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2019-06-12 10:58 21005236 Anonymous 2 of my friends have no jobs and like to hang out until 4+am (52908235_2140685982908436_6892385679204941824_n.jpg 720x597 24kB)
Maybe I'm trash talking anonymously to make myself feel better, fuck it, it's on my mind. One of them doesn't get up until 5pm, the other sometimes until 10-11pm. Luckily I'm on a break between job transitions, so I had no problem with it. Now I have 5 days left and it's beginning to become one. They're both 24 and the 5pm guy hasn't held a job since September. Just been spending the whole time using tinder, playing in a toxic band we all successfully convinced him to quit, and occasional private guitar lessons. To be fair he's had a DUI which limits his options. But we share a friend that works at a music store for kids, lives close enough to car pool, and it pays pretty fucking well. It would get him back on a normal sleep schedule too. I know it's all up to him to make choices, but it bugs me seeing him like this. The 11pm friend never had a job for more than a month, got his license 10 months ago, but got in a hit and run and just got back from rehab. His parents are paying for his own place free of charge a state away, and I don't think it's gonna work. Luckily these are nice guys, I've known them since high school, came back from college successful and they have no negative impact on my life. I just don't know how to hang out with them without staying up late and smoking cigarettes which I don't want to do. The long answer is to find new friends.

1 hours later 21005483 Anonymous
>the long answer is to find new friends You answered any possible question you could have been trying to ask and this thread is pointless. You said yourself they don’t have a negative influence one you. Their lives are their own to do as they please whether they become productive or stay lazy and fuck themselves over. So either make time to hang when you can if you care about them enough, or find new friends. Once you’re in your mid 20s+, that’s all you can do. You can’t expect other people to live by your schedule.

1 hours later 21005490 Anonymous
>>21005236 I'mma ask you to delet your thread and start a new one with not such a disturbing picture k thx bye

1 hours later 21005496 Anonymous
>>21005483 > So either make time to hang when you can if you care about them enough, or find new friends That's the thing, I do care about them but my life is going a different route. When I go back to work, I'll have to wake up at 7 to 8 like the rest of the world and I worry they'll think I'm flaking because I've shut them down like that in the past. The 5pm guy is mature enough to understand, it's just a bad feeling.

1 hours later 21005498 Anonymous
>>21005490 this

1 hours later 21005505 Anonymous
>>21005490 >>21005498 > I went on 4chan and now I'm feeling uncomfortable.

1 hours later 21005532 Anonymous
>>21005496 This happens to the vast majority of people. Everyone has their own life to live and trying to work everyone into that schedule on a daily basis or vice versa isn’t always practical. I get it, it’s frustrating. But it seems like you’re more frustrated about their personal situations than you are about them making time to hang out. That said, if they give you shit for “flaking” and don’t understand the freedom of the position they’re in to work things out so they can hang out when you’re free, that’s not a real reason to feel bad.

1 hours later 21005577 Anonymous
>>21005496 yeah bro but part of growing up is growing pains growing apart is natural and can really only be fixed by finding new people, some niggas are forever friends and some niggas are just friends

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