778685
yes
23 hours later 21778708 Anonymous
>>21778669
Im not much better than you (I've never dated, but I don't have that trauma). I'll just say some things that I would do: therapy, trust her, work on your self-esteem, occupy your mind with good things (exercising is good for these last two points), enjoy the ride.
23 hours later 21778720 Anonymous
>>21778685
I've only had sex with 2 women. One I fell for and the other I absolutely hated. The girl I loved was easily a better time and I lasted longer too.
23 hours later 21778728 Anonymous
>>21778720
>the other I absolutely hated
How and why? I think my penis would refuse.
23 hours later 21778734 Anonymous
Girls, you are scarier than the alien from the horror movies. How do you feel about this?
23 hours later 21778742 Anonymous
>>21778734
The alien bursting out of the stomach was pretty much how I experienced losing my virginity. I stayed away from girls for almost 10 years because of that.
23 hours later 21778743 Anonymous
>>21778490
>>21778524
Thanks
23 hours later 21778747 Anonymous (1545970085299.png 1102x382 367kB)
> Friend breaks up with her abusive bf, good
>She gets with another guy shes known for a while, becomes official. Seems too soon to me but her life
>Dude is acting sketchy, accidentally texts her instead of another girl etc
>Her sister catches the guy on tinder, and he swipes yes on her
>He says he's on tinder to RATE FUCKING EYEBROWS
>She oscillates between anger and denial of what it means he was doing
Anyways whatever, shes staying with him which is retarded but its still her life. Here's the problem though. It's been a few months after this and now shes trying to get him and me to be friends because she thinks we'd get along. I want fucking nothing to do with him, not just because of how he cheated but because of how god damned retarded his excuse was. I've tried to be gentle about this but she's now brought him over to my house and didn't tell me he was coming.
I'm trying to figure out a nicer way to approach this because I'm about to blow up on her regarding this but I'm also pretty sure it would just make this situation worse.
23 hours later 21778750 Anonymous
>>21778747
stop being an orbiter
23 hours later 21778754 Anonymous
>>21778750
Lovely input. The problem is she's entering my life with this shit. I've been attempting to leave her to her own devices regarding this.
23 hours later 21778756 Anonymous
>>21778754
yes, i'm sure she comes over to your house uninvited
23 hours later 21778758 Anonymous
>>21778756
She actually does? Do you not have friends that just drop by now and then?
23 hours later 21778762 Anonymous
>>21778758
no? i don't just show up to my friends' houses without having made any plans and neither do they to me
24 hours later 21778781 Anonymous
>>21778742
Didn't you almost decided to dedicate your life to religion?
24 hours later 21778789 Anonymous
>>21778781
I mean, I didn't join a monastery, I went into a university and spent my life dedicated to research.
So the modern version of that I suppose.
24 hours later 21778804 Anonymous
>>21778789
That's how Popes and great researchers are born, isn't it?
>really bad first time sex
Pope
>treated really bad by girls when teenager
Supervillain
24 hours later 21778856 Anonymous
Do men feel romantic attraction to women and form attachments to us?
What I mean:
>being curious about her as a person (her interests, past, and how her personality manifests)
>wishing to spend time together (within reason)
>her happiness makes you happy as well
>caring for her comfort not because it's annoying when she's upset, but because it hurts your feelings when she feels hurt
>wanting to hug and kiss and all that bullshit
>imagining spending the rest of your lives together since you are quite fond of her
This is how I feel towards men when I am interested in them. I excluded sexual attraction since this is not what I'm discussing, I know men feel sexual attraction to women. And boy golly do I feel it towards men.
But I am unsure men can love women like I do men.
24 hours later 21778859 Anonymous
>>21778804
I am not the pope. I am actually a mediocre software developer who manage to get a lot of funding because I applied the same thing students do in class to a different domain.
I am not special because I didn't have sex for a while because I was too young to understand what happened.
24 hours later 21778860 Anonymous
>>21778856
you have it backwards. it's women who can't feel these things and the reason why men have to hide them
24 hours later 21778870 Anonymous
>>21778856
Yeah, they do.
>>21778860
>who can't feel these things
>you can't feel the things you just described for me from the top of your head
And yes women can also feel them. Love is not gendered or psychiatry would know about that by now, regardless of edgy or insecure thoughts.
24 hours later 21778871 Anonymous
>>21778856
>Do men feel romantic attraction to women and form attachments to us?
I'm a man and I feel all of that. But I'm a dateless incel who doesn't make an effort to get a date.
What would you recommend me?
24 hours later 21778872 Anonymous
I've had this lingering feeling as of late...
before me, gf only dated either obnoxious, daddy's money douchebags or semi-famous ball players... and then she had a tragedy within her immediate family, I'm the next guy she's with
I know it's retarded, but I feel like I don't want to be with her anymore because she wouldn't have gone for me if that thing hadn't happened... or at least that's what I think
I'm not too unlike the people she's dated before, I'm tall, fairly ambitious, but no real wealth to speak of atm
24 hours later 21778878 Anonymous
>>21778856
I just met with a girl today and felt most these things.
I had a whole array of topics in mind to cover with her but we just kept talking about all sorts of different stuff so that went well. She kept texting me after the date and we already planned the next date. In the middle of the date, I just had to kiss her and she really liked that which made me happy.
As for spending my life together with her, I just met her and I think this would be premature.
I do want to spend a lot more time with her and I am not ruling it out, but I can't know that yet.
So basically all those things.
I even listened to the musics she likes just to understand her better.
I honestly don't know why I am losing myself this quickly. She is really cute.
24 hours later 21778882 Anonymous
>>21778856
In short, yes.
25 hours later 21778961 Anonymous
>>21778856
>And boy golly do I feel it towards men
Now that you got your answer. Could you post about this?
25 hours later 21779041 Anonymous
>>21778856
>being curious about her as a person (her interests, past, and how her personality manifests)
Yep.
>wishing to spend time together (within reason)
Yep. Sometimes not even within reason.
>her happiness makes you happy as well
I'm going to put this as "usually" because of some issues I had with my ex.
>caring for her comfort not because it's annoying when she's upset, but because it hurts your feelings when she feels hurt
Well, I don't know if I would say "hurts my feelings", but I think the second one is definitely closer yeah.
>wanting to hug and kiss and all that bullshit
Yeah.
>imagining spending the rest of your lives together since you are quite fond of her
I'm probably a bad example, but yes. I generally always have one foot in the future, and up until recently it was two feet. So yeah, pretty much as soon as it starts seeming like it will work out, I start incorporating her into my vision for the future. Often too early.
25 hours later 21779055 Anonymous
>>21778856
>>being curious about her as a person (her interests, past, and how her personality manifests)
Yes. I’m an autist so (assuming this is in the early stages of the relationship when we’re getting to know each other) I prefer when the attention isn’t on me for a change. Also, getting to know her own interests is helpful for me because it means I know what to do and not what to do with her
>>wishing to spend time together (within reason)
Yes, even if it isn’t spent talking, just being around each other and knowing she’s there is great
>>her happiness makes you happy as well
As long as her happiness isn’t at my expense
>>caring for her comfort not because it's annoying when she's upset, but because it hurts your feelings when she feels hurt
Not necessarily
>>wanting to hug and kiss and all that bullshit
It’s easily my favourite part of a relationship. The only problem is that whenever we hug I get a stauner and it turns into sex, even though I kind of want to just hold her in my arms for hours
>>imagining spending the rest of your lives together since you are quite fond of her
That and having kids
26 hours later 21779155 Anonymous
>>21778872
>but I feel like I don't want to be with her anymore because she wouldn't have gone for me if that thing hadn't happened...
???
I can imagine some situations in which this is an issue, like if you feel she's just dating you for the support you can provide and previous boyfriends couldn't.
But if it's really a matter of principle that she changed her priorities and that's not okay with you... then I think you should reconsider whether and/or how much this matters. Lots of guys date girls for looks or ease before realizing there's more to relationships, do you also think they are unworthy of dating someone nice because they didn't immediately have their priorities straight as young horny guys? Or do you feel they matured, wisened up and became all the better potential partners for that?
I switched the genders because you have much less of a personal investment picturing a guy vs a girl you date. You can argue that standards are different for women so judgment is different, I guess. But if you ask me (and I sure never dated, or even kissed, anyone that falls under rich boy or douche category) the best thing that can happen to someone shallow is that they become less shallow over time.
I mean, you can break up over anything you want and definitely sleep on this. But ask yourself why it is so important what exactly caused her to change. You can also look at it differently - you wouldn't have dated her either before this happened, right? If she really was the girl happily dating for status and semi-fame?
26 hours later 21779161 Anonymous
the local doctor is a cute girl my age and she smiles upon my visit every time I get checked.
Also, if I tend to be at the bar near her office, she always nods her head at me or waves, but not at any other patrons.
She knows I have tinnitus which drives me mad and makes me scowl a lot, but I feel so relaxed around her, should I ask her out or would that be weird?
26 hours later 21779214 Anonymous
>>21778856
Yeah.
Last one is a bit iffy though. I usually okay with the possibility of spending a very long time with her but never a whole lifetime.
26 hours later 21779219 Anonymous
>>21778870
women can't love like men
men are like dogs, they love unconditionally until you break their trust.
women are like cats, they like you until they find someone who feeds them better then fuck off.
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