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2019-06-12 09:19 21004882 Anonymous Kids (26-the-americans-fights-scene.w700.h700 (1).jpg 700x700 87kB)
Honestly thinking of commiting fully to the single life with no kids. What are the pros and cons against having kids/family?

3 min later 21004890 Anonymous
That's what I did. A con is feeling lonely and isolated. You tend to get stuck inside your own head too much because you lack outside perspective. Pros are absolute freedom to do as you please. No obligations mean the world is your oyster!

7 min later 21004898 Anonymous (Sweet-Anita1.jpg 670x617 44kB)
>>21004882 >>21004890 what color

9 min later 21004906 Anonymous
>>21004898 ?

9 min later 21004907 Anonymous
>>21004882 Not having any obligation/more freedom would be a first benefit for the single life. I think it depends on the person which of those is more enjoyable. I had to take care of a 7 yo for a few months and it was honestly very rewarding. I really missed her after, very appreciative of whatever nice thing I did. I guess it's about feeling needed by someone. That being said, some kids are annoying as fuck, and some woman you marry can turn into a bitch. It's a gamble really.

11 min later 21004919 Anonymous (DsOo93wWoAUXWnR.jpg 900x1200 170kB)
>>21004906 what color

15 min later 21004926 Anonymous (fullretard.gif 244x150 481kB)
>>21004919 I'm sorry, I must have gone full retard because it sounds like you're asking for a color, but you've not specified of what. My eyes are brown, my hair is brown, my skin is tan, my shoes are blue, my pants are black, my shirt is black, my chair is grey, my house is white, the sky is blue, the grass is green....which are you asking about?

20 min later 21004938 Anonymous
>>21004882 I don't have kids but I am married and I can definitely say it's not worth it. It's not that it's terrible (or at least in my case it isn't) but the obligation and restrictions of it really gets to you after awhile. Every decision is always this drawn-out bullshit-fest because there's two people involved. And you'll seldom see 100% eye-to-eye. Just like witnesses to say a car accident draw very different conclusions about what happens even moments after the occurrence, so will your partner and you in any non-trivial decision. And that's in regular cases. God help you if your marriage turns bad, it can drive people literally to suicide. The reward is low and the risk is high.

34 min later 21004981 Anonymous (tenor.gif 600x494 3267kB)
>>21004926 >my skin is tan then I am fine with your choice

43 min later 21005008 Anonymous (D6B8AnNXkAAFGGT.jpg 1536x2048 344kB)
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51 min later 21005044 Anonymous
>>21004882 As someone who has been single for 5 years now, but is considering getting back in, I will say that in my early 30s, getting quality time in with my friends is a little harder than it was. A lot of people are going home to wives, girlfriends, or kids, and I'm bouncing around with people trying to go out and get drinks each night to have company, because what else do friends do? That said, a lot of my friends are also not particularly happy with having to go back to a girlfriend/wife/kid. It's exhausting in that someone else almost always comes before their wants. I'm happy that if I want to go out with buddies, or go on a trip somewhere, or even just walk out of the house at 2 PM on a Saturday to find something to do, I don't have to ask permission. I do wonder what the fuck my future is gonna be, and how sustainable this is, but meh.

1 hours later 21005112 Anonymous (24129414022_f89da8ea52_b_1.jpg 1024x683 106kB)
>>21004926 >my skin is tan >my house is white but you don't live there anymore

1 hours later 21005229 Anonymous
I got so much money and free time, never gonna give that up. Also having a gf who don’t want kids. It’s great. We have fun every day

1 hours later 21005243 Anonymous
>>21005044 I'm in my late 30s and have been single for years. I've actually got to the point where I'm wary of the thought of being in a committed relationship. I'm enjoying my freedom too much. I can do whatever the fuck I want whenever I want. Also getting hookups is so easy these days, having a gf for the sake of sex isn't even an argument.

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