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2018-12-19 02:26 20366793 Anonymous (1545133808528.jpg 429x670 27kB)
Please help me. How do I say no? How do I grow a fucking backbone and finally just say no and not worry about making everyone angry and hate me? How do I just look out for me and not worry about how my actions will effect others? How do i not worry about getting in trouble for saying no?

3 min later 20366803 Anonymous
Sometimes you have to force yourself, so next time say “no” and repeat in your head you don’t owe anything to anybody (assuming you really don’t) even if it is unpleasant.

6 min later 20366810 Anonymous
>>20366803 My supervisor is angry with me because I let coworkers dump work on me and abandon me when i need help and says im being used and walked all over, that I need to speak up for myself already.. I just can't

8 min later 20366816 Anonymous
>>20366793 Just say it. Really dare to say it. When you do you will realise how it affects people to hear. They will not hate you at all, they will actually become very apologetic, if not openly you will still see it in their body language. So many people are afraid to say no but you are forgetting how many people are afraid to hear it as well.

13 min later 20366834 Anonymous
>>20366810 This is part of being an adult and you really need to. I say this to help you but people like you really don't deserve respect. You have to understand that everyone (some more than others, sure) is hesitant to act assertively, everyone gets nervous, and no one likes saying no. Your supervisor at one point will have been confronted by a situation where he had to say no for the first time, he would have been nervous, and then he would have done it. The same may be the case for many of your co-workers. So why should they respect you it you can't manage to meet the challenges they have? They have no reason to and so they won't. You must understand that you are entirely responsible for yourself. No one is going to fix this for you. If you can't learn to say No then you are not worth anyone's time.

19 min later 20366847 Anonymous
>>20366834 I know, I don't expect to be treated with respect because I know its earned and I know that doing everyone's work and my own won't make me respected but more looked down on, "poor anon, look at the little fella he just lets everyonectell him to to their work and he /actually fucking does it/"

22 min later 20366857 Anonymous
>>20366847 Right so it's either do everyone's work and suffer the indignity of being looked down on every day or you say "No" and you have won a personal victory and taken the first of many difficult steps towards growth and improvement.

32 min later 20366891 Anonymous
>>20366857 Ill try anon, but honestly I've always been looked down on and struggled hard with standing up for myself. I have no real presence about me or assertiveness. With any luck some pushy Bitch will find me and I can just be house husband and then only have one person looking down on me constantly

1 hours later 20366959 Anonymous
Next time you're at the check out line and the cashier asks "credit?" say no and use something else instead. Then you realize that saying "no" is NO big deal desu~!

4 hours later 20367536 Anonymous (1536522397497.jpg 1440x1291 197kB)
>>20366793 If you ever get in trouble or feel scared, just remember. Crime is illegal in Sweden. What's the worst thing that can happen if you speak your mind?

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